Social services

[Louiee11]

So need advice I am 38 weeks pregnant I was honest to ss about a situation but they found more lies out and now know who the baby’s father is too , they have said about a legal meeting is needed I’m now worried what’s going to happen
any advice please

You were honest but they found out more lies?

What is the meeting called? a child protection conference? or pre proceedings?

Yeah I stated few things off my chest but they went through my phone today and found more stuff out which I didn’t think to even tell them

Whats going to happen is that they will have this meeting that they have told you about and in the meeting they will discuss you and and the safety of your unborn child (if the meeting is before the child is born) or your child (if the meeting is after your child is born).

Thats about all I can say really, without knowing more about your circumstances. Are you able to share a bit more with us? many mumsnetters will have had experience with SS in one way or another and could help more than me.

Based on what you’ve said nobody can say what will happen. All you can do is be completely open and honest with social services going forward and comply with their requests.

They said either way the baby will be out on child protection I can’t remember what the meeting is called just ss said there will be a legal meeting to see what is now going to happen

OK. Did you give your phone to SS for them to go through?

Or were you arrested and the police took your phone and subsequently passed the information on it to SS?

The main advice is:

1. Put your child first.
2. Do everything they ask you to do.
3. Don’t make contact with people who are likely to be a poor impact on your child.

What are the actual facts and then you’ll be able to get specific advice.

Is this because of you contacting that guy in prison?

No I gave them my phone

Is the father someone you shouldn't have contact with, or someone who shouldnt be around children?

Well as you've lied it sounds like they will be looking to ascertain your ability to parent safely. Nobody on here can tell you the exact next steps. If the issues are serious enough then they can apply to have baby removed from you at birth, you need to now be scrupulously honest with them about everything to avoid this happening. Birth Companions have some useful advice on their website.

Why?

They asked to see messages and then went into fully everyone’s messages

What on earth did you get off your chest??

What were the other lies.
Is the guy in prison, baby's father

No

So based on your multiple previous threads I take it the guy in prison is actually the babies father?

You need to stop contacting him, SS are unlikely to let you keep the baby if you continue a relationship with him

Well why are you worried they know who baby's father is?
What were the other lies? We can't help you if you don't tell us.
It sounds like it could possibly be heard at a gateway panel with a view to a period at PLO.

Op, if you genuinely want help and advice, then you need to lay out the facts (not your feelings) of this story.

Don't include any details that could identify you, such as name and location, just a brief overview of your situation. Only then will people be shod to truly help and support.

I mean Jesus kick a random stranger who you know absolutely nothing about.

nasty comment

I agree with this. If you want real help and advice you need to say what's really happening. I think that there is a reason social services are concerned about this man that you aren't saying.

People are in prison for things that are not going to make them wary of him as a person so I'm speculating at it being for drugs, violent offences or worse. It is a bit late to convince them that you will not have any further contact with him, but you need to break it off completely anyway.

ETA are they also concerned about the baby's father?