Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part V....Still checking those knickers? Check together here :0)

[LackaDAISYcal]

New thread for knicker checkers every where

Off to catch up with and link the old thread.

mm hello. This is exactly the right place to off load. We all understand how you feel. I'll keep everything crossed for you.

I've a scan tomorrow. I'll be (fingers crossed) 6+5 so am just hoping that we can see something. I'm seeing a recurrent miscarriage specialist at the same time. The appointment was made before we caught again. Any one any tips on what sort of questions to ask? I just don't know what to expect.

Thanks ladyhelen it is very appreciated. When I had my appointment at recurrent mc clinic they asked about my history on my prev mc's, my preg and birth of my DD and then took blood for tests. All in it was about 40 mins. I would imagine your appointment would be similar. Good luck for both and keep us posted.

Thanks cece, donwbutnotout, grinningbee, missEdith. Glad to hear that I'm not way out there in terms of age! Yay!

When I had my son I was 31. Had no nuchal or bloods done back then, but would now (he was fine BTW). Was due to go for Nuchal for the one I've just lost on the 27th - still hard to see those dates in my diary. grinningbee congrats on your good Nuchal result!

Hi Everyone - am typing this from the comfort of my sofa bliisssssssssss!!!!Second day of mat leave - not really spent much time relaxing but have managed to have both sets of hair done IYSWIM - feel ready for the big push now - have packed and repacked hozzy bag(s), bought something new and essential everyday and put the car seat in the car...minipops sure to wait around til the last minute to come out so think I may have more than a little time to put my feet up (pops whispers 12 days to go )

Special big hug Hi to the ladies in the early stages - it totally sucks - but before you know it you'll be a beached whale like me complaining about swollen sausage fingers and not being able to turn over in the night without needing another wee/glass of milk

Beckle 8 MONTHS!!??!! wowowowowowowo
Was thinking about you and MrsMcJr the other day - you both got PG soon after my MC and I was sooo desperate to join you - can't believe the time has flown and here i am finally about to graduate and - me and Ronny are on a race - though as this is her third I reckon she'll sneeze and out he'll pop JOKE RONNY!!! Any advice for a virgin mum? Am TERRIFIED!!

Hi cece and Flossie hooray for you and your sticky beans - when you are in the depth of despair that is TTC you cannot imagine it will ever be you but I suppose we are proof thatit can and willhappen eventully - not much comfort when you are waiting though eh? So pleased for you both

Wheely 16 weeks YAY YAY YAY

Kate No TTC yet? - is that medical reasons or your own? DH insisted on taking a mini break from TTC after the ERPC and I swear it nearly drove us apart...though am sure he was right (don't tell him )

Right'o better get back to lying down

cece

p.s. glad to hear there are some other "perky" ladies out there - hate to break the bad news but mine have hardly grown at all (apart from the nips TMI?)- am off to breast feeding class tomoz and am thinking of whiping the (.)(.) out so they can check I'll really be able to do it - cannot see how is possible at mo!

scotlass - that's the funny thing, I hadn't been to concerned by it all. Yesterday, I was more upset realise that I hadn't appreciated just how deeply dh had been affected by ds's birth. Maybe all the lovely post natal hormones made me forget.

Dh has seen more sections than me, so he knows when things are going really wrong. Makes me sad to know that he was there watching it all whilst I was away with the fairies, and thus no use whatsoever.

Anyway, elective cs it will be this time around.

DBNO - hope things work out ok for you and the lo.

grinningbee - lovely news about your acrobatic bean. Ds just "sat" still during my scans, this lo was doing backflips. Have my next scan mid-Oct - cannot wait .

villagemum - hope you are as ok as you can be so soon after your loss. Try to stay positive and keep on trying (fingers crossed for you).

My dress for the wedding on Friday has arrived. Got a 12 cos thought would need it for my J-Lo hips and would be roomy & comfy. Tried it on and think I look like an escapee from a religious cult. Will have to see if it grows on me before Friday. Maybe it will look better with a bigger bump in a couple of months. Plus, nice shoes & accessories always improve things (was wearing my trainers to try it on ha ha ha)

Have just done my first unit for one of my uni modules, even though we haven't started back yet [swot]. Trying to get ahead of the game and keep myself organised to avoid panic setting in at a later date .

Plus, house is clean & tidy, laundry sorted, dinner in oven, dog walked. Dh will think he has come home to the wrong house .

Think all that effort deserves a nice big cup of tea. I miss coffee - still cannot stomach it though

Wow, seem to have missed that last page there.

mm - you stay right here if you want to. Rant, scream, offer/take offers of chocolates...whatever you feel you need. We are here to support each other, irrespective of what we are all going through at the moment, we have all been in a similar situation to you and understand that you need support to get through each and every day. It doesn't sound bad that you feel bleeding could bring relief. You are just looking for resolution of this awful situation. You have been going through this for so long - I would have been totally round the hatrack by now if it had been me! When is your next scan? Try to regain a more balanced outlook if you can. Just take life in managable chunks, hour by hour, day by day, whatever you can cope with. What support do you have in RL?

ladyh - good luck for your scan tomorrow.

perky - put your feet up and indulge in a little internet shopping to minimise fatigue . Good luck for the birth and am sure your (.)(.) will pass muster. Do you think we should run a book on who will be first past the post - you or ronny?

cece SO happy for you. I'll be thinking of you.

downbutnotout how sweet of you to take notice of my mad paranoia! I am sorry about the cyst as I imagine you were a bit freaked by it, but I think you have to go with the idea that they know about it and can keep an eye on it..and regular looks at the little thing will be fun in some ways?

daisyj I have only not mentioned the girl bit - and it has been 5 whole days - not the actaul preg! i am rubbish at that and told everyone immedidately, despite the fact that it was so quick after the mmc. No wories about anonymity for ME as anyone who knows me would laugh themselves silly about the very idea of me keeping a secret for 20 mins never mind 20 weeks!!

grinningbee gret news on the scan - I did a lot of laughing too and was amazed at how far it/she (hee hee!!) seemed to leap each time! Made both of us wonder how it/she feels about the...ahem..other movements I sometimes make!?

scotlass you may be right, if i was a betting woman I would not bet the farm on my keeping the GIRL secret at all. But I will try - gotta have goals!

nauseous ditto with the 'pretendng' thing, we did that too and in fact dh still doing it to an extent - I bought cotton wool today for baby (dunno what you use it for, but ple seem to get it in!!) and when I told him he made a right face. One day at a time - that's the ticket!

maz it would seem that everyone is different, I had mmc followed by one AF and then was pg again immediately, 20 weeks now and still scared but less so as time goes on (but my paranoia makes me want to rub that last bit out......)

General query - I hurt a lot. My tummy and my vagina feel bruised. is this normal? Its not unbearably uncomfortable or anything, but I am very aware of it.

Also, should I not have my free prescriptions thing by now?

Sticky thoughts to all btw.

Thanks dan and wmmc - I appreciate the kind words. The whole thing's definitely seeming a lot less scary with each day.

popsy - don't joke - I broke my waters last time by sneezing, although dd didn't exactly "pop" out

Hi! downbutnotout - hope the monitoring scans serve only to give you more time seeing your baby and to reassure you that the cyst remains small.

ladyhelen - best of luck for your scan tomorrow

Grinningbee - congrats on your scan - must be a huge relief

Ok, I know I haven't posted for a few days but I'm trying to keep my mind off things to try and stop the worry.
BUT.... Will someone please tell me to step away from google!! I think I'm 6 weeks today and was a bit reassured by that and the fact that I felt really sick today as soon as I woke up until about 3pm. Looked for some reassurance of the internet and just found loads of info saying that once pregnancy has been confirmed, most miscarriages happen between 7 and 12 weeks and symptoms may continue for a few weeks anyway!
Someone slap me!

for Cece. Good to see you here again and wishing you all the very best.

sorry about the baby's cyst DBNO; fingers crossed all is well and that it doesn't get any bigger. Could it have an impact on a natural delivery? you are sounding very positive about things though, but we are here if you need to rant/talk/worry etc.

perkypopsy; can't believe you have so little time left!

great news on the scan grinningbee

villagemum, sorry about your loss, but try not to fret about age. I'm 39 at the minute; will be 40 three months after new baby and got pregnant on first attempt .

MissE...when in Feb? I'm 40 on the 1st, but am in denial about it as I had sworn I would be back to my pulling weight before I turned 40, then found out I was pregnant again! So I will be 39 again in Feb and will do a proper 40th celebration the following year . We can commiserate celebrate together

kate...good to see you here and hope you will join the thread again soon.

MM.......try to keep that wee spark of hope alive. Thinking about you and wishing that all is well

I have taken an age to type this as I keep having to scroll up and down to see who posted what. Lack of sleep and horrible gastric reflux are making life difficult . Still, the end is in sight.....just over 7 weeks to go, Wooooohooooo. Spoke to my doula tonight as well and we are meeting up in a few weeks to go over my birth plan. she has suggested that I change hospitals as she thinks my chances of achieving my VBA2C will be better at the other maternity hospital (even though both are part of the same trust one is more "interventionist" than the other). I'm going to do some calling round tomorrow and see what's possible.

ermmmmmm I can't remember anything else.

DBNO do try not to worry bout the cyst at least you know they will be keeping an eye

lackaDaisy I am younger than you by 2 days

today was a very weird felt nausea most of the time until mid afternoon then just kept eating now feel too full and bloated yuck

must go back to being sensible tomorrow
and I miss exercise making me a tiny bit potty
off to GP in the morning

We must have a drink in the virtual bar then MissE to drown our sorrows and embrace our middle age

oh, and I was like that with DD...couldn;t face food until after lunchtime and then pigged out on anything that wasn't nailed down, before feeling ill and sick again in the evening; funny how strangely it affects you isn't it?

and talking of feeling sick....fecking gastric reflux is bothering me again. Off for some gaviscon and then bed.

Healthy and Well ladies, healthy and well

Thanks LackaDAISYcal - I'm trying to remind myself that I'm only JUST 39 and that things can still happen... I can think of nothing better for a 40th birthday present than a healthy baby.

It's now one week since I had the D&E and I can feel things healing. The idea of BDing does not seem absolutely impossible, revolting and plain out of the question forever and ever as it still did just a few days ago, maybe a hopeful sign?

Thanks LackaDAISYcal - I'm trying to remind myself that I'm only JUST 39 and that things can still happen... I can think of nothing better for a 40th birthday present than a healthy baby.

It's now one week since I had the D&E and I can feel things healing. The idea of BDing does not seem absolutely impossible, revolting and plain out of the question forever and ever as it still did just a few days ago, maybe a hopeful sign?

LackaDaisycal yep that's a date then
when are you due?

villagemum it takes time but I found keeping closeness with dh by whichever way was very helpful, he felt the losses in his way and helps to share even without verbalising it much

went to GP this morning and left really annoyed, despite the history of mc no early scan unless I pay for it
honestly the amount of things this PCT has withdrawn is scandalous

hope everything is ok

everyone id ok that is and everything too I guess

missEdith I'm sure you're right - life and a normal relationship have to go on and I'm beginning to feel more open to it (is it because of suddenly rising oestrogen levels again??)

No early scans offered in my area (Oxfordshire) either, or nuchal scans on NHS yet. An early dating scan costs £140 and it goes up from there.

villagemum we get nuchal where I am for the over 35's am booked in at Queen Charlotte's it was either that or Kingston both have the same problems so not much of a choice
the prices here are similar

I expect you are right about the hormone levels

Plus I have suddenly also broken out in spots after having had spot-free pregnancy skin!

dbno will try to avoid pepper at all costs - still have unfinished business with sofa - am sure ronny will go first - am just hoping I don't need to be induced - I hear sex is best thing but to be honest is last thing on my mind at the mo!!

daisy i also changed hozzy as my doula suggested it - Harlow has a low risk unit though I found out that is not always open as they are often short staffed (partic this time of year) and as is one to one midwife care they'd rather lkeep them on main ward where can do 3-1 bugger!!!

Off to active birth prep classes with yoga teacher ohhhmmmmmmmmm

MissE, we only get an early scan here if there has been any bleeding. It has been known for some women to slightly exaggerate any mild spotting to get in to the EPU! We can self refer though, so that makes it easier.

With DD and with this pregnancy we paid for a private scan as well. Worth the £70 if you can afford it for peace of mind.

No nuchal offered here regardless of age, but lots of info on how to get it done privately in your maternity notes . We didn't bother as we would have continued with the pregnancy regardless, and any high risk would have just worried me. I'm still a bit concerned as there is still a chance that all is not well, but we'll cross that bridge if we come to it.

My EDD is 6th November, and am booked in for a VBA2C . They want me to deliver naturally by 41 weeks or else it's a section (no trial of labour or induction), but my doula thinks I should fight that and request expectant management instead. We shall see. I've said before that the elective section at 39 weeks is looking more and more appealing.

LackaDaidycal to be fair we could pay but it is an extra on our budget, don't know of anyone with cash to spare these days.
we were also thinking of hiring a doula so less cash for that if it should ever come to that

it is weird all these things anre on my mind and yet i refuse to think of myself as properly pregnant

I know what you mean about VBAC, I had a VD with dd but she was back to back, very long very painful labour would like it to be managed differently should it happen again