Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part V....Still checking those knickers? Check together here :0)

[LackaDAISYcal]

New thread for knicker checkers every where

Off to catch up with and link the old thread.

((hugs daisy))

lacks

will you quit with the name changes

had to do my own bit of snooping...but I knew it was you!

hope all is well......and fyi, DD started teething at around 10 weeks, but it was an on/off thing and no teeth appeared until about 16 weeks iirc!

It was a year yesterday I lost my little one I thought I would be OK with it all but I found it at the front of my mind yesterday and was pulling me down.

It was my baby cousins first birthday also, I felt I shouldn't be celebrating anything and guilt started creeping in

Everyone kept asking me if I was alright but I didn't want to say anything to anyone including DP as I doubt they would understand how I was feeling so ended up bottling it all up.

Brooke is still doing great

Good luck to all with scans due and congrats to all that have had them

ILTS - anniversaries are sad and difficult especially the first but you wouldn't have Brooke if you went on to have the one you lost, and she is absolutely gorgeous!! . It doesn't mean the one you lost doesn't matter, it did and will always be in your heart, it's just that unfortunately life moves on and we have to cherish what we have. I know since both of my mc's it has made me love and cherish DD even more than before. Hope today you feel a bit better and sometimes it's ok to be sad, well for a little while anyway.
Take care

congrats divedaisy dan really ooh a girl I hope you can put your mind at rest for a few days now at least.

ilts sorry you had a tough anniversary. I hope that brooke can give you some comfort though understand nothing really makes up for the little ones we lost.

My 1st mc anniversary is coming up soon in factmy due date for this pregnancy is just a few days before really hoping to gt past that hurdle. Off to beg a doc to let me have a reassurance scan.

Just a quick hello to get this stored in my threads as I thought I had lost you guys. Hope everyone is ok. Will come back tomorrow to catch up with all the news .

aquababe I love the realism of wishing me a few days reassurance - they rest of the world thinks I am mad mad mad as I can't be positive but you guys know the deal!!

mm thinking of you today.

Ilts sorry you had a rough day, echo mmc comments tho.
Welcome divedaisy I understand your DH's feelings completely, we were both in denial to begin with cos of mmc; even now I am starting to believe it but my dh is still miles off. We have the sum total of a small free bear from Poundstretcher, and a blanket that his mum gave us, and I am 19 weeks - maily doe to his reluctance to do anything to definite!

daisyj my midwife's negative response to home birth - I am not sure why. We are between 2 hosps, 20 min drive to each, maybe she thinks thats too far? Maybe my PCT just don't like them? Thing is, I am not planning on being really really stroppy and insistent - if there is a prob then i will go to hosp. But her immediate negativitly has got my back up and want her to explain why, now. I just would have loved a 'oh what a lovely idea, lets look into it'.

Hello everyone. My computer has been broken all week!!!!!!! I was all alone.

Excellent news for you Dan. A little girl. Beautiful.

Welcome to all the new ladies. This is the perfect place to moan. We all understand just how crazy it gets.

My baby is due exactly to the day of due date of MC no 1. It is also the same day I had MC no 2. Not a great day in my house but I am taking great comfort in the learning experience and I hope it has all made me a better person and a better mother to my 2DD's and my new little baby, when it gets here that is!

Well had my scan today an it was inconclusive, ARRRRRRGGGGHHHH!!!!!!!. The midwife said the yolk had definitely grown and she thinks she may have seen a hb but could not be sure. Apparently I am difficult to scan so basically she cannot be sure, back in 10 days. DH is trying to be positive but deep down I am thinking here we go again. The minimum I can be at this stage is 7+4 so we should really be seeing something. This really is an emotional rollercoaster we are on. Trying not to be too downbeat at this point but sorry reassurance scans my backside, two scans and still no further forward.

Has anyone else had anything similar and a positive outcome? I could really do with some good news stories at the moment.

Thanks for all the thoughts they really do help.

hmmm doc agreed to reassurance scan though beginning to wonder if its a good idea.

When i asked about avoiding essential oils in moisturisers he said he didn't realise that pregnant women should avoid essential oils but that maybe it was just there wasn't any test done about it. I'm sure tests have been done on some!

Does anyone know if its just pure essential oils or those in products that are dangerous? in particular lavender, rosemary and bergamont?

ronshar strange how things turn out

Hi everyone, found you thank goodness for that!!

Really nice to catch up on everyones progress and fingers crossed there's lots of sticky beans.

sussex I'm so sorry . I really hope you come back soon.

mm1509 scans are such a double edged sword sometimes aren't they. FWIW I think it can depend on who is scanning too and where the yolk/baby are. Remember cycles can be somewhat erratic too and conception dates at this stage do influence what they can see. The difference in 10 days will be huge and should put your mind at rest. I'm not letting any negative thoughts come in here, we can try and stay positive together!

dan39 a little girl that's brill >>>>>>>

ILTS anniversaries are hard but birthdays are lovely and there will be a marvellous one to look forward to next year.

Well time seems to be going ever so slowly here. Have reached 8+5 and scan on Thursday shows a bean with sticky out bits at the arm and leg area, a developing brain and a BIG FAT HEARTBEAT!!!!!!! So am holding onto those images and willing the next 2wks away before next scan. I'm so so lucky my EPU are really taking my worries seriously and are probably absolutely sick of hearing me wail please don't let this be a 4th mc. I really can't seem to stop crying at the moment though it's terrible.

sorry your scan wasn't all it could have been mm, but try not to be despondent . I had a good HB with DD at 6 weeks, but with this baby at 6+5 there was only a teeny foetal pole. I spent the next 7 weeks till my dating scan in a state of paranoia, but all was well in the end.

Although we knew when we did the deed (Valentine's Night), the sonographer said that fertilisation might not have occured until up to five days later, and if implantation was delayed, it could make things up to 12 days out from where we had reckoned. So.....chances are that your little bean was just a bit slower off the mark

aquababe.....I found this on essential oils and pregnancy:

"Essential Oils During Pregnancy: Although opinions vary over the real dangers of some essential oils during pregnancy, most people agree that it is best to adopt a cautious approach and avoid those few oils that are considered possible risk factors. Any essential oils that is considered safe for use during pregnancy should always be diluted to half the usual strength, because the growing foetus is much more sensitive than an adult would be and also because women are much more likely to suffer dermal reactions during pregnancy than at other times. Finally, some oils, such as Clary Sage and Juniper, are emmenagogues,
which stimulate the uterus and carry a small associated risk of miscarriage. Essential oils that should be avoided in pregnancy include Ajowan, Angelica, Anise Star, Aniseed, Basil, Bay Laurel, Calamintha, Cedarwood, Celery Seed, Cinnamon leaf, Citronella, Clary Sage, Clove, Cumin, Eucalyptus, Sweet
Fennel, Hyssop, Juniper, Labdanum, Lovage, Marjoram, Myrrh, Nutmeg, Parsley, Rosewood, Snakeroot, Spanish Sage, Tarragon and White Thyme. In addition, Lavender, Peppermint, Rose and Rosemary are also best avoided during the first trimester. Parsley should not be used during menstruation"

I was told that lavender is fine, and that you would need to use it in huge quantities for it to cause any problems. considereing a lot of pregnancy creams etc have lavender in, it must be reasonably safe. If you are worried though, either don't use in the first trimester, or see if you can get advice from local herbalist/aromatherapist

Thanks Lack - it is good to hear positive stories, I think we need that right now to keep upbeat about today. The dates cannot be out any more going from when I got a BFP, actually going with the dates from my last AF we should be closer to 8+4, even the midwife today said I have to be at least 7+4.

Scotlass - How true your comments about the scans being a double edged sword.

I guess we will find out in 10 days but it feels like an absolute eternity. I think I might find myself ranting on mumsnet over the coming days so apologies to all in advance.

no apologies needed mm...rant away

crici thanks for your words. nice to know i'm amongst others that care..
LackaDAISY - I think we were on a thread together at the beginning of the year cos I recognise your name from before.. can't remember which thread - head like a sieve here!

It was the November AN thread divedaisy .

I agree with scotlass and mm - scans are a double edged sword, that's why I don't mind waiting to see me GP until 22nd. Saying that I would like to get scanned sooner just incase everything is ok... but when all's said and done, there's nothing we can do to affect the outcome of where we are... what will be will be.
I'm not overly religious, but since the death of my father-in-law in Feb, followed by the ERCP in April, I've come to accept and 'surrender' myself to gods will - and it has given me some sort of piece...

I'm keeping myself very busy. I'm director of own business. I am everything from accountant, receptionist, telephonist, tea lady, cleaner, rep, etc etc so there's plenty for me to be doing which is great to keep my mind off things... except when I burst into tears this morning over Royal Mail losing important docs (full storyon the due in May thread!!) and realised I must be pregnant and this type of stress isn't recommended. So I ate! Fab!!

I thought I'd update the list - hope it's the latest one. I copied it from dan39 from Monday.

Current Inmates

RainRain - 25th September
jennylindinha - 27th September
Splishsplosh - 28th September
Perkypopsy 29th September
Bethoo - 6th October
Ronshar - 6th October
07mumstheword - 19th October
Emmsy1-23rd October
Cricri - 1st November
LackaDAISYcal - 6th November
Smilesattheweekend - 9th November
barbareebaa - 11th November
Toratora - 8th December
Jackstini - 12 December
KD73 - 24th December
downbutnotout - 28th January
supersteph - 1st February
dan39 - 4th February
winemakesmummyclever - 23 February
Wheelybug - 13 March
Daisy J - 30 March
Ses - 12th May
divedaisy - 17th May (to be confirmed)

LackaDIASY- so glad you and your pod are growing well!! Great news. x

mm1509 the waiting is torture I know, get through one day at a time, we'll be thinking of you.

grinningbee and dan39 great news on your scans

scotlass it's all sounding good, so pleased to hear this

missedith these early days are the hardest, I also had some heavy conversations with dh at 7-8 weeks when I was convinced it would be another mc - he said he didn't think we should try again as I was just torturing myself. Cue crying+++. When scan subsequently was ok he asked me what I'd been fussing about. I think things are different for men.

things quiet here, last scan was at 9+4 when spotting, this has now settled, should be around 11 weeks now, belly getting bigger so feeling reasonably positive (whilst still keeping an eye on my knickers - and knockers). I didn't dare book in with gp until after last scan so booking scan not until I'm about 14 weeks now . It was supposed to be a week earlier but then delayed so I will be seen in "early pregnancy support clinic" . Think support pre 14 weeks would be more helpful

welcome to everyone else, sticky thoughts to all

hi all thanks for kind words yesterday

am glad some scans have been positive and promising, they can be so terribly dreadful and so fantastically good

am plodding along nearly 7wks no bleeding so far but then I have only ever bled after 7wks

was talking to friend today wondering if I can deal with a fifth miscarriage and carry on trying, in the back of mind mind I have that this is the last try but not sure yet

have not told many people in real life just my sisters and of course dh

hope everyone is holding on

Hello again everyone!

MM - really sorry to read about your scan - what a nightmare, being left in limbo like that. Still, it's not over, so I hope you can keep holding on to positive thoughts, and that the ten days pass quickly.

It is now a week since my first scan, so I'm back to full-on knicker and knocker checking! Knocker checking generally cheers me up, as usually they are miniscule, but at the moment I've almost out-grown my A-cup. Three cheers! I'd be in danger of feeling sexy if it weren't for the fact that my belly has grown even more with all the trapped wind......

Next scan is Thursday lunchtime. Timing-wise this is a potential nightmare if it has all gone wrong again - I'm flying to Germany that evening for a work away weekend, and from there fly directly to China for a 10 day business trip. Not exactly much time to fit in an ERPC.

Anyway, enough about me - I was delighted to read that some of us have had good news recently. Long may that continue, and I hope the good luck passes on to everyone else - particularly those like MissEdith in the early stages of the wait. I've discovered it is very easy to say philosophical "what will be will be" type things, but, for me at least, translating that to actually feeling it is an entirely different matter.

hello everyone,

A few new faces since I was last on here.

I am not officially joining you yet as I am feeling very cautious. The past 4 days I have had faint and very faint positives, that are quite slow to appear. Although they are appearing within the time limit of the test.

However, I am very worried as they don't seem to be getting any darker or quicker to appear. That isn't good is it?

Used a variety of tests but saving my digital one for maybe tomorrow or Monday morning.

I am 16 DPO and still getting high temps on my chart. Usually get af about DPO11.

Anyone had the same and what was the outcome please?

Hi everyone

scotlass - great scan result!

ilts - hope you are ok. I remember how I felt last year, and being pg on the "anniversary" was really difficult. Hold your little girl tightly and cherish her every day.

dan - congratulations on your little girl! The time will fly by and you'll be holding her soon enough (and hopefully my lo won't be far behind her!)

mm - sorry about the poor scan. Fingers crossed for your next one. Try and stay positive about things and rant away all you want mate - that is what we are here for!

Have got my ANC booking appt on Monday. Cue lots of prodding, blood taking and trying not to pee beforehand. Don't have a scan date yet for the 20w jobbie. Am desperate to see the lo again and will find out the sex if they can see. Dh mentioned getting a 4d scan the other night (quite out of character for him to suggest this kind of thing) and am quite tempted by it. Does anyone know of anyone who has had one? I didn't want one with ds, but I just want every little bit of info with this baby. Maybe because I didn't get anything with the mc baby last year, not even a scan pic .

On a lighter note, ordered this the other day (for yet another wedding next Friday). This morning these arrive instead. Do they realise that their target customer base consists largely of hormonal pg women?? My, they like to live dangerously! Actually, the CS assistant was very nice and I'll have my frock by Tuesday.

Better go and get showered and dressed. Ds and I have been having a lazy day as dh buggered off to Anfield mid-morning. Ds has been painting/playdoughing and I have been faffing about doing bits of housework/admin. It appears to be sunny right now, so I suppose we should get cleaned up and get playing out in the garden before it chucks it down again.

[winks] at cece lurking at the back of the room.......no advice other than I started testing about 11 DPO with this one, but didn't get a "positive" positive until about day 18, but fingers crossed for you. And a line is a line is a line...however faint! Good Luck.

Lol at the bikini bottoms wmmc......you'll look sweet wearing those and nothing else to a wedding! The dress is lovely though

wmmc, go here for your scan

tell them you know jules