Anybody pregnant after miscarriage before 1st AF??

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Hi All

Well I'm 7 + 2. Only had my ERPC 10 weeks ago. I had no clue I was pregnant until last Wednesday. I went to the doctor fearing that something wasn't right after ERPC, been having pain and a test still showed positive. She took bloods which revealed that I pregnant, but she put me straight to hospital regarding the pain (thinking it was eptopic). I got put for a scan and got the shock of my life when they said that I was pregnant again and that I was 6+2. Now the thing was, I felt I was being really responsible after the ERPC. I did NOT have unprotected sex (always used condoms), I had my first period 6 weeks after the ERPC, which was infact not a period and I bled two weeks ago for one day only. Last week my Hcg levels were 10,000. Thinking I may have bled due to all the crap my body had been through. I've been so worried that I've fallen pregnant too quickly and its all going to happen over again. Thankfully the hospital have been great and are taking me for another scan a week today to see if they can detect a heartbeat, but obviously I'm not hopeful. I've had constant really strong period pains and every website I go on says that you should defininitely wait for at least one period before falling pregnant. I feel that if I lose this one, I've set myself up for a fall. Obviously the condom burst on us, but I had no idea, we've hardly ever used these as I had always been on the pill. I guess I just wanted to know if this has happend to anybody else and if they managed to get a baby at the end of it.
Tracey
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@Mammacooks Well that’s good you had a negative on 8th Dec! Hopefully our cycles are sorting themselves out!

I thought I was 12 weeks when I found out. I have just got back (yesterday) from travelling for the last 4 months so the pregnancy was actually an accident, but we were both very happy and excited. We are 30 and 31 and had planned to start trying anyway once we’d got back to the UK. We had an early scan at 8 weeks when we were in India and the baby measured 6+4, but they hardly even said hello to me, let alone told me what anything meant. They did point out a heartbeat to me on the screen so I just thought everything was fine and the baby was just measuring a bit small or I had got my dates wrong. I now know that there was probably something wrong at that stage, because at the 12 week scan there was no heartbeat and the baby only measured around 8-9 weeks, so I had a missed miscarriage. It was the most horrendous experience, lying down on the bed expecting to see my baby for the first time...to just see a still image and be told there was no heartbeat. I was also in Vietnam at the time which made it all the more stressful.

You’re right. We do have to remember it is very common and we were just unlucky. I know of so many women who have had one or two miscarriages (either before or after their first child) and then still gone on to have a healthy baby. I’m like you- trying to be relaxed but don’t think I ever will be again until I’m pregnant again. And even then I’ll probably be a wreck until it’s born healthy! Fingers crossed for us both and sending lots of luck to you 💫💫💫 xxxx

@MilsCookie goodness poor you having to go through that when you were travelling. Missed miscarriage is just so cruel and unfair.
But good news that you conceived quickly? We were the same both times so I’m praying that it bodes well for future conception! And happens quickly.
Are you attempting to track ovulation at all? I never have but have bought the clear blue digital ovulation kits and have started using them in a bid to attempt to track my cycle though I also know that it probably will be hard to track properly until I get a period. But also hoping that they might be at least a bit reliable as I got a BFN a while ago now and I know that they can pick up the pregnancy hormone x

@Mammacooks that’s great that you conceived quickly both times!!
I have always tracked my cycle using an app and we used this method of contraception for about a year and it always worked! (Until September when it didn’t 🙈) but during that cycle we had been trekking in the Himalayas and I’ve since read that being at high altitude (we got up to 4700m!) can affect/alter your cycles. So I think I may have ovulated later than I thought, which is when we had gone back to having unprotected sex and hence how I got pregnant. I have never tracked ovulation but I usually know roughly when because of changes in my body (egg white cm and I can often feel a twinge around the time it happens). I have considered getting the OPKs but I’m worried it will make me even more obsessed and paranoid than I already am haha. We have pretty regular sex so I’m hoping that if we just crack on without any protection and dtd at least every other day then it should be ok? If I go a few months without anything happening then I might start to try to pinpoint exactly when I ovulate.

My DP is like “just relax and it will happen!” - its so much easier for them to say when it’s not their body!! 🙄 xx

@MilsCookie sounds like a good plan. I’m also going to attempt to do the same and be as relaxed as you can be in this situation. Let’s hope we both manage to conceive again quickly 🤞 as I probably won’t be so relaxed in a few months time!
My husband is the same but I do just think it’s a very different thing when it’s your body and we also constantly have it on or mind waiting for ovulation/AF/BFP etc. Keep me posted!x

@Mammacooks yes fingers crossed for us both! 🤞 enjoy Christmas and new year and let me know how you get on! 💕 xxx

Hi @Mammacooks and @MilsCookie

I should be 9.4 weeks but had a scan yesterday that measured the baby as 8 weeks and no heartbeat. I am now have light brown spotting (sorry TMI) and my OH and I are devastatingly heartbroken. This was my first pregnancy. I know one thing for sure, I want to try again immediately.
Can I follow along with you both TTC again? just think it might help if we are going through this together?

@Lisamarie0905 I’m so sorry to hear you are also going through it. It is very unfair.
Yes, do follow along. Fingers crossed for BFP for us all soon at the 2020 is our year. Sending you love and strength!

@Mammacooks thank you so much. Yes fingers crossed for us all for 2020.
How are you feeling?

@Lisamarie0905
Physically absolutely fine and emotionally up and down! I’m 4weeks from ERPC and 6weeks from failed medical management so now just waiting for a period (or preferably BFP though not getting my hopes up). This limbo bit is quite hard as you have no idea where in your cycle you are! Hope you’re taking it v easy.

@Mammacooks
That’s the bit I’m dreading is the cycle limbo. Keeping my fingers crossed for your BFP soon!
Yeah I’ve got my feet up and my OH and Mum are taking care of me. Just crying lots but trying to stay positive and accept this wasn’t meant to be. Mother Nature can be so cruel sometimes ay?
When do you think you’ll test again if AF doesn’t show up?

Firstly, sorry to hear what you have been though and congrats!

I conceived straight after a miscarriage and I am currently 34 weeks pregnant. I didn't need any medical management so I used the first day of bleeding as day 1.

Wishing you luck for your next scan. Don't worry x

Hi @kimadey

Ah thanks for your story, that fills me with hope! Hopefully I’ll be back on this thread several months down the line with a success story 🤞 x

@kimadey congratulations! How exciting for you. Do you mind me asking did your next cycle after your MC go back to normal? Ie. Ovulation at the same time? Can you remember when you tested?
@Lisamarie0905 I’m glad you’re being looked after. It does get easier but is just so difficult to come to terms with. The lack of control is hard! So I have been using some OPKs which indicated I ovulated about 9 days ago but I’m not sure how reliable they are. I have done a test since but it’s negative but hoping it’s just too early if I am pregnant. Goodness knows! If I’m not I would very much just like my period back so I can get on track.

@Lisamarie0905 I really hope so. Keep us posted x

@Mammacooks thank you! Yes I was testing. I ovulated on day 11 that month. Usuallly before that it was day 10/11 so normal for me. I only have 26 day cycles so I tended to ovulate a few days after finishing my periods.
Good luck with your TTC journey x

@Mammacooks
I’m sure it’s just too early. With this pregnancy I tested on 10dpo and got a BFN and then tested at 13dpo and got my BFP. Wait a few more days and fingers crossed you’ll get a BFP!
Silver lining is that you are getting negatives so when you get your BFP you’ll know for sure that it’s a new pregnancy! I’ll think positive thoughts...Keep us posted xx

@kimadey thank you, I certainly will! X

@lisamarie0905 I really do hope so! But after all this I just can’t imagine it. I’m trying to be positive as both times previously I have got pregnant quickly but also never properly tracked my cycles so not so sure... the waiting is hell! Just want to fast forward.
I hope you can rest up for a while and then you will have your BFN I’m sure and when you feel ready can start again. X

Hey @Lisamarie0905 I am so, so sorry for what you’re currently going though. Mc is just horrible. You just feel totally heartbroken and lost. I’m feeling okay on the whole now but it was a rather traumatic week when I found out and then ended up having an ERPC after failed medical management.

@kimadey congrats on your pregnancy- not long for you to go now! Sending lots of luck for a healthy birth 💫 xxx

I have set up a thread over on the conception board: ‘TTC after miscarriage- January 2020’ - there are some really lovely ladies on there so anyone would be welcome to come and join! 😘

@MilsCookie thank you so much, that means a lot. I have a heart condition so have a high risk pregnancy.

Sorry to hear about your previous experience and please keep us updated on how you are getting along! I wish you all the very best ❤️

@kimadey it sounds like you’re doing really well! But must have been an anxious time being pregnant, really hope you have a good support network around you. Have you had to have more regular scans and check ups? How is everything looking at the moment? Xx p.s. thank you!!

@MilsCookie thank you. Yes, I am under joint cardiac and obstetrics high risk clinic in London. I have had growth scans to check baby's weight and a scan on baby's heart too. I see them every month. Now I am seeing them every two weeks. I have a very supportive partner and family which I am so grateful for.
At first they said I may only get to 34 weeks but here I am. I am OK up to now, thanks for asking. Xx

@kimadey that sounds like they’re being very thorough and making sure you and baby are well looked after and safe. I’m so pleased you have a supportive partner and family as I imagine there have been some worrying times. But it’s great to hear you’re both doing well! Fingers crossed you get to full term 🤞 but even if you don’t, you are in the right hands and they will know what to do if he/she decides to come a little bit early! Take care 💕 xxx

@MilsCookie thank you so much!

Please keep me updated on your progress, sending you lots of positive thoughts x

This is such an old thread! I’ve just read through it all and am wondering how you ladies are doing now? I’m cd 21 if you count mc as day 1. No idea of this counts as the 2ww