May Babies 2025 - Thread 3

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Thought i'd start a new thread as the other was full

Yes I got some capsules on Amazon coming tomorrow. I got my Hakka out to stop the engorgement and today has been much more Comfortable

Oh we still have to put him to bed and are in and out of the room for about half an hour each night, he dicks around wrestling with the duvet etc for a bit; but we moved him when he was 14 months old and back then I was still breastfeeding to sleep so it was easy to boob him to sleep then plonk him in his cot. Then he went through a phase of being cuddled to sleep.

These days we do evening routine and tell him what to expect next, so after milk and a biscuit (I know 🙈) we read a book and then brush teeth and then go upstairs and go night night. I verbally reiterate each step when we're all done with one thing.

My partner puts him to bed and they decide which toys get to go in the cot, he has some water, kisses and gets tucked in. Since baby came along he comes in to my room to say night night to baby, and it helps if baby is in his moses basket to avoid fomo.

I gave up doing bedtime 8 months pregnant because he wanted to sit on my bump and I just could not handle it anymore. There were tears but we had to ride it out and stuck to it, so he learnt that regardless of what he did daddy was still the one coming in to settle him. Eventually he accepted it.

We’ve always found strict bedtime routine is the most important thing. Even though my other two have never slept with us they still ask to sleep in our bed most nights 😂 and my eldest is nearly 8. We have bath/wash books 5 minutes stay and settle (sometimes one of us stays outside both rooms) then sleep time. It’s hard at first lots of going in and out for about 3 days then they soon learn

Is there a postnatal thread for the now born May babies?

Hey all. Still slowly taking our time gaining weight. But the Medela hospital pump has made a difference in output for sure. Just need to balance top ups and bf!

Hey, we are struggling with weight gain too she wasn’t due to be weighed but we’ve had some feeding issues and I have had massive issues with my section site so I insisted she was weighed again on day 8 and she had lost a small amount again. Little lady is due to be reweighed in 48 hours which is tomorrow.

I had mastitis and the redness has improved but one breast is still so sensitive and painful when feeding, I’m going back to the GP today. We are feeding every 3 hours and top up formula too. I have a silicone pump which I am using just to get the engorgement off and I feel abit like I know what I’m doing now but I think it’s left one breast extremely inflamed.

anyone of the section ladies using a belly binder ? I had absolutely no intent of using one but my site is so painful and I’ve found compression is the only thing that makes it bare able. So I’m going to invest in one I think… I also keep pulling my side when moving so I think it’s defo worth it.

Hi @BrightGoose I got the belly binder and post partum kit from Frida John Lewis and Amazon sell them. I've been wearing mine since day 2 post partum. Yes I'm doing 3 pumps a day. Plus doner milk top ups. Still not at birth weight. But I had a bad latch at hospital plus blood loss. He was on antibiotics so I'm a week behind in milk flow. But it's catching up now. Just slowly.

I'm feeding every 2hrs. I got a double Medela symphony hospital grade one.

I haven't got a belly binder, I have seen them on Amazon and boots. Still quite sore and sensitive from the incision, don't know if it's still my belly going down, but it all seems to be at the bottom, don't know if it's still swollen and definitely feels numb.

Just wondering if anyone out there has any advice or kind words for someone due today with no sign of labour! The waiting is killing me ! Anyone else not had their May baby yet?

@StrawberrySunflower my only advice is a change of perspective! My DD was a few weeks early so I was expecting that this time. DS ended up arriving at 40+1 and my god towards the end I was struggling. It helped to just accept that DS would come when he was ready, and in any event, it was almost over. Whatever happens you will have your baby with you soon!

Also, my friend encouraged me to have sex with DH and for him not to be gentle. We DTD and I went into labour the next day. Could be a coincidence of course, but it’s the only thing that I “did” in the run up to going into labour. I tried a sweep at 39 weeks but found it horrific so declined one at my 40 week appointment!

Is this your first?

Aww @StrawberrySunflower baby will be here soon and will have a beautiful June birthday. Sending lots of positive thoughts !

Thank you for your kind words and advice! I know it’s not going to be long now but I do feel impatient! I’m getting quite a lot of ‘is the baby here yet’ texts too which doesn’t always help 🤣
sorry to hear the sweep was horrific- I think I’ll be having one at 41 weeks if nothing has happened by then but I’m not looking forwards to it.
yes it’s my first, and I understand that means I’m more likely to go over. I’ve been trying to go for a walk each day but I do struggle to walk very much due to my ankles being swollen, my backache etc etc
haha thanks for the tip regarding DH, ;)

I think I just need to try and do things to take my mind off it until it happens rather than thinking about it all the time!

@StrawberrySunflower I was also getting loads of messages asking where baby was, it’s so frustrating! My MIL even messaged me to say that she couldn’t sleep at night over it. I felt like responding with “sorry, YOU can’t sleep? Try being 40 weeks pregnant. No one is more keen for this baby to arrive than me, trust me” 😂

It is pretty tortuous but it can’t and won’t go on forever, the finish line is in sight! Have you tried collecting colostrum? I did it from 37 weeks but it didn’t bring anything on for me, could be worth a try though.

I don’t mean to put you off the sweep either. Plenty of women find it to be fine! I just found it really uncomfortable and it felt super unnatural to me. When I arrived at hospital in labour they offered me another one while I was having a cervical dilation check, I declined then as well. I thought what’s the point, I’m already in labour!

@microwoods omg that’s kind of funny and frustrating! My in laws have gone on holiday today and I think were a tiny bit disappointed that they didn’t get to meet baby before they go! I think baby’s still going to not be born when they get back 🤣 it’s the first grandchild on both sides and the whole family is of course buzzing with excitement. I’m just sat here like a whale I guess !

if I leave the house I also get comments from every stranger like ‘ooooo you look like you are about to pop’ and they look at me like I’m going to give birth right there and then on the shop floor 🤣 I think at this point I’d just be happy things were happening but it’s a little annoying :p

I have been collecting colostrum but found it quite easy as I am just oozing with milk (which is great yay!) so I ran out of syringes a week ago and as I already have a freezer full thought that was probably enough! I guess I could just express some anyway as I understand nipple stimulation can bring things on too. I hadn’t thought of that so thank you :)

ah it’s okay - I think in another weeks time I’ll just want to try anything to get baby out anyway. I don’t really like the sound of it but I can’t imagine labours going to be a walk in the park anyway! It sounds better than the rods and other methods for induction I suppose.

@StrawberrySunflower I had a c-section in the end but I did manage to kick-start my labour with a lovely day out - at 40+5 I was so frustrated nothing was happening, that DH took me to the seaside. We did all my favourite things, beach walk, crazy golf, ice-cream etc. Basically do anything that makes you happy, to keep your mind off having a baby and to get the oxytocin flowing!

@LeBonBon
that’s so lovely !!! What a special day!!! :)
I think I might be getting some signs now/ had an awful night with some period type cramping, felt a bit like trapped wind and constant urge to go to the loo. I’m hoping it’s the start of some early labour!

Hey guys what’s everyone’s babies sleeping in ? And with we have a next to me but I have toiled with blankets swaddles and swaddle bags and she hates them all

@BrightGoose Roman is sleeping in a Love to Dream swaddle up sack. My DD loved them and he’s doing well in them too. Once he starts trying to roll over we’ll move to normal sleep sacks x

@BrightGoose we are using sleeping bags, but our bedroom is quite warm 21°-25° so i am constantly mixing up combinations of tog and vest/sleepsuit. What works some nights doesn't always work the next especially with the weather being so hot and cold at the moment!

Miley is only 7bls still so I cant use sleeping bags yet I’m sure she’ll be happier since we can

@BrightGoose we're just adjusting based on where she's sleeping, I'm so scared of her overheating so would rather her be cold than too warm! She has slept in the bedside cot for a total of about 45 minutes since being born so that makes it harder to judge, as when she's next to me she'll be warmer. Bedroom is at about 20° each night, I welcome any tips!

Miley absolutely refused the next to me at first to the point were we co slept again just in a baby grow and vest nothing else. We seem to be able to get her in there now but it’s defo hit and miss and she would sleep better co sleeping but my husband needs a bed too 🤭

I don’t have tips we are just winging it too

It's 23/24 in my bedroom most night so I've been having him in a vest but we co-sleep.

Have you tried a dummy? DS was refusing to be put in the next to me for the first three nights so we gave in and tried a dummy. It helped to transition him into the cot. After a few nights he started refusing the dummy but seems to be more tolerant of being put in there now thankfully!