Fabulous 40+ and Proud: Mum and Mums to be Part 2

[Kaz1967]

Ok we have talked to the end of the topic so here is a new one

Wonderful news jackie77 and I'm with JJ on the name - great name! With DS I was only in 1 night as didn't have a CS and after that one night I BEGGED to be let home because of the noise.

hedgepig I'm sure all is ok. I worry as I'm 20 weeks now and haven't felt anything much at all, maybe a tiny fluttering but I'm not really sure. Everyone says you feel more second time but it's not been so for me. Like we've said before though if you're worried ring the labour ward and they'll probably give you some pointers on listening out.

jeanjeannie my ds speaks entirely his own random language which I can not understand in any way at all - sort of Scandinavian (as it goes very up and down) with a touch of Vulcan thrown in. He's 2 next month and his 'thank you' still sounds like 'dead Jew' and when he points at something and says it it looks like he's doing a nazi salute at the same time.

hedgepig no move yet...Bury still full so we're waiting on a slot.

If you're worried about LO's movement (or lack thereof) ring up the antenatal clinic and ask their advice. They're used to us neurotic, paranoid mums to be! I say this as I'm still neurotic and pananoid

It'll give you piece of mind hedgepig

pwcbird same advice as I gave to hedgepig...however, you've probably not yet had your anomaly scan yet so don't know where your placenta is. I was the same as you and felt hardly anything until 22-23 weeks and it was because my placenta was anterior (at the front) so it was cushioning all the movement.

I love the sound of these made up languages...how fab!

OMG pwcbird...your LO how alarming. Cue funny stares in the supermarket queue Good job you don't live near to me...it's a predominantly jewish area...you'd be run out of town!

Not only alarming JW but embarrassing. He already points at people in the supermarket - part of me is terrified for when he can talk as I know he's just going to point at someone and shout 'ugly' or similar (which, to be truthful, I apparently did as a child so maybe it's my mother getting revenge on me). As to the anti-semitic question I am mortified and keep trying to emphasise the TH-ank-YOO to him. Ahh me!

pwcbird my DH deliberately shouts at people in the street so your LO is not alone. Last week he shouted at the people who were smoking that congregate at the entrance to the hospital..although I forgave him on this one as they're your usually bunch of chav mothers in their nighties, smoking out in the street

Not so great when he does it out of the car window though

I hope for your sake your DS grows out of it or I pity you.

evening. jW my DH doesn't shout a people out of the car window but has this new hobby of writing bad drivers car numbers down, I'm sure we are going to get raid raged soon.
Thanks you for all the reassurances, since I posted of course the LO has been bouncing all over the place. Children they worry you to death even before they are born

Jackie77, congratulation to you and Riley. Glad to hear you are feeling so well after cs. I remember the crying babies from last time, but they were nothing compared to the unbelievable snoring one of my roommates did every time her baby fell asleep. I used to pray for him to wake up, 'cos his crying was an infinitely preferable noise!

I did a hospital tour this weekend and the rather grumpy nurse said there were no private rooms. When pressed, she said there were some side-rooms, which you could ask for if you paid, but it was highly unlikely there would be any available! I've bought some ear plugs for my hospital bag.

DH and I have (finally) agreed on a name for LO this evening. I've had the carpets steam cleaned today, too (closest I'm likely to get to nesting), so I'm now feeling good to go. Roll on 7 August!

Congratulations and welcome Maximum1 (from another surprised 43-year old ex fertility treatment mum).

hedgepig is your DH harbouring secret desires to be Poirot? What does he do with the numbers...put them in his black book of registration numbers? Actually, now I've just written that, I'm laughing

Glad to hear the LO is proving you wrong...you knew he/she would didn't you? They always do (and you should know that by now!)

Morning all....Zzzzz...can I go back to bed?

hedgepig - perhaps it's your DHs way of harbouring his road rage....writing down those numbers is probably a cathartic experience....or there's a game of number plate bingo we're unaware of

Ooo, fortified not long now eh. I love your idea of nesting....steam cleaning was way beyond anything I ever managed. Gawd, i loathe cleaning. DC both live in filth...but they're happy!!

johnworf apparently we're not supposed to say 'Chav' anymore......! Oh well, suppose it's back to the word Pikeys then And without the terms 'pram face' or 'Croydon Face Lift' how would you ever describe some of the girls in our area I don't know!!

Rubbish weather again...can't think of what to do or where to go. After the two of them went into meltdown at the library yesterday I'm womdering if I should actually step foot outside the house!

he posts the numbers on a web site for likeminded enthusiasts - apparently .

JJ meltdowns in the library how embarassing. Hope you can get out of the house between showers

OMG hedgepig he is really serious...and apparently not alone! How bizarre. Daren't tell my DH as I have a feeling he'd love to join that group

Oh dear...I have all this to come haven't I jeanjeannie? Screaming in the supermarket, throwing tantrums anywhere that totally embarrasses you.....fab.

I adore the term 'croydon face lift'! Why can't we use it when there's fair game begging to be named it out there? Anyway I'm taking great offence jeanjeannie. I got myself some some new slag hoop earrings yesterday...they're huge! And I want another tramp stamp on my ankle I think...hmm...I'm thinking something celtic or a heart..no, wait! I'll have Katherines name (but I'll have to shorten it as it's obviously too long). Must run now...my fake armani jeans have been on the line for 2 weeks so I think they're dry now

WAH hahahah LOL johnworf I actually DO have a tatoo on my ankle....Whahahahah I'm such a SLAAAAGG! AND I bumped into some kids on our street the other week..pushing a pram. Little girl said.."This is my baby sister...she's called Armani"...

I'm sure you make hoop earings like romantic and sexy just look the old Cadbury flake ads......!

Yeah....get KAT tatooed somewhere...on yer knuckles...that'd be nice Go with those coin rings you've always promised yourself...

you could even do the tatoo yourself with ink and a pin for that really classy look

I'll have you all know that I COME FROM CROYDON (though actually 'leafy Purley' if you look at an article in the Evening Standard from earlier this week - talking about the suburbs).However I have never a)had a baby whilst still at school b)had a Croydon facelift hairstyle c) had a tattoo d)worn a track suit, especially out. On the other side I do a) have slag hoop earrings b) had my belly button pierced when uber svelte and c)(and pllleeeeaaassee don't tell anyone this) have, out of utter desperation, once taken DS to a McDonalds where he had the fishfinger 'happy' meal. That's quite bad isn't it . It was a dreadful experience which I have not repeated and was full of Croydon Chavs (there - I've said it but I'm allowed to as I live here)

ok just changing the subject to a slight vent at DH. We are choosing a new laptop. I spend all morning (when able anyway) researching online and send him an email with some selections and mentioning the one I think is best and how, actually, I WANT it etc . I get very 'male' response as to how we mustn't just for something that dances and paints my toenails with bells on but 'what we actually will use it for' AND THEN... he sends me, after apparently talking to Kevin, his chum, one HE thinks would be a good choice AND IT'S THE VERY ONE THAT I SENT TO HIM THIS MORNING! Do I exist? Does he actually look at these sites I send him? Why do I bother? I feel the Fast Show sketch where the men are talking and the woman has the answer and they just ignore her. I have just sent him an email telling him he is a prize noggin.

Ok, rant over . Men are officially hilarious. They do not listen to us birds, whether it be by talking, e-mail or text!

pwcbird am feeling your frustration. With my DP it tends to be that I tell him something....he sorts of nods.....then a couple of days later he tells me the same thing...as though it's new info....! Grrrrr which only goes to show he didn't listen in the first place...

On another completely different note - got a call last night from a friend...whose boyfriend proposed to her last Sat on her birthday in Rome (ahhh!) And just now, my mate from across the road has just popped in to say that her boyfriend proposed to her on Sat night...on his birthday!!! They both said yes....Awwwww...a HAT, I get to buy a HAT!!! Personally, I just settle for meeting a bloke and getting up the duff ..twice

jeanjeannie obviously someone had put something in the tap water where you live. Will it affect the house prices she asks herself

pwcbird all men do that. They listen to Dave/Steve/Kev down the pub/office/gym but never their OH even when talking abour exactly the same thing.....AND when you point out to them you'd already mentioned whatever it is they're on about, they deny all knowledge of the conversation EVER having took place!!!! Men really are twonks silly billies sometimes

I just nod now and say 'yes dear' as it saves time/patience/arguing/a slap round the chops

P.S. sorry if I've offended anyone with my previous post...but I have made a mental note that you would like a sovereign ring for xmas jeanjeannie

DH has just sent me a Michael Winner impersonation 'calm down dear' e-mail. .

JW it's my birthday next week and I already have 9 sovereign rings but would love a 10th so that I have one on every finger.

PCWbird I know what you mean about men, and stuff, although I would not be asked to do any computer research. DH hates microsoft and loves Linux so our computers have a weird set up. all I want to do is email and wibble on the internet so I find all this twiddling a bit annoying. I'm thinking about buying a secret laptop just for me.
i have had quite a glum day toady, we found out an ex-colleague died yesterday and its so sad he had a young family. We weren't mates or anything but he was a good bloke.

Oh pwcbird EVERYONE who lives in Croydon says they live in 'Purley'...cough cough !!!
When I worked in Croydon it used to make me laugh that there were buses going to a place called 'Shirley'....I always wanted to go and see if it was a Mecca for girls with hoop earings and chip-fat perms [grins] Often wondered why not Brenda or Doreen?!

Are you near IKEA? Oooo, I could just go for their meatballs right now - save having to cook. Mmmmm and that strange made-up berry name sauce...

johnworf - if you give those coin rings to pwcbird BEFORE my birthday (Sept) I'll claw your eyes out and slap you with my handbag....you promised them to me first! D'ya hear that pwcbird keep yer mits off me rings x

I had a friend that lived in Shirley. It's actually quite leafy (though not as much as Purley and more downmarket of course). She knew someone called Shirley that lived in Shirley and then left her husband for Daphne! Gods honest. It all happens down this way

Ikea. Indeed I do live in the vicinity. In fact I have pursuaded DH to take me there on Sunday (on the proviso that we leave pronto early before the students get up and I buy him their £1.50 breakfast). We do this everytime we go and I always buy him the breakfast with the line 'don't ever say I don't take you out and buy you a meal' . I hate Ikea but every so often I have this lure to go and buy kitchen things for only 99p and the like. I love the meatballs though.

hedgepig sorry you had a rotten day. It's hard when you hear news like that as it just makes you think how fragile life can be.

As for rings JJ you can keep your gold coins - I got my cocktail rings from Spain. I'm not a chav, I'm a WAG wannabe

Crikey, I'm well and truly confuzzled now...Shirley who lived in Shirley, not Purley I'm glad I live in Manchester (technically I don't) and that rhymes with nothing - well it doesn't rhyme with 'nothing' but......poo, you know what I mean! Even more confused now.

Just got back from seeing the princess. She's such a little fatty now Still no word on the move but they're trying for a bed on a daily basis.

I've bought such a lot of things today from Ebay - M&P bedding, some Boden items, but mainly baby girls stuff (lovely monsoon outfit, nappyhead and ej sikke lej ) All bargains! Sorry, no sovereign rings (or 'sovs' as they're known in my manor). I've told DH to take his eye off that Tiffany necklace and buy me a ring spelling out MAM on the front or possibly just my initials....honestly, he never gets it right

DH hates taking me to Ikea as you have to walk all the way around the store to get out. Btw, the berries are lingonberries? I'm due a trip as I'd like to get a few things that they are good for i.e. cheap kids bedroom accessories, glasses that are cheap, lights. Will have to get on knees and beg DH or possibly bribe him with my body

Ok - had scan and only 5 weeks. Been booked into early pregnancy unit for another scan on 5th August. Biggest concern 4 me is I didn't see a heartbeat and I am sure I did at this stage with my son.

Guess it's 3 weeks of nervous waiting now

Jeanjeannie I won't be able to sleep tonight if I don't clear up the misunderstanding. When I said I had the carpets steam-cleaned I meant I got a man in to clean them!

I wish Ikea did internet shopping. I quite fancy getting some bits and pieces there, but just haven't got the strength!

Talking jewellery, I fancy a baby ring www.thebabyring.com/. I suggested the pink one after I had dd, but my husband fell about laughing. I'd suggest one of each as a nice gesture after LO arrives, but he's already threatening to cancel my Junior magazine subscription.

maximum1 try not to fret. I've looked at a couple of sites and they all seem to say that you can't get a heartbeat by ultrasound (or any other way) until 7 weeks so it's still too early for you. Look here as it may help a bit. I know you will worry - we all worry like mad on this site. Hot milky drink (as no glass of wine I'm afraid) and if you can't sleep find something silly on the TV to take your mind off it!