IVF Pregnancy Club- Part Two

[pastelheart]

Hey girls!

thread number two for us, thank you again for all being so lovely and supportive. I still can’t believe, after all those years and all the upset… are babies are on their way ♥️

IVF pregnancy club Due Dates/Birth Dates

AmberRose- 3rd July (baby girl) 🩷
Sara237- 24th June (could be a week earlier)
Zirafica- 21st August, c-section could be 14th August
Magpie234- 1st May, could be 24th April (baby girl) 🩷
Nosejug- 27th June, may be earlier though
Fancygoose- 28th March- c-section could be 24th March
SarahAndQuack- 19th June
MintOwl- 14th May, (baby girl) 🩷
CloudyIvy55- 15th May
SamVan- 7th April (baby boy) 🩵
Pastelheart- 4th June (baby boy) 🩵

Dubkitten- baby girl born 8th January 2026 🩷

Haha cute! I love what a great memory and story this will be for your boy!!

my advice is get a notebook and pen and write down the random bits of info you need to. Even when you’ve had meds as if you miss a set it’s hard to track some down haha. My brain has been soupy and there’s a lot to remember. Sounds like you’ve breast milk already! Make good use of the breastfeeding team while you’re in there! (Though maybe you don’t need it!) ooooh it’s all just wonderful. Hope you’re catching up on Zzzs too!

yayyy @pastelheart, such wonderful news! Pleased it was relatively quick once it got going. Well done! Much love to you and the snuggly one, welcome baby pastelheart ❤️

Sorry to hear all this @Nosejugthat’s rubbish - have things got better since then?

@Nosejug that must be confusing for with everyone telling you different things ! And how rude of the nurse saying you’re uptight .. it’s a very stressful time for you and she needs to be more empathetic .. she’s a bloody nurse .. sounds like she’s in the wrong job !! Not long till Tuesday and you’ll be home hopefully with your baby and you can relax more in your own environment 💛

Hey thanks both! After I strongly advocated for what I wanted I did feel better, and then her next blood results massively improved and the dr was like, yeah your instincts were correct. Not that there’s only one way to do things but that what I wanted was reasonable and very effective. I think it’s the ivf stuff and having to push push push and study study study in order to get the best out of your treatment, and feeling like although medical staff want success nobody wants it like you. Maybe I’m still in that mode.

But also, I had a decent stretch of sleep and that improved things too, at least helped the emotions that were coming out along with the advocating! All I need is to give a cuddle to my girl and I’m serene!

@Nosejug Glad you got some sleep and things are better. Sounds stressful with the 'experts' contradicting each other and not listening. Think we definitely have to advocate for what's needed but there's a type of gaslighting that often goes on where we're based to serm too demanding when requests are entirely reasonable. I remember feeling awkward just asking to have pee bag emptied...
@AmberRose26 Yes, tomorrow is c section day. Excited and bricking it slightly!

Oooh @Sara237 how exciting! Nothing to brick it about (though I was trembling from adrenaline haha) it will be lovely and calm. They had the radio on during mine and I remember “girls just want to have fun” was in near the start haha! The staff still guide you so well through it. And oh my when they show you your baby for the first time, just wow.

@Nosejug Thanks. Think is memories of my son's birth which was a bit traumatic. Your's sounds perfect! Hopefully this time tomorrow it'll all be done. They said it'll hopefully be in morning. Can't wait for my son to meet him!

Ach I forgot you already had had one. Sorry it was traumatic. Hopefully this is an entirely different scenario and they’ll be well informed about your past and keep that in mind for this delivery. I made sure mine knew about a previous med trauma and they were so good during this one, basically didn’t let on anything was up till everything was fine. They’re so well prepared for emergencies etc. I made them tell me that they were stocked up on my blood type!

Best of luck tomorrow @Sara237

@Nosejug awh that’s good things are getting a bit better .. am sure the cuddles just make all the other stress stuff feel so insignificant 🥰💛.. also am so jealous of the sleep you had haha .. I can’t wait to sleep more than 90 mins .. and have a baby to wake me rather than a full bladder 😅

@Sara237 eekkkk.. super excited for you .. only natural and normal to feel nervous .. best of luck if I don’t get a chance to message again later .. will be thinking of you and again .. we will all be looking forward to that update when you have the energy to do it 🥰💛

I have my last growth scan tomorrow so will see what’s happening .. wonder if she is still in the 90th percentile 🫣😅 she was partially engaged last time so hoping she is fully engaged now .. also that’s 10 days today av been off the aspirin so my blood clotting should be back to a normal state so hoping all blood flow to placenta etc is still ok .. can’t wait to just see tomorrow, it’s crazy that even now am 37+2 I still think that something could go wrong even at this late stage .. I guess just after all the losses and ivf for 6 years that the risk factor, that little voice in the back of your head .. never leaves fully 🙄… . ✨🤞🏽🙏💛

Oh @AmberRose26 funny that you’ve surpassed my gestation now! I can imagine feeling the exact same nervousness about the aspirin thing, but they would never advise it if it wasn’t safe. Sounds like your bladder keeps you moving enough to prevent clots anyway!!!

and goodness I know what you mean re: nervous till the last minute. Just like you said to Sara, it’s only natural to have such worries after working so hard to get here and being so close to the finish line. Think of all those lovely days of growing your baby is getting safe and cosy in there. They’re in the best environment for their health, despite all the shapeshifting worries. I forget, do you have a date for induction or anything or is your baby in charge?

Amazing news @pastelheart enjoy every second of those firsts few days! So happy for you.... worth the wait I'm sure 😊 x

@Nosejug no dates booked in or anything .. will speak to the consultant after my scan tomorrow so they might advise things ? Am hoping for vaginal birth ( hopefully I’ll just go spontaneous in the next two weeks😅) but if I am approaching the 40 weeks mark and still no signs then I can ask for induction am sure, so it’s just a ‘wait and see’ for the next two weeks I guess .. 🤷🏼‍♀️ I do feel like I just want her here to be rid of the risks of pregnancy 😵‍💫🫠

Oh, @pastelheart, this is wonderful news! Huge congratulations!

Good luck for tomorrow, @Sara237! I'm so excited for you.

Thanks all, you've been the best support xxx

sprru for radio silence, we are still in hospital and won’t be home until end of the week earliest, will update properly asap

@Sara237 good luck today, looking forward to your update!

xxxxxxx

@pastelheart Hope all ok. I can't sleep. The last opportunity I had to have a decent sleep and I'm wide awake after 4 hrs. 😭

@Sara237so exciting! Currently awake trying to resettle my 7 week old...not long till you'll be doing the same! 😂 good luck for today!

@Nosejug sorry when I replied I missed your big update. I’m sorry baby is poorly. Well done on advocating for yourself and baby. How are you both today?

thank you everyone for your congratulations and well wishes. We are in such a bubble and I just love him so so much and I just love seeing my partner be a dad

so we are still in hospital and won’t be home this week (well very unlikely) baby boy had sore, swollen weepy eyes after he was born and his breathing was very fast so he got put on antibiotics as a precaution. When they have repeated his bloods after starting antibiotics his infection markers have risen quite dramatically so he does have an infection somewhere. He had to have a lumbar puncture yesterday but that has come back clear (thank god) they think the infection could be in his lungs but we are just waiting on a few more test results, which we should get this morning.

we have been moved to a private room though so that’s nice!

he is now feeding so well as he did struggle to latch on the day he was born, and he’s sleeping 3 hour stretches too so that’s amazing… I am thinking this may change when he’s not poorly though!

I hope everyone else is okay and sorry if I’m delayed in replying xx

Oh he has jaundice too but currently just below treatment levels but he is being tested again this morning… I do think his colour looks worse this morning so I think he may need treatment x

Huge congrats @pastelheart!

Sorry I have been awol. Unfortunately I am struggling with depression and anxiety. I think brought on or certainly made worse from my tough breastfeeding journey. Coming off the pumping now and my hormones are kicking my arse.

aw @magpie234 im so sorry to read that. I would def reach out to some post natal care, I didn’t realise that maternity assessment is available to us for 90 days after baby has arrived. You’re so not alone in how you’re feeling, they will be so prepared to offer the right help. We’re all here for you too. I wish it was possible to all meet up and make a tea for each other when needed, but lots of space to lend an ear at least. Have you had the breastfeeding team come out to you? I have had them visit quite a bit in hospital and although it was stressful trying to establish under their watchful eye and not quite getting it, I’m now so much more informed than I was. Are you getting much regular sleep even if interrupted? Exhaustion is my worst for plummeting stability. Thinking of you.

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