Due December 2026 🎅🏼

[Ncl31]

Hello,
Ive just found out I’m pregnant and due December.
i was on a group like this in my last pregnancy and everyone was so supportive of eachother. If anyone else would like to join please do.
i know it’s very early days… I’m 3W6D

I'm 9 weeks today, still exhausted

But, my mild nausea I had for a couple of days last week has gone

I've gone down a google hole, which says it can be normal for symptoms to start easing from 8 weeks, as the placenta starts to take over. So fingers crossed that's all it is

6 weeks today, the exhaustion has eased a bit, but the sickness hit today and I’ve felt pretty dreadful all day.

I had a few days with no symptoms last week and it really worried me. Now not so fun feeling so sick, so I should have been more grateful 🤦‍♀️. I’m at work today and really thought I was going to be sick. Would have been really awkward given I haven’t told anyone at work I’m pregnant yet 😂

@Desperatelyseekingme yes next Thursday 7th, I’ll be 9+2 then.
my symptoms are fluctuating daily which is hellish for my anxiety.
I felt pretty sick this morning though which is positive. I’m quite tired and hungry this evening too. all wins in my eyes.
im honestly counting down the days until my scan. Next week I’m going to ask to be scanned at EGU between 9-12 weeks as that is when my last loss happened and I think for my own peace of mind or coming to terms with another loss sooner if it ends that way will be better.
im really hopeful the acupuncture I’m having a blood thinning treatment I’m on is doing it’s magic.
one of the male consultants I work with regularly saw me today and he said “you really aren’t yourself, I hate seeing you sad like this” made me realise how obvious it must be to others that I’m worried :(

I'm the same, 7w5d and the nausea is tough. I had to tell my manager - I'm trying to move as many meetings away from the afternoon when it's hitting me worse. The only thing that seems to help is keeping my mouth shut and meetings aren't helping 🤣 I'm having a tactical vom every morning to try to get through the day. I've heard first pregnancy is the worst, plus if you already get travel sick you get it worse too (yay).

@Ncl31 I hope you can get booked in for a scan soon. 🤞🏼 The first three months are a rollercoaster at the best of times, let alone when it's a much wanted rainbow baby.

@KelpieTheFirst I thought the first was the worst out of the way too - until this pregnancy. 🤣 4th pregnancy, hopefully 3rd baby & can confidently say it is the worst I have ever felt. Nausea kicked in on Saturday and the room has been spinning ever since. For those of you not heaving your guts up, what's your magic please? I eat healthy & was working out before the fatigue kicked in, but I still feel like warm death right now.

@Ncl31 i really know how you feel, this is so hard after a loss. My symptoms are fluctuating too which is not great, my sickness isn't is a bad last couple of days but I nearly feel hungover if that makes sense and so tired. I assume you work in healthcare? Me too and sometimes that is worse knowing all the horror stories x

These HCG levels are getting me a bit worried. At 6 weeks mine was only 2000 and something. I didn't have it retested though, and they said it was good? Then the scan 3 days later showed a fetal pole and heartbeat so hopefully all is okay 😬

@Desperatelyseekingme yes to the feeling of a really bad hangover. I’m on day 2 of a what feels like a horrific hangover 😭

I actually spoke to the GP, well I phoned the receptionist, GP didn’t even ask to see me, just prescribed anti sickness pills, which I can collect in the morning. Will report back if they make me feel better in a day or so.

I’m just catching up on everything on the thread! Hope everyone is ok and enjoying the symptoms 😅 we had our early scan today after been unsure of dates, baby is measuring 7w6d and we saw the heartbeat 🥹 I can’t believe it to be honest I burst into tears! The wait for the nhs scan seems forever away now!

@Desperatelyseekingme yes I work in an operating theatre department, with obstetrics so I see positives of elective c sections but also the worst case scenarios in our emergency theatre.
@howluckyarewe we have a scan booked for next Thursday. It’s an NHS scan at EPU, they’re very good at looking after us

Does anyone know what happens at all the hospital appointments? This is my first pregnancy and age 34 (in case that makes any difference).

First one: obstetrics - 9 weeks
Second one: hospital appt - 11 weeks
Third one: hospital appt - 12 weeks

I assume the last one is the scan as I think it mentioned being able to bring someone.
Then the second one I wondered if it was blood tests?

Edited to add that I'm in England.

The first one (from about 8-10 weeks) is your booking appointment. Think it took about an hour. They went through medical and family history, took weight measurements, urine dip test. And then a number of blood tests

I think my next after that was the 12 week scan. I can't remember if I popped down to get a blood test done at the same time...im guessing so, as I remember doing one in the hospital 😅

I think the next one after that was about 16 weeks, but my memory is very hazy I'm afraid. 16 weeks was when my midwife got out the doppler for the first time, and i heard my baby's heartbeat.

Yes phoenix, that's exactly right. I've just had my booking appointment. Unfortunately my scan isn't booked until 14 weeks. Midwife recommended I ask if there was any cancellations earlier, but there's not. I might keep checking as I work in the hospital. I do have a dilemma if there's a last minute cancellation eg on the day. I could probably take the slot, but my husband wouldn't be able to get there soon enough. And we'd both like him there. But maybe I want a scan closer to 12 weeks more. I might be overthinking it, but I just read the dating accuracy drops after 12 weeks. It's most accurate 8-12, but the scan is booked between 10-14. She actully said for the downs screening it should be sooner. Mine is literally the day I turn 14 weeks. The the 20 one at 22 weeks.

I actually thought the birth rates were dropping in my area, but maybe the childcare from 9 months and child benefit for more than w children has changed that. I am a little stressed as the labour and antenatal ward was definitely above capacity when I had my eldest, I'm Concidering a home birth this time as our hospital is a 40 minute drive and my midwife said at the booking appointment, I'd be a candidate for it. I think I'd feel safer in hospital, allthough it's quite a romantic notion to have a home birth. And most likely my last birth.

@Alwaysgrowing I can understand your anxiety about having the scans a little later than ideal. But also tricky to be able to get your partner there - i don't think I can do another scan without my partner there, after the miscarriage. It was so hard to be on my own.

My sister had home births for both of her children, but the hospital was about a 5 minute drive from her house. First came so quickly, the midwife barely had time to get there 😅

I think I'd find a home birth too awkward - can just imagine my dog managing to get into the room and staring at me intensely 😂

But I also ended up needing an emergency c- section for my son's birth. I think I'd panic about needing that medical intervention again, and not being able to get to the hospital quickly enough.

Thanks so much @PhoenixSTL & @Alwaysgrowing thats very helpful. Should have said I'm England too!

It's so funny how they just send you appointment letters with no details at all 😂

How annoying about your scan @Alwaysgrowing - I had heard birth rates were falling too but I suppose it all depends on the area and new houses being built increasing demand etc. I would definitely keep asking for a cancellation.

Just had a call from my midwife and booked in for my booking appointment next Thursday 7th May. I’ve got a call with the bereavement midwife this morning to see what support can be provided as the last 3 days all I’ve done is cry. Not sure if it’s because my toddler turned 2 and my due date with our second would have been next week so maybe emotions are running high, and add in the current pregnancy worries.

Still thinking of booking an early scan but can’t see to find a time where me and my husband can both make it.

@Alwaysgrowingyeah I heard that too. And id probs be ringing every day to see if there’s any cancellations for the following days if you can, and maybe that way your husband will be able to make it too x

Has anyone else told their work yet? I’m so so nauseous and tired and it’s hitting me hard so I’m struggling with work. I’d love extra breaks to lie down etc but feel I’m taking the piss. I’m only 6.5 weeks(ish) so feel it’s too early. Not sure what to do as I feel rough.

Not yet, but I will be next week. I’m working from home the rest of the week so I’m able to lie out whilst working but next week I’m thinking of telling my supervisor. Also because I’m required to go court so will need to find another colleague to go on behalf of me

@Lookingtogrowthefamily sending hugs, that sounds really difficult

@JH20000 I told work after about 5 weeks or so. I've been there since 2020, and it's a very supportive company. I was grateful that I did, as I've already had to take two sick days cause I was feeling so rough. And I've been working from home for about 2 weeks now, as the office lights made me feel so sick.

The call with the bereavement midwife was very helpful, and you know sometimes you just want to say how you feel out loud to someone completely neutral, not related etc and feel validated. I’m so glad I reached out to her for support.

She also said she encourages women to tell someone they trust and have a good relationship at work, so I’m going to speak to my supervisor next week when I’m next in who I see as a close friend too. I think it might help me relax a bit.

Decided against an early scan now too. Had a chat with my husband and agreed to just wait until the NHS one. Fingers crossed.

Hope everyone is ok xx

@Lookingtogrowthefamilyi am so glad to read what a positive experience you had with the bereavement midwife. Sounds like exactly the support you were looking for. And to make a decision about early scans is maybe a relief now.

I had my booking in appt today, definitely makes it start to sink in. Quite pleasantly surprised that I’m only considered high risk for certain things, and not others, and that although I will be consultant led this doesn’t necessarily mean an ultra medicalised experience, it depends on the need and what comes up along the way. Caveat - of course we’re all having a ‘medicalised experience’ and I’m very grateful for all the medical expertise I’ve benefitted from in all my pregnancies, it’s just I’ve had a lot of things to worry about in them and I’d absolutely love to have a pregnancy that is somewhat smooth sailing from this point. I would feel so so lucky and grateful for that and today’s appointment gave me a little glimmer of hope!

Ladies I’m totally freaking out… I’ve just been to the toilet and when I wiped I have brown stained EWCM… pic attached for those who want to see to understand.

the rationale part of my brain is telling me it’s brown so it’s old blood. The irrational part of me is saying that it’s blood and that’s bad.
I’ve barely had symptoms today too so feeling anxious already :(

@Ncl31hey lovely! I know it’s so hard not to panic but I’d get into bed and rest with a pad on and give your EPU a call in the morning and they will hopefully get you in to check you over!