Due in July 2025

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Hello! Apologies if there is a July thread already (I couldn’t find one). Is there anyone else due in July who would like to chat during the journey?

Hi ladies hope all is well.
I had my consultant appointment this morning and they have requested a date for my c-section. I should be getting a call in a few days with the date. Obviously Subject to potential change nearer the time as there maybe emergencies. But excited to get a date.

@Justgoingforaweeliedown i totally get it. I think with this being my first and having never experienced either vbac or c-section it might make it easier. As mentioned a big part of me choosing c-section is to avoid having an emergency one. I am truly terrified of that happening. Your plan sounds like a good one and I’m pleased your consultant was nice.

@RG84 so glad your appointment went well. It will be so good to get a date even if it is a ball park. Is this your first c-section?

@Justgoingforaweeliedown I'm really sorry that you had a difficult previous birth and recovery, I too also had a traumatic first birth and therefore an emergency CS. Just wanted to share that I had a vbac with my 2nd and was only able to go ahead after having a birth reflection with an amazing consultant who was then able to go through what the risks were of those particular factors repeating in my 2nd birth. Glad to hear that you had the debrief, even with it being difficult to hear, it may help in making a choice. It helps to write down all the uncertainties as it can help in making an informed choice that's best for you which you can discuss with your consultant. You will know what's best for you and your little one x

@MrsBP15 there are so many stories (good and bad) out there you don't know where in the spectrum you'll fall when it's your turn, which is daunting. My midwife first time round spoke me through it and she made it sound like a lovely romantic and empowering experience so I was feeling positive - after all, everyone does it! My mum also had two straightforward and very quick births with only gas and air so, naively, maybe I expected the same but my baby had other ideas. That being said, my sister, cousins and a few friends all had babies within a few months either side of me and every one had an intervention of some sort (induction, forceps, emergency section), all of which I wanted to avoid. You just need to do what you think is best for you and baby. Whatever you decide, once you've got your baby in your arms it'll all be worth it.

@MrsBP15 thank you. This will be my 3rd section. 1st was a choice if I wanted to continue with waiting for induction to process or c-section, the 2nd was elective and suggested by consultant and 3rd is also a c-section and suggested by consultant. Recovery for 1st was 10 days, 2nd was around 5-7 days. As long as you keep on top of your painkillers, all should be fine. Of course I had to sign off risks etc but I'm just not mentally and physically there for a vaginal delivery. Hope you make the best decision for yourself and baby :) but speak to your midwife/Consultant for advice x

Also want to add, both experiences were really good.

I totally understand and agree, I actually havent heard one bad story of recovery from C-section of women I personally know so I think it is actually the best option! Least stress and most control, I feel the same as you I want to avoid emergency c section or forceps.

Hi everyone, how are you doing? Has anyone felt movement yet? I'm 21 weeks tomorrow and I can't say I 100% have. I don't know whether it's gas, bloating feeling, I don't know know but it's not 100%.

I have received my date for my c-section this morning which makes it even more real. Subject to change should there be emergencies but for now I have a date. Just seems around the corner :/

Thank you @Justgoingforaweeliedown its so helpful to hear others stories though as you say everyone is different. It’s certainly what feels right for me though I’m conscious that I haven’t discussed it with a medical professional yet (will do later today) so we’ll see. One of my main reasons is wanting to avoid unexpected interventions.

Thank you @RG84 im the same in terms of not being mentally there even though I massively respect those who do it, I just know it’s not for me. I know that recovery can be tough but I’ve heard plenty of stories about vaginal recoveries not exactly being a cake walk either. It’s a big decision but I feel comfortable with it right now. Thank you so much for sharing your experience.

Good for you @Frenchtoastie for knowing what you want and what is right for you. I’m speaking to the consultant today so I can let you know how that goes.

Hi @RG84 I’m about to be 22 weeks and can’t say I’ve felt a huge amount or am 100% sure I’ve felt anything. This is my first so I’m not really sure what I’m looking for. People have explained what it feels like but I find it hard to know exactly. I know people talk about bubbles which I think I might have felt but who knows.

Thats great re date for your c-section. Can you share or are is that normally kept private? Again I have no clue about the the etiquette of these things 🤣

@MrsBP15 it's such a tricky one as this being my 3rd, I still get confused with what is movement and what isn't haha..I had to ask my hubby when I felt movement with my first, he said it was around 23/24 week for definite movements. They said the more you have, the easier it is to identify however I still can't tell at the moment but I think it's just flutters. I'm 21 weeks today.

C-sections are definitely not the easy way either, it's major surgery but honestly I've had good experiences with two and praying the 3rd is a good experience as well.
Of course, my due date was early Aug but I knew it would be a July baby due to section. It's booked pretty early at exactly 37 weeks which would be on the 15th July but as its booked so in advance, I wouldn't be surprised if the date changes. But for now that's what it is :)

@RG84 oh gosh under no allusions that a c section is easy and again have massive respect for anyone who has one.

Had my appointment today and the consultant sent off my c section request there and then. The whole appointment was very brief so we barely lingered on it for very long 🤣 he said to expect a call but that it will probably take place around 39 weeks. Interesting that it’s a little later than yours? My birthday is 15th July so I can confirm that’s a great to be born 🙂

I have been put on blood thinners from 28 weeks, anyone else doing those? Thought I’d left the days of injections behind me but apparently not. Oh well it was a good 2 months or so without them! don’t need to see the consultant again now, he was very relaxed about it all. I have my GD test in a few weeks though so we’ll see what that comes back with!

@MrsBP15 you'll be fine, now that you know you're going to have a section, it just makes things a little easier in terms of planning.

That's great news, so glad you have it sorted and the request is in. My previous pregnancy the date got changed to 4 days later so anything is possible. I have type 2 diabetes and taking insulin, so they have booked it earlier...fow now! Hope you are feeling more reassured now that you have had your appointment.
Haha that's good to know, I'm sure it's a great day to have 😊

The only blood thinners I have are taking aspirin daily haha..Good luck with the GD test, I hope it all goes well 😊

Thanks @RG84 i was feeling good until I had a phone call this morning giving me a provisional date for after my due date?!? We know exactly when the baby was conceived as we had ivf. I know it can only be provisional for now but i was expecting at least a week or so earlier. I’m also conscious that it’s only March and things can change (as you mentioned) but I’m still confused. I queried it with the woman on the phone and she said she just has to make the phone call but I’ll have lots of meeting and appointments before then so it will almost certainly change. Er ok then? I’ve emailed my midwife but I’m getting quite frustrated as I’m trying to sort out mat leave and I just feel like I’m bouncing around all over the place!

sorry that’s all really ranty but I would rather they waited a bit longer to give me a date then give me one after my due date!😩

@MrsBP15 that's really annoying and really doesn't make any sense to book a date after your due that. To me that becomes an emergency c-section after your date.
Definitely need to keep at them. I can understand your frustration though, I'd be the same. So ridiculous! Don't let this stress you though. I wouldn't bother with emails when you make contact, call them and let them know you need to make arrangements for mat leave.

I lost my Matb1 form 😳 I still need to hand it in yet. Haven't told my employer yet, I have a rescheduled meeting with HR tomorrow. Nervous!

Thank you @RG84 i for my pre op appointment through yesterday so I thought I’d have a stab at calling the number and someone answered straight away! She said I wasn’t the only one calling with this issue this week and it seems like someone is going rogue with booking these appointments. The lady who normally does them is away until next week so she is going to ask her to contact me. I’m pleased because I don’t really have anyone else I can contact other than my midwife as I’ve been officially discharged from the clinic after one appointment. This is all just a bit of a new world to me as I went private (not through choice) for ivf so haven’t dealt with the nhs for a while. It’s just so hard to know who to talk to!

I don’t really understand the MATB1 form but I’ve asked my midwife. I need to give all my paperwork to HR in two weeks so hopefully it will get sorted by then! Phew! Being pregnant is like a full time job! I’ve also booked antenatal classes to start in May so that’s good though I’m not sure how helpful I’ll find the Hypno birthing session 🤣

Hope your meeting with HR goes well and you’ve got a nice weekend planned. First Mother’s Day in about three years that I’ve actually felt happy so that’s nice!

Hi all. How's everyone feeling? Just looking for a bit of solidarity. Had a tough start with horrific morning sickness and acid reflux, so lots of throwing up, until early March when I caved and got omeprazole and it's been magic. However I've started being really sick again the past few days and it's so much worse than before. No idea what's brought it on. I'm 22 weeks on Wednesday so meant to be glowing by now. I just look drained and sweaty 🫩😩

Hello @Justgoingforaweeliedown im so sorry that you’re feeling so poorly. I’m afraid I don’t have any tips or anything as I haven’t had any sickness so far (sorry that’s probably not what you want to hear) but I can say that I’m far from feeling like I’m glowing in the second trimester, in fact I felt way better in the first. Hope things get better for you soon, do try and take it easy if you can 💐 xx

@MrsBP15 I felt great by this point first time round but this time it's brutal and I'm feeling really sorry for myself 😂 it's my birthday today which doesn't help, made worse now because apparently DH isn't well (migraine) so obviously he's dying. I've heard dads to be can go into pregnancy mode in solidarity - if that's what this is I'm not liking it 😩😅

Hi everyone hope you’re well. Just posted this on main pregnancy page but wondered if anyone had any experience of this here:

so last night my husband and I had sex for the first time in ages. Afterwards I went to the loo and noticed my vagina felt a little sore and when I wiped there was some pink blood on the tissue. It was only a small amount and was gone after the second wipe. Went to sleep and went to the loo as usual first thing, when I wiped there was nothing on the tissue but when I pressed the tissue in a little more, there was a tiny little bit there. I phoned MAU and they said I didn’t need to come in but keep a pad on and monitor throughout the day. They said it could just be the cervix getting irritated from sex and that this is quite common.
i’m 26 weeks and this is my first pregnancy conceived via ivf. Had a hematoma at the start but that has gone. I’m just looking for similar experiences. I will of course do as MAU have asked but it’s always good to hear from others as I say, this is my first pregnancy.
Thank you so much for your help!

Hi @MrsBP15 how had it been the rest of the day today? I've not had this personally but I've read on here many times in threads that it's very common after having sex for some women. Sorry I'm not much help but just wanted to reassure that I've read about it lots on here x

Hi @3rdbabytime thank you so much for responding. All fine the rest of today. Still a little sore/irritated down there but no more spotting or anything and feel physically fine apart from the usual aches and pains! The other thread I created has been v reassuring with others having similar experiences and all being well so I am feeling a little less anxious now. Hope you’re well? Can’t believe I’ll be in the third trimester in a few weeks x

How’s everyone doing? I’m currently 27 weeks can’t believe I’ll soon be in 3rd trimester!! Sleep still really bad and starting to find it harder to get comfy in bed, anyone else?!