IVF Pregnancy Club- Part Two

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Hey girls!

thread number two for us, thank you again for all being so lovely and supportive. I still can’t believe, after all those years and all the upset… are babies are on their way ♥️

IVF pregnancy club Due Dates/Birth Dates

AmberRose- 3rd July (baby girl) 🩷
Sara237- 24th June (could be a week earlier)
Zirafica- 21st August, c-section could be 14th August
Magpie234- 1st May, could be 24th April (baby girl) 🩷
Nosejug- 27th June, may be earlier though
Fancygoose- 28th March- c-section could be 24th March
SarahAndQuack- 19th June
MintOwl- 14th May, (baby girl) 🩷
CloudyIvy55- 15th May
SamVan- 7th April (baby boy) 🩵
Pastelheart- 4th June (baby boy) 🩵

Dubkitten- baby girl born 8th January 2026 🩷

@FancyGoose Not Royal Surrey is it? I am with them

@zirafica Good to know and what I suspected (for myself anyway… one rationale being I found when using a sleep tracker that it made me feel more tired when it said I had a bad sleep than I otherwise think I would have done!)

I am getting a next-to-me and shall def be reading up on co-sleeping as it seems to make a lot of sense to me in terms of nature! Plus such a good point that it is better to know how to do it safely even if not planning to in case. My husband regularly has night terrors so she will not be able to sleep next to him sadly. He is sad about this which I understand but obviously not something worth risking 😢 Shall both make sure we find plenty of other ways for them to bond 😊. Super lucky as he gets 6 months paid pat leave.

@magpie234 yeah exactly that, pregnancy is exciting etc and it’s rubbish when certain parts can feel less than because of someone’s else’s behaviour! Yeah the people at the private scan place were lovely last time so really looking forward to it 🙂

ahahaha we must have good taste! I will upload a pic of the carrier for you

@SarahAndQuack we have a next to me crib. We went with the maxi cosi alora air…. But I am sure baby will end up in bed with me as will be easier for feeding.
they kept asking my partner for a fresh sample at egg collection which worried me because what do you mean fresh WE ARE USING HIS FROZEN SAMPLE GO AND DEFROST IT PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD.

@MintOwloh that app sounds good but weird you can’t see everything now. Yeah can’t wait for our 4D scan! I have just had back pain start but not tried a belt yet, if it continues I will deffo look into this

@Nosejug yeah I have tried to let it go, but wanted opinions as was still playing on my mind 6 weeks on. And I know in the grand scheme of things it’s not a huge deal but to us it is I guess? Honestly, I will buy her some cornflakes if it would have helped her mood lol 😂 I think she’s was a sonographer, I don’t actually remember if she even introduced herself. Sounds exciting about the bedroom reno! Xxx

@magpie234xox

They do have other colours too x

Ahh my goodness I cannot wait to carry my baby on my front like that. It’s been a fantasy for such a long time. All snuggled up. Feeling my oxytocin looking at that hehe.

@Nosejug omg same! I have got two carriers, have got a wrap for when he’s small and then the carrier for when he’s a little bigger. I can’t wait… but then I worry I might prefer the carrier more than the pram and we just spent loads on that so I will have to share it out fairly soon it’s cost efficient 😂

so guys, you know my sleep has been rubbish for what feels like eternity and I know your sleep has also been rubbish too… not sure if we have already spoke about this but I got the moncosy pregnancy pillow (U shaped one) and wow… other than on a wee schedule of every hour, having the best sleeps. It’s so comfy and supportive so if you don’t have one yet then get one because I lightly recommend and I’m going to sleep with it forever pregnant or not xox

Ooo it’s on my list of tasks to look at pregnancy pillows. My partner was away last night and I have to say I did have a slightly better sleep. I’ll have a look at the moncosy!

Went away for the night last night and had booked a travel cot in the hotel for the baby. Settled her when we got back to the room at night, went to put her in the cot and no mattress - just the thin lining covering the bars! Called reception and they said they had no mattress, brought up a duvet to try but was too soft so could still feel the bars. Ended up having to put her in her pram to sleep for the night 🙄

Oh, FFS! That's awful.

I remember booking a room for me and DD when she was a baby - they said if you booked for a child under 1 they would equip the room for you. Turned out there was no cot, they just looked at me blankly and said 'won't you be co-sleeping'.

I was not thrilled.

Hope you can write a strongly-worded complaint afterwards!

Glad to hear lots of you don't think I'm totally crazy for my mixed up embryo thoughts!! 🤦‍♀️😂

We had our first hypnobirthing class this evening and thought it was really good. One part I found hit me hard was when we were talking about visualising the birth and baby. I've spent so much time and effort not visualising a happy end result as way of protecting myself if I never got there, that actually thinking about holding my baby is really difficult! I took IVF one step and a time, not thinking too far ahead just in case....but now I really need to do myself a favour and start believing this is going to go right!

Hope your all doing well!

@dubkitten omg that’s so bad! I hope you had a lovely night away though?

@CloudyIvy55 glad you had a good session! It will go right! And you will have your baby so soon

guys I’m not having a good time again 😂 my lovely partner has just gone to the shop to get me something for heart burn, my back is in pieces, my bladder is not playing ball (I actually timed how often I was awake to wee last night and one time it was only 20 minutes later and I wanted to cry) oh and I was driving to meet my partner for lunch today and I missed the turning off the motorway and it added on 6 minutes to my journey and I did in fact cry because…… yes I was going to wet myself even though I had gone to the toilet not 15 minutes before

i am 27 weeks today and I am so worried about how much harder it’s going to get and I am actually CRYING WITH LAUGHTER that I thought I was going to work right up to my due date. I want to start my leave right now 😂😂 xx

Got ambushed with a story by a couple at our antenatal class of how their pregnancy was what they called a wedding night whoopsy… we were just like oh nice really flatly and changed the topic 🙄

Yeah I’d find that difficult @magpie234 not that I can’t be happy that it’s not this awful struggle for everyone (I’m blessed with nieces and nephew from two “first try” sisters!) I just don’t think I have much in common with a normal pregnant person. I will always remember attending a party with old high school pals in attendance, the host being a friend I’m still close with. He didn’t remember to tell me that an old friend would be heavily pregnant. Said pregnant person (who works as a therapist no less) started loudly saying that she was giving me some of her fertility energy while thrusting towards me when I quietly told her about our struggles. People just don’t get it.

Opposed to that, we visited the baby of a friend who had struggled to conceive and when I left I felt like I’d been through a wonderful therapy session! It’s an incredible release talking irl to someone who gets it. And getting to cuddle their gorgeous baby!

24 weeks tomorrow! I wish I could go back in time to reassure my 16 week devastated self. Here’s hoping for the next four weeks. I had a different consultant this week who was like, ‘have you packed your bag for the hospital?’ I felt like I was caught being complacent despite being vigilant all the time. She started going on about how I wasn’t allowed to complain I had the wrong socks if the baby came and I didn’t have a bag…? I was like… I don’t think I’ll give a shit what socks I’m wearing if my baby is born in the next week or so. I’m sure she’s just more brisk than the other consults. At least I have something to talk to the psychologist about hah.

@pastelheart sorry that it’s rooted in your discomfort but your message made me laugh both on first reading and second 😹

@CloudyIvy55 cool that you’ve started hypnobirthing! I think I’m doing the opposite of hypnobirthing by imagining that my body will stay tightly closed for many many weeks yet hehe. My sister says so much of hypnobirthing is about the dads too which is nice. Maybe my partner could go alone!

@Nosejug Sorry what… she started THRUSTING at you?! This is hilarious! I mean awful but what?! How did you respond?! I am def not wanting everybody in our class to have struggled like we did but it was the first reference someone made to conceiving so we could have done without a less extremely opposite one! Oh wellllll everybody gets lucky and unlucky in diff ways throughout life which I have to keep reminding myself.

Haha I know right? Me and dp were like wtf en route home. I think I just probably fake laughed but I’m quite sure my feelings were on my face haha.

and I so sooo recognise the “oh wellll” in my head to such things! It’s like shaking an etcha sketch after you’ve built up this elaborate picture… oh wellll. Probably a healthy mental attitude! And good grief, I’m so so glad to be on the other side of infertility looking back. I still wake up sometimes with my first thought being ‘wtf I’m pregnant!’

Thanks for the invite @pastelheart 😊

Hi everyone, very grateful for this thread! My husband and I are waiting to meet our miracle baby in June ❤️ We had 6 rounds of ivf over the hardest 2 years of our lives and still can't believe we're lucky enough to be on this position after being given very low chances.

I'm super content and loving being pregnant but today I had the most uncomfortable day so far, almost constant upper back pain, rib pain and feeling soooo stretched I could burst! I'd look forward to bed if I wasn't having such disrupted sleep! Apart from that all good!😂

Hope everyone is doing okay! X

Hey @RosieRedRobin welcome to the thread and massive congratulations!! Wow 6 rounds! 👏

Hello everyone!

Sorry you're having a rough time @pastelheart. It's so strange - I have in my head that you are masses further on than me (because I think when I first saw you posting you were, proportionally!) but now it feels much closer. I'm 25 weeks today. Time flies!

@magpie234 - oh, ouch! People do say things without thinking. If it helps, during NCT classes before DD was born someone asked me if DP and I got pregnant 'naturally'. We are two women, and I genuinely don't think the woman asking actually meant 'did she go shag some random bloke' - she just had a brain freeze about appropriate questions and that was what came out! I find it funny now.

Hi @RosieRedRobin! I'm due June too. Yay! It's a good month for a baby I think.

I finally started properly telling people about this pregnancy because over the past week or so I've started showing in a not-so-easy-to-hide way. It's been ok but it feels strange, as well.

Hey, av been super quiet lately, sorry , av just been so tired, basically going to work then home , eating and sleeping, I have been getting better sleeps though this last week (long may it last) I still wake 5/6 times for a pee but overall I feel I am sleeping better which is good, we had another scan last week, they think my placenta is lying a bit low .. it’s at the back but 8mm from my cervix so they will look at again at my next growth scan at 33 weeks (23+1 today) she said 90 % of the time it will move away as the uterus stretches as I get bigger .. so fingers crossed as if not I might need a c section, and I was hoping for a vaginal birth .it only needs to love 2mm which is tiny I guess, .but was lovely to see baby again she’s getting so big 🥰

@pastelheart sorry to hear about your heart burn , mine has been getting worse on and off .. are you finding anything helping ? I have been trying a glass of milk which sometimes works.

@magpie234 your hypnobirthing classes sound good, I have been looking to this but a lot are already fully booked up where I live locally .. i have seen a few online course I could sign up for, do the NHS offer any classes does anyone know ?

oh we bought our pram !! 1st big purchase complete .. felt so exciting but so weird at the same time .. the cot and Moses basket will be next then print to decorate the room in the coming weeks, 🤗
I hope everyone else is good, sorry there are so many messages I haven’t caught up with. 💛✨

Thank you so much! @CloudyIvy55 🙏😊 Same to you!

Aw June baby too 🥰 Congratulations! ..I was a bit hesitant to start telling people too but it's surprising how many people are sooo happy for you (even if they don't know the rough journey you've had to get here) and want to give you hugs and stuff! People can be so nice 💕

@magpie234 some people lack so much self awareness don’t they

@Nosejug omg what a strange person. It is shocking sometimes how people act when you tell them about your infertility struggles. My mum annoys me as we have male factor infertility, and she would say “well it’s not you with the problem” ermmm…. Me and my partner are a team, I would never ever make him feel like it’s his fault and he would be exactly the same if the roles were reversed. Used to make me so mad. YAY for 24 weeks! Such a milestone, especially with everything that you have had to contend with 🩷 so pleased for you

honestly you can laugh… I laugh too after I have finished crying lol

@RosieRedRobin welcome again! I am around the same amount of weeks as you and also very uncomfortable so you aren’t alone

@SarahAndQuack no just a few weeks! Maybe it’s because it feels like we have been pregnant for 45 years?

@AmberRose26 milk does help but then can make me feel a bit sick, I have just been using gaviscon, the tablets and the liquid it does help 100% but I don’t have terrible heart burn, it’s more annoying than painful etc. I’m not sure how much it would help if it was a lot worse xox

Me and my son have just been out for brunch and he was chatting away about his little brother and how he’s going to buy him a blanket. When my son was little he was very attached to a Particular blanket that I had to bribe off him when he was about 8 😂 so think he wants the same for his little brother 🥹🥹🥹 xx