Social services

[Louiee11]

So need advice I am 38 weeks pregnant I was honest to ss about a situation but they found more lies out and now know who the baby’s father is too , they have said about a legal meeting is needed I’m now worried what’s going to happen
any advice please

But it's factual? If the parents are actively working against steps to keep the child safe?

Well tbh, it’s there for all to see. OP has confirmed she’s being investigated by SS due to information they have seen which may put her unborn child at risk. SS don’t get involved unless the danger is real.

She had two threads pretending it was a friend. And doesn't have custody of her eldest child.

They are involved due to last child

What do you think you need to do @Louiee11 ?

Is your unborn child already under child protection? Legal meeting sounds like potentially pre proceedings PLO which is the step before removing the unborn child after birth. If so, this is incredibly serious and will set out what the concerns are and provide a last opportunity for you to work with them honestly to ensure the baby is safe. Your dishonesty is the most concerning as it indicates you are not able to effectively safeguard your child. They must be very concerned to get to this stage if that is what it is

When was your last child removed from your custody?

This thread about you?

Social services www.mumsnet.com/Talk/parenting/5265393-social-services

Everyone on the other thread was clear why your actions were a mistake. This is the expected result. Unless you can demonstrate that you have some semblance of understanding as to why the decisions you are making are dangerous and are not putting your children's best interests first, I imagine that you are at high risk of losing custody of this child too.

You seem to be utterly incapable of making good, sensible decisions for yourself let alone your children.

I'm sorry, it seems like you are "known to social services" and so they will be very concerned about the baby and are likely to be much more proactive than if you had just come across their radar.

You clearly don't want to keep getting pregnant and having the baby removed. But it happens. Please stop having relationships with guys in prison, telling lies to social workers. Ask the sws to help you - see if they could organise a mother and baby placement for example.

But recognise that you will need to make better choices for the sake of the baby.

I know what I need to do which I have done it but I think it’s to late now as there having a legal meeting and baby’s going on child protection:(

When she was a year old

Why are you contacting this man in prison on a daily basis?

He isn't the father of your baby.

You're not showing very good judgement with regard to your baby's welfare and safety.

You've already had a child removed from your care. Surely you want to ensure that the new baby remains with you.

So they could potentially remove this baby :(

It will be because you've been contacting a drug dealer in prison. And then hoped they wouldn't find out, despite knowing they would be involved due to the situation with your first child. You have had one child removed, you are set to have this one removed too if you don't start putting your child first.

How come they went through your phone? That seems crazy!

Ah OP, your decision making is properly lacking. Just please, jump through all of the hoops they give you. Stop contacting the bloke in prison completely. There's a reason they're being heavy handed with you. You need to protect your baby.

What are the other things they found out? People can give you a better idea of what you're facing if you're honest. Why are they concermed now knowing who the babies father is?

Why?. Maybe just tell us the whole situation. That will help to give you advice

Are they worried about the baby's father @Louiee11?

I’ve seen your threads before. you need to leave him and put your child first. You know what you need to do so I don’t know why you’re posting on here.

They went through your phone? Are social services even allowed to go through your phone? Were the police involved? There is obviously something quite serious going on here.

Why did they go through your phone? Why are you keeping in contact with someone you have been told by ss to keep away from?

Why did you lie about who the father was so social services?
It’s looking like you’ve got things to hide and they have due cause for concern.

How long ago was your other child removed? Is the new baby by the same father?

She says she gave it to them. Presumably as she didn't think other things on there were worth worrying about, but it turned out that they were. The decision making is seriously lacking here and the child is clearly at risk. Social services are damned if they do and damned if they don't.