Social services

[Louiee11]

So need advice I am 38 weeks pregnant I was honest to ss about a situation but they found more lies out and now know who the baby’s father is too , they have said about a legal meeting is needed I’m now worried what’s going to happen
any advice please

She mentioned drug dealer she's pregnant why is she contacting a drug dealer? She needs to come of the internet and ring the services and fight for herself to get well and her baby.

Do you have any family or friends that support you?

Because she's got another thread going where she claimed it was her friend who was pregnant and she'd been phoning a drug dealer in prison who she likes.

Everything was going so well and ss even said when the baby’s here my contact with my other child will increase a lot but then I was honest about having contact with someone in prison and then they found out about baby’s father and now baby’s on cp plan im worried ive messed it all up and its to late i know what’s I’ve done is bad absolutely stupid but i dont know how ill cope with having another child off me

Yeah I got good family network

It isn’t too late. You messed up but that doesn’t mean you can’t turn things around

Then get a grip and start sorting your life out!
If this baby’s father was already a risk factor to a stable home life for you and your child why would you then go and start trying to strike up some sort of romantic relationship with a drug dealer in prison while pregnant?
You just make bad decision after bad decision and you clearly need to take a huge step back and revaluate things.
9 years in and you are still making terrible choices for your children. Surely you want to change that?

There is no contact since Saturday with the drug dealer.

That's not very long though. I think you'll have to demonstrate that you can stop contacting him for several weeks.

I haven’t been honest about who the father was till they found out today, and now they see it as risky, so they're putting baby on a CP plan and having a legal meeting, to see whether I can have baby with me still or not.

There must be some serious concerns about this man, then.

Not to mention the fact that you tried to hide the fact that he was the baby's father.

You do seem to be rather economical with the truth where social services are concerned.

That changes things. I'm lost for words.

Your choices in men are worrying. What was your last relationship like? They will judge your judgement of people who you choose to have around you. They want to know you will put your child first rather than a lunatic drug dealer.

It would be more worrying if SS weren't involved at this point.

Why do you also have an identical thread on this told from the perspective of a friend of the 38w pregnant woman?

Which one are you?

She isn't a drug or alcohol user though.

Obviously the pregnant one who had her child removed for neglect...

Thanks another poster has corrected me.

But why two threads, same username, but two different stories?

Well she says she doesn't, but there's an elastic relationship with the truth, so who knows.

Well we really don’t know that to be fair, just that in this context “the dealer” is the love interest and not her dealer necessarily. However it’s clear the OP still loves a chaotic lifestyle and chooses to keep dubious people close to her and has poor choice in men so she could definitely also be a user.
I don’t think anyone hardline anti drugs seeks out a drug dealer in prison to begin a romantic relationship.

I don't think being upfront comes that easily to the OP

Probably because the OP didn't want to admit the truth on her first thread.

Op is the baby’s father the same man who is in prison? I don’t remember that being clear in your other thread either.

Did he sneak a phone in prison to text op or did he call her from prison. This is confusing.

In case someone points her out it's anonymous.

Couldn't your family take in your baby until SS are satisfied that you can put your baby first and not a lunatic man.

Sounds like a phone call on a prison phone as the concern was that it was recorded/listened in to.

Most prisoners are allowed to make phone calls.