Boy/ girl - why do people care so much?

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We've decided not to find out the sex of our baby until s/he is born. It's our first and probably only.

I appreciate I'm probably in the minority but I have been fascinated by people's reactions to this.

'How will you be able to buy anything?' being a big one.

'You won't be able to have a gender reveal!' being another.

Honestly - I don't believe in gender reveals or pink for girls/ blue for boys anyway - but even if I did - there are other colours!

I don't think my newborn is really going to care whether they are dressed in 'gender appropriate' clothes, and I'm certainly not fussed, in fact I'd rather they weren't.

It's just winding me up partly because my mum is desperate to know and is pressuring us to change our minds.

What do you think? To me it's kind of the least important thing - as long as I have a healthy baby, I'm genuinely happy and I cannot relate to the 'which would you prefer?' question. How can you have a preference before they are even here and you can't possibly know who they are going to be?

She says she adores and loves her boys, just would like a daughter as well as them.

@MinnieBalloon its the fact that you went and got pregnant at the risk of having a boy that concerns me. From what you are saying it might have been a child protection issue if you did have a boy. So it’s “lucky” for them as well that you didn’t have one.

I don’t think people really care at all, it’s just an easy conversation with a pregnant woman for them.

Would you have aborted a male foetus? I’m not judging btw as I’m pro abortion, I’m just curious?

@Cornflakes123 it's humorous that you consider me to be overly sensitive because I called out your personal comment:

"Your attitude is disgusting I hope your girls don’t grow up to be like you."

Yet you have demonstrated extreme sensitivity by jumping down this woman's throat and berating her because she wouldn't want to raise a boy like you did. All the while creating a fallacy that she hates men totally... and calling her delusional.

We get it, you love your son. I'm pregnant with a boy and over the moon. I also have a daughter. Other posters are allowed to feel differently. It doesn't take anything away from your experience. It isn't an insult to you or your son.

Honestly @Cornflakes123 just leave everyone else and their views to it. It doesn’t matter. I’ve got 2 boys and consider myself
the luckiest person alive to have them. Everyone else’s opinion on that or that they wouldn’t have wanted boys doesn’t matter a jot.

There is a difference between engaging in a discussion and being required to answer every single question anyone ever puts to you.

I think it’s good for boys to be loud, boisterous, exploring etc. Doesn’t mean I want to raise them 😅

More dramatics I see 😅

I think what is concerning is that you cannot accept that not everyone is the same as you. Okay, you love your boy. So what? Everyone loves their kids.

I’m sure there are people out there who would feel lucky to have two boys. I’m not one of them 🤷‍♀️ So what?

If you love your boy, then what does it matter that other people don’t want boys?

Of course not. I’m anti-abortion.

But you don't think it's good if girls are loud, boisterous or love to explore? Just because they are girls?

Thanks for replying

My girl is loud, boisterous and loves exploring. Still have to raise her!

I don’t have to answer your questions about my boy it’s absolutely none of your business. I’m not at your beck and call 😉

i accept everyone is different and has different views to me. I am certainly more accepting than you by the sounds of things.

however I don’t accept sexism which you have displayed here blatantly. In the same way I don’t accept racism or any other type of discrimination.

I’m just calling out blatant sexism. Sorry if that offends you. I’m allowed to be disgusted by someone being sexist about boys. “We get it” indeed. Stop being so patronising.

of course you are..

Yeah, that response only works if someone is haranguing you about why you haven’t answered their questions. I have not done that, so your response does not make sense.

Having a strong preference for girls is not sexist.

We all know you love your kid. Nobody cares but you. You have such a bee in your bonnet about him being a boy I’m starting to actually think you were desperate for a girl and ended up with a boy, hence your defensive position here.

Of course I’m sure you’ll protest otherwise, but I can’t see why else you would be so oversensitive that someone else doesn’t want a boy.

Your reasons why are sexist though. Come on now.

I haven’t once said I love my boy. You have said now a few times “we know you love your boy” and asked me about it several times. You literally know absolutely nothing about me apart from that I have a boy. You don’t know I don’t have any daughters I didn’t say I didn’t.

you have made several sexist statements about boys . Oh I don’t have a problem with boys I just want absolutely nothing to do with them and don’t want to be around them or their mothers..em yeh.

You’re welcome to think that. It doesn’t make it true.

Right. You don’t love him, then?

Yes it does. Sexism has a definition and includes stereotyping based on sex.

I don't want boys because they are more likely to be loud, messy and boisterous is sexist.