All New, Sparkly Fab and 40 + : Mums, Mums to Be or TTC. Come say Hi !

[jeanjeannie]

Hello all - well, this is our third message board..so it's a popular topic.

If you're a fab forty something then please come and say Hi!

The thread lives in pregnancy as that's where it started....but it's certainly no longer confined to just being about pregnancy. It's for anyone whose a gorgeous 40 something. So get a cuppa, bring some biscuits - or cake - and have a chat x

is it nearly 5 o'clock already?? where has the day gone? I got a lie in this morning as my lovely DH took both boys down stairs to play with them as I snoozed.

thanks for all your lovely support on the weight, Oliver was weighed this morning and he has put a little bit on so we are going in the right direction almost back to the 0.4th centile line, so hopefully we can get back on the graph soon . The BF group was good very supportive, there seemed to be 2 sorts of babies, the sleepy slow weight gain ones and the enthusiastic scoffers who were causing huge nipple pain.
JW i am very impressed by you being at the shops by 9am sorry there was nothing of the right size. just think of all the money you have saved
Mrsb did you have a good night out? any hangovers???
ladymac sounds like your HV is taking a special interest in Elizabeth, It sounds like she is eating well, she is probably just running it all off. Ben never seemed to have any weight on him until he was over 3 and only just recently (5yr) is bulking up a bit. The problem is that if you get them into over eating rather than being in touch with r=there appetites you will be pressured to have them on a diet as they get older!!!!
JJ hope your decorating goes quicker than ours, we are nearly there but it seems to have taken months and months.

Oh no! More HV scaremongering! These people should be outlawed. Honestly ladymac as if you haven't got enough to be worried about at the mo.

Your diary is going to be ending up like mine; full of hospital appointments at this rate.

I've had a day out today of sorts. I went to see DS1's new apartment with DS2 and DSS. We'd given him a spare pc we had knocking around the house but it wouldn't connect to the t'interweb so we managed to sort it out after a trip to PC World. DSS had a whale of a time on DS1's PS3....only trouble is he's now wanting one

Anyway, DH spent most of the day just him and K so I had a bit of a break and he had some qualidee time.

hedgepig lucky you having extra time in bed and wonderful OH to boot! And well done Oliver putting weight on. It's good news methinks

afternoon all

am hungover, but not as hungover as OH and sis! Restaurant was fab -fantastic food and not too expensive. Best of all wee Darragh behaved well with his grandparents and even better he slept till 6am!

Hope you are all having a good Sunday

Oh mrsb you're back in the real world now then! Hmm hangover. Remember those very well unfortunately, which is why I don't drink at all and haven't done so for a long time now. Glad to hear that the food was fab and best of all, Darragh behaved himself! It's win-win all round. Fancy him knowing that mummy and daddy needed more sleep!

Nothing much doing here just the usual of cleaning, washing, feeding etc. mrsb bet you're glad you weren't around this morning at 5am when I picking up dog turds off the kitchen floor or even better at 7am when I had my arm up to the elbow in the nappy bucket........sorry, hope I'm not making you feel queasy.....

Dunno where everyone else is this weekend. Obviously they have a life unlike myself. Well ladies, I'm hoping that whatever you're doing is fab!

Think I'll have a break and go and read Sunday Times. I may be a while...........

aye jw I have come to feel, in my old age, that a day spent mouldering on the sofa with a hangover is a terrible waste of a day. Having not had one for a year it feels even more unpleasant..

gosh its been quiet in here today.

Gack mrsb. I feel ya pain hun

Early night and hot bath etc. You'll be reet in the morning if Darragh continues his excellent sleeping pattern!

I'm suffering Star Wars (Empire Strikes Back) for the nth time. DSS loves all things Star Wars so we have to endure him watching over...and over...and over again. Not even the whole film ..he fast forwards, then rewinds to the bits he likes. It's part of his Aspergers we think so can't really be too hard on him....but interspersed with football matches

Wonder if JJ is buried under VAT receipts and is crying for help like Jeff Goldblum in the fly (help me, help me)? Not seen her all day which is ominous.

Think I'll go and buy a few things and cheer mesen up.

Evening all. Sorry - I've been conspicuous by my absense. The lack of sleep actually got to me....first time ever Slept a lot today and then had to entertain DPs father....and I lost it with him Well, he's a character and usually I can deal with him but today I was in no mood for his arrogant, intellectual, misoginist, racist Serbian wit and charm Calm down dear...it's only a FIL [Michael Winner style emoticon]

So - what's been happening? Gosh - mrsB a hangover....how marvellous! Good for you old bean...I'm crushingly jealous

johnworf LOL@at nappy buckets and dog turds. I can't beat that - but I can say that at around 5am (obviously I was up!) that the cat was wretching up a glorious fur ball and sick for me outside the bedroom door.

hedgpig good news about the weight gain HArd to say but think we all sometimes need to trust our instincts and I think LOs rarely starve themselves....they just take a while to adjust.

ladymac sounds like you've got loads on your plate. Hope you didn't let the window cleaner in while still in your baby doll nightie and fluffy mules I'm sure Elizabeth is one of life's lean machines....I do worry about all this one-size-fits-all kind of mentality that seems to be happening with our children. When and what they should be saying - how much they weigh...etc, etc. I feel the balance is being tipped into hysteria at times; you've only got to look at some threads on MN......scare you witless!!

tee glad to hear the hair looks good. Mine is falling out in handfuls....not a good look!

JW not under a pile of reciepts but clearing all the stuff out has been tense and shouty, shouty!! Still, should be finished by end of week....horrah!! Hope you bought some nice things and BTW I've never seen any of the Star Wars films.....

I think I'm new here! Hi, everyone! I've just had THAT conversation with DH - as in ...no period for 2 months...(was putting it down to early menompause as the AFs have been a bit scatty) but getting periody pain feelings - but no period, which exactly what i had with first PG. So over dinner I 've told him that I would be doing a PG test tomorrow and what were his thoughts.....

Bit nervous as i am 40, he is 51 and we had no intention of any more after dd who is nearly 5. But he was excellent - said, though it wouldn't be ideal, we would just get on with it....Phewwww....In fact he went so far to say that IF I was, he wouldn't want me to NOT have it.....

So tommorrw is the day! Wish me luck! I'm really not sure what I want the result to be!

Welcome portofinopumpkin!!

According to most of the ladies here, 40 is a mere babe! At least that was what they told me when I said I would be 40 when my first was born!

Good luck tomorrow, whatever the result is!

Portofino fingers, toes and legs (?) crossed for you dear. Hoping it's a BFP then you can join our fatty club. OOps wait...we've already had our babies

Anyway, let us know how you get on tomorrow. OOOH it's exciting

Glad to see you're alive and well JJ Was beginning to worry as to your whereabouts. LOL@FiL getting a blasting. He sounds like a character created by Harry Enfield. Not a good mix when you're dying on your feet and have LO's to look after as well. I'm sure he'll get over it.

Haha@furball! Yeah, it's all beer and skittles for us two isn't it? If the kids aren't barfing and crapping then the animals step in and keep us on our toes.

I take it by the time the nursery is finished, Iris' vocabulary will have expanded...but not for the better

Very shocked you've never seen any of the Star Wars films. But then again I've never seen Titanic and have no intentions of doing so......I know the ending anyway

Oh, and btw, my hair is everywhere too. I found a hand full on K's cot sheet this morning....it's not nice. DH is disappointed if there isn't at least one hair in his dinner now. He's so used to it.

And don't even get me started on the plug hole

I'm expecting to wake up a la Gail Porter very soon.

OOooooooo......portofinopumpkin HOW EXCITING!!

40...MMmmm, yes, a mere babe! I'd only just met DP at 40....and now, 2.5 years later we've got 2 under 2

Do let us know...fingers crossed eh and see you later! BTW - are you the same Portofino that is a friend of Kaz? If so - HELLO! If not.....Hello anyway

2 under 2? I am amazed at your stamina! On one level I would LOVE to have another baby. From a practical point of view I just worry. Money is one thing, but hey. Health and the risks at my advanced age are another. Plus I've been really stressed at work and have been drinking a lot - not factoring in pregnancy - which worries me a lot.

I don't worry about dd as I think she would be made up - and if the new kitten is anything to go by, would be positively helpful - we're past the really jealous age....

portofino LOL @the kitten reference! My DD1 is only just realising she's got a sister...she's been too absorbed with our cat!

I think the risks associated are definately overplayed. OK - they're there - but I really wouldn't worry about them. I reckon any problems you'd encounter would be unrelated to age; risks that come as standard - just by being preggie!

If you are preggie - you'll be cock-a-hoop and then, like everyone (whatever their age) you'll be stressing over all the various milestones....it comes with the territory Don't forget to let us know.

I will! If I go to the pharmacy in the morning not sure if I'll just have to do IT there and then or wait til I get home. The last time, we were having a weekend in Pisa with friends. I was on a secondment in Dublin and hadn't been home in the meantime.

I put all my strange symptons down to the stress of being away from home. So i actually discovered I was PG in the Campo di Miracoli in Pisa (Miracle Square if you need a translation). We still laugh about it now. Not sure I will laughing quite so much this time.....

Is there something in the water with influx of newly preggie ladies? If so, I shan't be partaking.

Wow JJ I've just been trying to work out when you got pregnant with Iris and you can't have been with OH very long. I though me and DH were quick! (6 months bought a house together, married at 14 months, DD after 2 years - although did M/C after 6 months together).

Any news yet?????

Morning. SLEEP news!! Verity woke once at 2am for a quick feed then not till 6.30....way hay...and only then because she'd sh*t herself....all through the grobag and onto the bed! Me is tres refreshed!

jw it wasn't long....at all Met on Aug bank hols - moved in with DP in Jan - M/C in the March - preggie in April Next one 18 mnths later! Tee hee....trollope!

portofino you let us know and if it's shock and you're not laughing - we'll laugh for you Sounds like your surroundings won't be as glamorous as Pisa..!

Gorgeous day - half term though so loads of stuff not on for the kiddies...pah. Am contemplating the park or the farm....MMMmmm, *rubs chin quizzically.

Half term here as well but K isn't arsed what day it is as long as milk is plentiful and her backside is clean...talking of which, well done Verity!!!! Obviously now Darragh and K are sleeping through she had to get in on the act. I bet mummy is very happy today

JJ well I though we were quick movers (actually I didn't really but everyone else had to comment at the time that they thought it was pretty quick), but you beat me hands down. I guess you're a bit like me, you don't do things by halves

I wonder if mrsb was the same as us??

FYI portofino my surroundings when I found out I was up the duff weren't as glamorous as Pisa by any means.....unless Tesco toilets really are glam and I didn't know

JJ good news about Verity! How old is she?

I don't know, JW, Tesco might be glam. {hwink]

I myself slept like crap, total crap. Need a desperate wee at about 3am. Then couldn't get back to sleep. But here I am at work, due to looming deadline on Friday!

I think we should petition the government that Maternity leave should start the second you get a BFP, at your full pay, and end when the kid goes to University. Whose with me?!?!?

Hi All! Conspicuous by my absence yet again. I have had the cold from hell and of course Alex got it too (in fact was quite poorly with it) Dh was way in Germany all week and my Mum came to look after us (as in...she came to look after Alex while I tried to soldier on and look after her too!)I've only managed to scan this page quickly but Hi Portofinopumpkin, you are but a spring chicken,(I was 43 when I had my first, Alex,13 months ago)I hope the test gives the result you hope for today. I'm envious of those who are sleeping through...Alex, despite the sleep solution documents etc, has never achieved that mile stone, but there again, nor did I until I was about 4 according to my Mum. This week being particularly bad I have been whinging a lot but I was clearing out my computer desk top this morning and came across this poem (probably filtched from here in the first place) and thought I'd share it;

Mother

Mother, oh Mother, come shake out your cloth
empty the dustpan, poison the moth,
hang out the washing and butter the bread,
sew on a button and make up a bed.

Where is the mother whose house is so shocking?
She's up in the nursery, blissfully rocking.

Oh, I've grown shiftless as Little Boy Blue
(lullaby, rockabye, lullaby loo).
Dishes are waiting and bills are past due
(pat-a-cake, darling, and peek, peekaboo).

The shopping's not done and there's nothing for stew
and out in the yard there's a hullabaloo
but I'm playing Kanga and this is my Roo.
Look! Aren't her eyes the most wonderful hue?
(lullaby, rockaby, lullaby loo).

The cleaning and scrubbing will wait till tomorrow,
for children grow up, as I've learned to my sorrow.
So quiet down, cobwebs. Dust go to sleep.
I'm rocking my baby and babies don't keep.

**

It reminded me that these sleepless nights I have been whinging about wont last forever, that rocking him in my arms to sleep is a priviledge he wont allow me only too soon and a few more bags under my eyes is a small price to pay.
At the moment I'm sat watching him sleep...he's been up since 6.00 (after 11.30, 1.30 & 4.30 wake ups)and was due a nap anyway but he has been climbing on his indoor seesaw(standing in the middle of it going "look Mum no hands!")and after umpteen warnings and being put back on terra firma, the inevitable fall happened, so now I'm watching like a hawk to make sure the nap remains natural and isnt induced by concussion[rolling eyed emoticon]
Off to read through and catch up with you chatty ladies.

Floria welcome dear. Nice to see you around. Alex sounds like he's at the stage for a crash helmet. Seriously, I got my youngest son (who is now 17) one as he was always falling over and always seemed to have an egg sized lump on his forehead. I hasten to add this was some time ago and he's grown out of it now!

Lovely poem and so true. Just wish I could drop all this work and spend it with K. I guess as she's sleeping she won't miss me there anyway

Hope you and Alex are feeling better very soon.

xxxx

well now jw me and OH weren't quick at all. Started five or six years ago as a very casual thing (as he was at the time 23 and I was 35).The casual thing got less and less casual as time passed and we ended up moving in together a couple of years ago.
Last year as I was 39 I said to him that if he was going to want a baby we might as well get moving he said yes please and I fell pg at the very first attempt. Lost that one and after a couple of months had another attempt when I again fell pg on the first attempt.

I'm afraid that the scurrilous rumours about Darragh sleeping through are entirely unfounded - he was awake last night at 1am, 4am and 6am - worse than ever! I had to have a lie in today to get over it.

Mind you he smiles more easily every day now and yesterday when I was leaning down chatting to him and he was smiling back he reached his two arms up to me. I know it wasn't a conscious act but it was very sweet
SoI think I will forgive him

Awwww how can you be cross with him when he's giving you lovely smiles all the time? You can't. Simple as that. And here was me thinking that he was being a good boy and sleeping through..I wonder if Darragh and Verity are taking turns ??

Blimey, your OH is young isn't he? Lucky you. Thinking of trading my DH in as he's over the hill now and I'm in need of a sporty model Does he have a friend/brother/nice uncle?

JW Sorry I didnt intend making you feel guilty about doing the work that is necessary. About the crash helmet, you are so right...I think it is an excellent idea..lol at the idea of you still forcing your 17yr old to wear one! Alex is now bashing the life out of a ball and hammer toy so I dont think he is in the least bit concussed anymore (I'm developing a banging headache though)...ohh, incidentally, the cake your dh brought you last tTues (see, I am trying to catch up, honest) didnt happen to come from somewhere rhyming with Flattery did it?[seriously drooling emoticon required]

he does indeed jw he has a younger bro who just very recently found himself single - I shall make enquiries

I know he is v young and I do question the wisdom of it sometimes but the way I look at it is that there are no guarantees in any relationship and if it were to end at some point because of the age gap I would have had several years of a very happy relationship and a beautiful little boy which I reckon is more than lots of people ever get