Due December 2026 🎅🏼

[Ncl31]

Hello,
Ive just found out I’m pregnant and due December.
i was on a group like this in my last pregnancy and everyone was so supportive of eachother. If anyone else would like to join please do.
i know it’s very early days… I’m 3W6D

Meant extreme exhaustion since before finding out 😂

Hi there, I found out I’m pregnant like couple of days ago.. last period was 15th march so I’m around 7/8 weeks pregnant.. currently suffering with hypermensis it’s so bad .. I have 3 daughters .. so this is my 4th child… not to sure but on my app it saying due 20th of December

Can I check in too? I’ve been avoiding it because like others I’ve had losses and when I was last pregnant (successfully!) I was too anxious even to look at the group! But I see many of you here are feeling the same so I’d love to join. If all is well in there I’m 7 weeks 5 days, so due mid Dec, and I already have a two year old. Had some bleeding and cramps so had an early scan and on the ultra sexy pessaries again - anyone else?

Feeling queasy and really annoyingly the back of my pelvis is already hurting if I sit “wrong”. Are there any exercises or anything that help with that?

This is how I felt in terms of feeling sick I had it for weeks not knowing I was pregnant urghhh

Booking appt for me too tomorrow, hope everyone else's goes OK...i remember there being a LOT of questions last time.

Spent the day moving from bed, to sofa, to bed. The nausea/retching is awful, would love to just feel the relief of being sick!

So sorry for anyone experiencing HG, don't know how you get through the day!

I can relate to how your feeling I also suffer with hypermensis and it’s takes over, literally mentally I can’t hack it, it’s literally not only a physical thing it also affect you mentally so I totally understand.. I actually have to focus myself up out of bed to take of my kids but even then it’s so so hard, water doesn’t want to stay in my system…

Literally same! Didn’t want to jinx it by joining a group but it’s better to have the support through every outcome 🥰 it’s seems so many of us have similar stories and when I found out this time I didn’t cry or get excited, I don’t think I’ve accepted it’s even real yet. Maybe after the scan I’ll have that moment.

I’ve had back pain too funnily enough. Only thing that helps it’s sitting on my heated blanket lol

Hello to all the new posters! I'm 6w2d today and don't have any symptoms yet so it doesn't feel real. Still not 100% sure I'm doing the right thing keeping this baby now I'm alone (with DD age 12), but reading about other's miscarriages makes me think this is a blessing that I've always hoped for.

Oh @frolickinglamb I totally get you. 💐

Thanks for inspiring heated blanket idea, will try that tonight.

Hello new joiners! Yes sadly many of us in the same boat in terms of pregnancy after loss, so at least we get it. I’ve had a big irrational cry about something this evening, so that’s been quite odd but I guess nice to have these symptoms to make it feel real! My symptoms are the subtle ones that I sometimes get anyway, irritable, hungry, bloated, tired. The indigestion is not normal for me but it comes and goes.
Enjoy your booking appts tomorrow and let us know how they go.
Crazy about nursery places for some of you! I had no trouble but maybe we got lucky, I shouldn’t assume it’ll be the same again.

Welcome to the newcomers to the group 😊 fully understand your anxieties, we're all here to help support each other through these nerve wracking weeks

@Ncl31 I think that you might be right about the outdoor air. I felt fine all weekend, and even managed to drink some decaff coffee. But it's my first day back at my desk, I've tried a decaff coffee and only managed a few sips before feeling awful. Nibbling on the ginger nut biscuits again...

A few weeks ago I got into a chat with a pregnant colleague about what my pregnancy favourite food and drinks had been. Now VERY sensitive about getting those exact same foods out in the office….

@BreadstickBurglar that’s funny, I wonder if she’ll notice / remember. Is it breadsticks by any chance?

@Bomatoes and @PhoenixSTL and @Ncl31 hppe you all have nice chats with your midwives today. I’ve got my next scan on Thursday. Eek.

Ah ladies I’m having a wobble had a scan Saturday all fine heart beat and measuring correctly bhr just had the tiniest bit of spotting and freaking out. I know I’d be telling someone else not to worry and that I also experienced this in my first pregnancy bhr I’m finding it so hard not to spiral

@Kate543 if you’re worrying do call your local EPU. I really hope all is well x

@hollyhocks2 - crackers and some specific drinks I never drink otherwise! Luckily she’s gone on mat leave now but everyone else heard too - sure they haven’t remembered…

@Kate543 a hand hold to you, it’s so stressful but logically we know this is really unlikely to be a cause for concern. Agree call EPU for reassurance. Hang in there ❤️

@PhoenixSTL sounds like it could well be the fresh air making us feel better.
my symptoms have dipped a little bit again today, but I’ve has that every 7-10 days so I’m not overly concerned about it today.

@hollyhocks2 i saw a different midwife today to my last booking appointment. The one today didn’t seem very interested in anything, particularly my anxiety - I had to specifically ask to be referred to the pregnancy after recurrent miscarriage rainbow clinic. I only know it’s offered in the trust I’m with because I work there. She was just a young lass and I couldn’t help but feel unimpressed with her. Scan for us too on Thursday - I’ll be 9+4 according to LMP but more like 9+2 from ovulation.

@Kate543 sorry to hear about your spotting, you’re right you would be telling any of us to relax about it but we all know it’s just not that easy. Are your EPU good? Could you ring them and speak to them? I rang mine last week when I had brown spotting and just speaking to them helped me relax. How many weeks are you?

Just gotten back from my booking appointment. How on earth did that take 2 hours? Can only think it's because we had a student midwife running us through all the questions.

Really glad that my partner managed to make it - there were a few questions that I couldn't remember the answers to.

Had some questions about my mental health after my miscarriage last year, which got me crying. Offered talking therapy if I want it.

Booked in the 16 week appointment, but will have to wait for the scan appointment to come through on badger notes. I'm on holiday when I turn 12 weeks, so I'm guessing I'll have to wait until I'm back.

@Ncl31 Oh dear, I can imagine I would feel the same way. It's a completely different experience being seen by a competent, confident staff member in the NHS compared with someone who seems quiet, inexperienced or even awkward. Especially a midwife, and even more so when you personally have had such a rough ride to get to this point. I know some personality types are quiet and that's not a bad thing in itself but if you're disclosing about your mental health and traumatic experiences they should be properly equipped to respond about that. @PhoenixSTL yours sounds a bit better in how she responded, despite being a student, though 2 hours is looong!

I am getting zero work done here... I just can't focus on anything. I did a big piece of work and lost it because I had been auto logged out of the system I was in, gah. Counting down to 5pm!

@hollyhocks2 yes I just found it awkward. The midwife I had in my last booking appointment last year was soo attentive and seemed interested. She was partially retired so probably “old school” but I really liked her.
anyway, my 12 week scan is 27th May - which coincidentally is the day we should be travelling to Orlando. That trip will be cancelled this weekend all being well at the scan on Thursday

Had my booking appt today, the midwife was so thorough! She said I'll probably need extra growth scans and monitoring as my first born was on the 9th centile and apparently she should have had some extra tests done after she was born.. thanks to covid, they discharged me a few hours after birth (at 2am in a wheelchair), forgot to give me my antiD injection and apparently didn't flag my daughter's weight 🙄 when I look back, the maternity care was actually shocking. Have a feeling the experience this time round is going to be very different!

@Bomatoes well that sounds a great experience so far this time but in contrast to some potentially major cock ups last time, how frustrating! But is your daughter well, just small?

@Ncl31 it seems strange to say I hope you have to cancel your holiday 😌 what a lovely reason for the change of plans though. Orlando can wait! Everything crossed for us both on Thurs. What time is yours? Mine is early.

Well Im 10 weeks today and Im just so exhuasted and severe nausa. Im struggling a lot mentally have had 7 previous losses so I struggle to not think worst case all the time. Thank you to those sharing as it really has helped me feel a bit normal. I just plod along have a scan booked for 12 weeks and if all good I am hoping all will be fine. Just so hard to relax. I tend to relax after 20 weeks as my latest loss in pregnancy was 18 weeks.

@Bomatoes that sounds like shocking care you had I’m so sorry. i hope it’s better this time around.

@hollyhocks2 it’s at 08:30 on Thursday, we seem to be following very similar paths in this pregnancy. Orlando was our “pre-ivf” holiday as we have our appointment at the clinic booked in for the week after we got back. When we booked it we always knew we might not got there. My mum was coming with us so I checked with her insurance too - we’re all covered. Thats how we told my parents, mum was talking about how excited she was to do X,Y & Z on holiday. I said to her “I hate to break it to you…. But you aren’t going anymore” it was funny to watch the realisation on her face.
It’s my dad’s 60th the week before we’re due and they were going to go on a cruise, he immediately said “I take it we won’t be doing the cruise until next year now” I would never ask them not to go but my mum wants to be close to home incase we need them.

@Candy24 sending love and hugs. Can completely understand the anxieties. Hopefully not long to go before the first trimester symptoms ease up for you

@Ncl31 that's so lovely that your parents will be close by for support