Pregnancy After Miscarriage Part V....Still checking those knickers? Check together here :0)

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New thread for knicker checkers every where

Off to catch up with and link the old thread.

Hello everyone - I'm tentatively joining this thread - had a mmc in July that took a long time to resolve, had my first period post-mmc at the very end of August, and got a BFP yesterday morning!

Last time the baby stopped growing at 5-6 weeks and I started bleeding the day before my 12 week scan. I rang my EPU today and they've told me to go along at 8 weeks for a scan, so I just have to stay calm and positive till then (easier said than done!)

Will read back through the thread later & try and catch up on everyone else here. Just wanted to say hello really

Welcome kitty and aniyan this is the thread to offload all the worries, fears and just general moans and groans. Like I said to sparky we have all been there so feel free rant away when needed. xx

ses dreams really are bizarre at times when you are pregnant. Had some similar ones myself, in fact very similar last night. I guess the general paranoia carries on 24/7 and never lets up.

Had my scan yestreday and it was great - it was doing a dance and the sonographer confirmed it is a GIRL bu showing me her bum in great detail - how exciting is that!!!

So there I am hugging this lovel;y secret (my dh laughed at me too when I said I would find out and not tell anyone) when he announced that he thought we should tell people as to do otherwise would be lying - what a tw*t. Excuse language - but honestly! My whole motivation for finding out was cos HE wanted to know, I NEVER would have otherwise, and now he has swopped it round and has this stupid 'not lying' thing - he is the kind of man who really would tell you if your bum looked good in this - not an endearing trait.

So I told him all my reasons for not wanting him to tell - ie that its lovely to have a secret/its no-one else's business(except you lot who don't really exist (in the nicest sense of course)/people will go all 'pink stuff' and I hate that/I would not have found out if I had known he would then feel compelled to tell all. He said he would take my comments under advisement and get back to me. And I am not kidding...

HAH. Wanker. He was getting all fruity this morning and I gave him short shrift I can tell you!

ANYWAY the scan was ok in terms of arms, legs etc...BUT i have a low lying placenta so they will scan at 34 weeks (thats weeks and weeks away!!!) to see if its moved. the worst scenario is that it won't and I will have to have a section. But theres lots of chances it will move before then, so I don't mind. I don't think I really mind how it comes out to be honest?

Welcome to Kitty, Sparky and Anian - you are very welcome this is THE place to be for early/middle/late fears and anxieties!! Feel very free to stress and worry and panic be it founded or not!! I can't quite get my head around being at this stage as I feel like I was you lot just a few weeks ago - I am 21 weeks now but still as mad as a stick.
Welcome anyone esle I have forgotten too...and that you all for your good wishes re my scan too.

bum looked BIG, I meant bum looked BIG...

mm and scotlass good luck for tomoro, will be thinking of you. (...as opposed to obesssing about stupid husband...)

Also dbno shrinky thoughts to your bean...your consultant is a wanker too - does she amybe know my husband??

hello everyone - not posted again for a while.

Just wanted to say to all the newbies... I know so well how you are all feeling - I am now sitting here with due date tomorrow and can't believe it as my last 3 pregnancies ended in m/c. It feels like it has taken forever to get here, and I am sure I won't really believe it
is all ok until I meet the healthy little baba.

I just wanted to send positive vibes and proof that (even after recurrent) it can happen to all those in the early stages, even though it doesn't seem like it sometimes. Try to stay positive and relaxed!! . I am sure being less stressed and more relaxed and yoga etc has helped me immensly.

Hi Pops and Ronny and the other 'nearly there's' - no nothing yet..... i guess I might have another 11 days until they decide to induce, and could happen at any time before then. Pops you are so right about feeling overdue before you are due! I felt like that from about week 37!! Now actually at week 40. Still expecting someone to beat me to the punch

dan lovely news!! Oh I wish I knew what flavour we are getting guess i won't have too long to wait......

dan great news it's a girl congratulations. Your post made me laugh, exactly what I need just now anything to keep the smile on our faces. Try not to worry too much about the low lying placenta, who knows maybe lo will get the easy way to come out.

rainrain exciting times and you are an example of where we all want to be. You are an inspiration for us and good luck when little baba arrives (whatever flavour)

Ses and Sparky - can I second that about symptoms ? mine have really come and gone ? at first it terrified me, too, and now I?m used to it. I was also scared to have an early scan, but my mum gently persuaded me and I really think it was worth it (obviously, because my outcome is positive so far, but I still think the uncertainty can make you go batty). Ses - I had a big bleed dream at 9 weeks and then walked past an ambulance in the morning and had a huge mc flashback. I ended up arriving at work, going to the loo, literally hallucinating that I was spotting and having a second scan that same day as I had freaked myself out so much. I am NOT normally that neurotic, but this business makes you so, so vulnerable. It?s totally understandable and everyone here understands.

Kittywake - oh, hon, I know just how you feel, your dates are practically the same as mine ? mmc March and now 13+4. Wishing all the very best for your scan and sending you lots of good thoughts.

Aniyan - hello ? you?re in the right place. Big congratulations on your BFP ? just try to remember that this time isn?t the same as last time ? hard I know, but it?s the advice everyone gave me, and it has helped.

dan - pmsl ? I know you?re cross, but your posts were very funny . Good news that all is well, and that they will be monitoring the placenta situation.

mm and scotlass - thinking of you for tomorrow. xx

rainrain - really touched by your post. So happy for you, and looking forward to seeing the birth announcement ? hope you don?t have to wait too much longer.

I ordered a doppler today so I can feed my neuroses have some reassurance. I've told DH he's to hide it and only let me have it once a week - I can imagine a twice-a-day habit developing if I'm not careful

Thanks guys for all the good wishes.

daisy I have had a hired doppler from about your stage - just a warning - the hired ones (if you are getting them) are not as strong as the ones they have at surgery so try not to freak out if you can't hear anything sometimes (especially in the earlier stages). I had a few of those wobbly moments, but all was fine.... it has been really great esp. when you start feeling movement and then the baby decides to have a sleep marathon!!!

I still have mine actually.... must send it back

Thanks for the advice rainrain - the one I've ordered is recommended by other MNers and has pretty good reviews on Amazon, but I will remind myself that it's not that high tech and try not to get paranoid if I can't hear anything (as if) . I'm trying to go with my instinct that all is OK, anyway. I've been having another bout of feeling belly stretching and boobs growing this week, so feeling pretty positive . It's a constant test of willpower to push bad thoughts to the back of your mind and let the good ones thrive...

xx to everyone.

daisyj - thank you. I found your post reassuring. I feel like an emotional wreck!

Also not helped by the fact that we're trying to move house. Should have exchanged contracts 2 weeks ago and be moving this Friday but still not exchanged and hoping to move next Thurs. Solicitors have found another piece of paperwork for us to sign and get back to them today though!

rainrain - good to hear your story too All the best for the coming days and weeks.

Thank you everyone...glad I'm not the only mad one out here (currently thrilled by the fact I'm freezing and my nips are v sore in the cold - TMI? )

Dan am so pleased about your scan news and I have been laughing at your DH's antics

Good luck for all the scans tomorrow.

mm, cricri and scotlass good luck for tomorrow.

dan - thanks for making me smile!

Welcome sparky, kitty and aniyan and hope it all went well today kitty. These early days are very very hard but you can share all your deepest darkest paranoias with us ? I can guarantee we were/are just the same! Like rainrain said so beautifully, it can work out no matter how bad things seem. I have had 3 mcs too and while this pg has not exactly been a smooth ride I still believe that there will be a beautiful (if not ?perfect?) baby at the end of it. Hugs to all.

Hi all - thanks for the warm welcome . Quick message as have to get ds off to bed - he still wants a story and a cuddle at the ripe old age of nearly 9 (which is fine by me!)

My pregnancy with ds was completely worry-free, and when we finally got round to trying again I got pregnant so quickly that the mmc was a real shock - I'd just assumed it would all be fine again.

This time around, I have once again got pregnant pretty much on the first attempt, so I'm concentrating on the positives - we have ds, I seem to get pregnant at the drop of a hat - I just have to assume this one will stick and try not to fret too much.

It's great to read everyone else's stories, especially as everyone's at such different stages - it's so heartening to see posts from people about to have their babies - hopefully that will be the rest of us some time soon too

Oops - was meant to be a short post

Welcome to all the newbies.

Dan why don't you get around the whole not-lying problem by openly telling people that you do know what the sex is but you aren't going to share it. You're not lying so DH will be happy. You're not telling anyone what it is so you will be happy.

Hi everyone, nice to see the new people coming in and all the nearlies and in betweenies!

Paranoia and worry is definitely allowed on here. Aniyan I?ve a 9yr old too and have been slightly taken aback at how hard having another problem free pg would be, hopefully this is the time for us. ses and sparky the symptom spotting and knicker checking are knackering ? as if we?re not exhausted enough in the first trimester anyway.

rainrain you?re my inspiration, if only you knew what a boost you gave me. I feel like if there was no reason for past 3 pg?s ending then there?s no reason for this one not to as well. It?s really good to hear that there is hope and a 4th pregnancy can be successful. Good luck with your delivery and gorgeous baby.

dan39 you made me laugh!!! Have you and DH decided what to do about telling/not telling. FWIW I think if you find keeping secrets hard it will kill you to have to say yes we know but am not telling. It?s technically not lying to say you don?t know what you?re having cos it?s not 100% accurate and people do not need to know you?ve been getting so well acquainted with your DD?s bum at this point. Tell your DH if he was going to go through labour then he could have the casting vote, otherwise it belongs to you

mm can we hold hands?? I?m absolutely petrified of tomorrow but need to know. Have been having weird period type sensations all day and knicker checked about 30 times. Good luck tomorrow my love, positive thoughts!

daisyj happy dopplering! I think I?d end up carrying it around in my handbag and having a fly listen evertime I got a chance to be on my own.

good luck tomorrow mm , scotlass and cricri - keep us posted

have reached the food as porn stage of pg - have been drooling over illustrated delia cookbooks (but too hungry to wait to cook any of it hence stuffed pasta and kfc)

scotlass it's hard typing with one hand when we are holding hands together. Good luck tomorrow my scan is at 10:00 so I'll let you all know how we get on. Keep us posted.

Thanks for all the messages and thoughts everyone they really do help and stop us from feeling alone. I guess tomorrow we will finally get some answers. xx

cricri just remembered you have your scan tomorrow as well, do you want to hold hands also. Good luck and let us know how you get on.xx

Good luck mm and cricri too. Mine's at 1.30pm but have a hectic morning at work first so at least that might take my mind off things

Good luck today girls. I shall be thinking of you.
I remember so very clearly that horrible feeling of waiting to go in for scan. Especially if you have had bad news at scans before!
Congrats Dan. As the proud mother of 2 DD's I would like to say what dream they are
I would like to reinforce what Rainrain said. I am at 38+4. I had two MC'S last year and I never ever thought I would get through it all. The trauma is the easily the worst thing I have had to go through in my whole life.
Every time I go to the loo I inspect my knickers. That is over a year of looking and trying to work out what it could mean. Now I am looking for spotting/a show/excess liquid. It never stops.
I had some spotting at the weekend and I immediately was transported back to the beginning of the year when I was mad as a sack of cats. Not that I am any better now mind you.
Sorry got a bit carried away there. What I want to say is that it can happen for you all. It may take a while for the fear to settle but it does and life gets a little easier. Take every day as a new day and it soon passes. Before you know it you will be rolling out of bed in the morning moaning you feel like a whale

Good luck with those having scans today...

Scotlass, I felt exactly the same as you with this PG. There was no reason for my previous pg's to end, so I thought no reason for the next one to go the same way. But we all have to remember that there is no reason why it cannot work out either! Especially if they cannot find a medical reason for previous losses.

Anyway, waiting to hear how it went for you three today.

And please all of you send positive labour vibes my way - actually any labour vibes will do - I am getting v.v.v.v.v.v impatient now watching my due date sail past me

Can I join? I found out I'm pregnant yesterday, very unexpectedly, and I'm a complete mess.

I've got two children and have also had two miscarriages, one at 14 weeks & one at 15 weeks. This was my first cycle since my last miscarriage so I don't really know when I ovulated or how far along I am, maybe 4 and a half or 5 weeks?

I just went to the loo and found lots of blood & honestly thought my heart was going to stop. After having a (gentle) poke around I found it was actually a pile but omg the fear.

After the last mc they put me on aspirin which makes it more likely that I'll bleed.

I have no idea how I'm going to stay sane, I'm also worried because my tests aren't as dark as they were with my last pregnancy. It seems like such a long way until I'm past the date of my last miscarriage or even until my doctor will see me - 6 weeks.

Hi joyfuleyes - just wanted to say hello.

My experiences are different from yours but I am also newly pregnant almost immediately after a miscarriage, and am all over the place in my head. I'm also new to this thread (joined yesterday).

I think we've found a thread full of people who know all about heart-stopping moments and can hopefully offer each other some support

Have to get back to work now, but didn't want to leave you without a 'hello and welcome' message