Boy/ girl - why do people care so much?

[pinkwaffles]

We've decided not to find out the sex of our baby until s/he is born. It's our first and probably only.

I appreciate I'm probably in the minority but I have been fascinated by people's reactions to this.

'How will you be able to buy anything?' being a big one.

'You won't be able to have a gender reveal!' being another.

Honestly - I don't believe in gender reveals or pink for girls/ blue for boys anyway - but even if I did - there are other colours!

I don't think my newborn is really going to care whether they are dressed in 'gender appropriate' clothes, and I'm certainly not fussed, in fact I'd rather they weren't.

It's just winding me up partly because my mum is desperate to know and is pressuring us to change our minds.

What do you think? To me it's kind of the least important thing - as long as I have a healthy baby, I'm genuinely happy and I cannot relate to the 'which would you prefer?' question. How can you have a preference before they are even here and you can't possibly know who they are going to be?

Yeah, that’s not what I said though.

He is fine, but I probably won’t risk having another in case it’s another one like him. Another boy.

I asked you why and that's what you said. You stereotyped both boys and girls, how isn't that sexist?

I said I didn’t want boys because I believe in traditional gender roles, and I would have little to nothing in common with a boy.

@MinnieBalloon you said the overwhelming majority of boys are loud, boisterous and messy and dirty. That’s sexism.

and traditional gender roles stereotype boys and girls which is sexism. As is saying you'll have little to nothing in common with a boy because you think they are all loud, boisterous and messy but girls are quiet.

It's the very definition of sexism.

This thread shows clearly that it would be much better if no one found out before the birth.

I assume your DD’s have a father - does he not have anything in common with them?

Not all of us are like pp though. I found out simply because it was information about my babies and I wanted to know all of the information.

Odd you choose to have a monogamous relationship and live with a man that you must have little to nothing in common with.