Due July 2025

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I've just had my BFP & my estimated due date in July 2nd.

This will be my first pregnancy

@TiffanyBlythe scan anxiety is something different after a loss. Good luck on Sunday

@TiffanyBlythe bless you I think you’re the same as me where you have major scan ptsd and really get yourself in a mess before them. I have the exact same thing and have worked myself up so much for them. Jusy adamant it’ll all end. What time is your scan tomorrow?

sorry to hear of your loss. I am 9 weeks tomorrow so still very scared like you. Having another scan next weekend at 10 weeks but just get so scared after my MMC last year. Sending thoughts. X

Yes definitely have scan ptsd, the entire week before a scan I’m a mess! My scan is Sunday at 10am so not too long to wait now.

Sorry to hear of your loss, it’s so hard isn’t it. I find trying to reassure myself much harder now after the MMC last year.

Glad for the support in this group, we’re in this together x

@TiffanyBlythe at least it is early on Sunday that you have it. Is this the first you’ve had? Do you have any other children or is this your first too?
and I agree. Pregnancy after loss is hard. Harder than I was anticipating.

just watched the film ‘Joy’ on Netflix about the first IVF baby and now I’m a total mess 😂🙈 meant to be going out for dinner and look like a crying mess.

@Superscientist you must be a very good mum then if that is your mindset — trying everything in your will before having your ask for help 🤍 the pandemic has affected so many people in more ways than you realise. My anxiety has increased tenfold and have really intrusive negative thoughts that take over my ability to think logically sometimes. It was never this bad pre covid. I guess in a way it helped you hid your bipolar but it’s sad you have to.

That sounds really optimistic. Do you think you could be off on dates then? And do their dates you measured at line up with your time with your husband? Least you don’t have long to wait until your scan. It’s a horrible period but you’ve done most of it now. I’m having a scan a week tomorrow and already feel like it’s forever away.

No I’ve actually had 3 scans already 🙈 I had one at 6 weeks at the EPU and they couldn’t see anything, they wanted to scan me again in 7 days but I literally couldn’t wait that long so booked a private scan at 6+4 and saw my little bean with a strong heart beat! Had the follow up at the EPU at 7 weeks so that was the last time we saw everything was ok.

Ive had two losses this year unfortunately, but this will be my first child. How about you?

Aw I’m looking forward to watching that!! I’m an emotional wreck too x

Hth for everyone else pregnant after a loss, it's hard. I'm (mostly) quite glad it's such a busy time of year (I'm a primary teacher and have 3 older kids) so I'm managing to not obsess too much so far. Id really recommend Zoe Clark-Coates' books for anyone who has experienced pregnancy loss but I'm reading her pregnancy after loss book which is helpful. I've got an early scan booked for the 9th but I know it'll be at the ward where I lost my baby girl so that's such a big thought.

@GCS34 it's a bit of a blur, I can't remember if we dtd on his return 🤦🏼‍♀️
We must have right?! 🤷🏼‍♀️

My parents are more supportive when they don't know something's going on. My dad's a fixer and my mum gets stuck in her own feelings. Nearly 20 years on i still hear frequently how hard it was for her when I was suicidal at 18. No comment about how hard it might have been being 18 and suicidal!

There's a lot of mental scars from that time for sure. Do you have much support for you anxiety and intrusive thoughts?

I hope the next week goes quickly for both of us!

Thanks for the recommendation @MrsS11
You would think more hospitals would think about where to scan women. A friend told me how hard she found it when she had her son as epu and ultrasound shared a waiting room so she was sat waiting to find out if her current pregnancy was continuing in the room where she miscarried. I'm grateful that my epu is on a different floor to the main ultrasound dept and the early scans are in a small room with it's own toilet and chairs to wait with. It has made it easier

Has anyone done the early gender sneak peak test?
im nearly 7 weeks and really considering doing it (at home self prick blood test) because im too impatient to wait 18 or so weeks to find out!
but also worried ill be more disappointed and attached if i was to lose the baby. What’s peoples thoughts on this?

I REALLLLLY want to do one, but I’ve heard so many people say theirs were wrong, and the sample likely got contaminated ☹️

It's my scan tomorrow and the scanxiety is real! I feel so sick thinking they might not find a heartbeat. I love my baby so much already I just want everything to be OK xx

@TiffanyBlythe @Thetravellover I think the accuracy improves if you wait a bit longer. I am also worried it might make me too attached and maybe it's good not to know just yet. I've added the test to my shopping cart several times but not yet clicked check out!

@GCS34 omg I watched Joy and was a wreck afterwards too, especially for the main female character. Another tear jerker on Netflix at the moment is Man Called Otto - watched that with hubby and we were completely destroyed by it. Also has a pregnancy/infertility element to it that set me off. But sometimes you need a big cry, next day I felt great!

@CatmumTTC I’m 10 weeks tomorrow so I could definitely do one. I think the opposite as you, all I want is to know if this baby is a boy or girl. When I found out at 13+5 that my baby was gone last year I hated not knowing what it was. This pregnancy, I’m trying to cherish and love and make every second count. I know the thought of loss is scary, but it’s our maternal instinct to be attached and I do feel like we should embrace that.

@lovealways97 im filled with scanxiety too. Sending you lots of love and wishes that everything will be ok xx

@TiffanyBlythe im so so sorry you’ve had 2 x losses. That’s heartbreaking. Were they both similar time or different? Mine was this time last year. And like some sick joke, the anniversary of the day I had the miscarriage I had spotting like some sick joke! I too don’t have a child yet — this will hopefully my first. How do you feel this time — does it feel different? And did you have any scans last time?

good luck for this morning. Do let us know how you get on. Sending positivities to you and your little prawn.

@lovealways97 good luck for today! I have major scanxiety too and it’s horrible. Is this your first one? And what will you be? Sending luck. ⭐️

@CatmumTTC omg isn’t it just? It’s cast so well too. I just felt this immense gratefulness to everyone in the film, even though they’re not the actual people, but all those women who came before me and made this pregnancy possible — I do feel quite anxious since watching it.

Will 1000000% watch man called Otto!! Is it a true story?

how are you getting on?

@Superscientist thats good that you don’t know though. Least there is some margin with your dates. Mine are very accurate so if there was any discrepancy it wouldn’t be good news.

so if going by epu dates were right, what does that make you today then?

that’s sis sad your mum made it about her but more sad that you felt that way at 18. Im so sorry. I really hope this pregnancy is different. Do you feel stronger now than before and do you have support now?

I have counselling and CBT for my anxiety — it’s all geared around pregnancy after loss and managing my mindset. I am lucky in some respects (not in that way) but my two best friends have very bad anxiety too, both new mums and one IVF mum so I do have people to talk to on a non clinical level.

Thank you it's my first baby, first pregnancy, first scan! I should be 6+3 today

Only had 1 donation of sperm but not sure when I ovulated as I didn't get a positive on the clearblue ovulation test that month!

Good luck & positive vibes to everyone else with a scan this weekend

They were both different. My first pregnancy was this time last year too! I got pregnant in October, had a scan at 7 weeks and saw the heartbeat and then by 12 week scan got broke the horrible news. My second pregnancy was in May and it was an early loss at 5.5 weeks.

This time does feel really different, the first two pregnancies I had I couldn’t shake the feeling something was wrong, but this time I am filled with hope.

My Scan is this time tomorrow, of course I’ll let you know how it goes x

@TiffanyBlythe so sorry! I keep thinking it’s Sunday today as I had Friday off work 😂 genuinely thought it was Sunday and I was a day further along too 🙈 why is time so slowwwwww

oh gosh that’s so sad that everything was good at 7. Did it measure okay and everything? Do you know roughly when or just sometime between the two? So sorry. It’s never easy — earlier or or otherwise. It doesn’t make the pain any less. Third time lucky for your rainbow 🌈

and it’s good it feels different! I do too but don’t like to say it out loud. X

Yeah everything was perfectly normal at 7 weeks, my 12 week scan wasn’t until 13+5 due to Christmas and new year break. The baby was measuring 9+5. unfortunately my scan was on my birthday so I found that tragic news out on my birthday.

When is your next scan? X

@TiffanyBlythe oh that’s cruel! So sorry. 😔 hopefully this one will be totally different the fact it feels different I think is a good sign for sure. Have you got many symptoms?

I am going to have one a week today when I’ll be 10 weeks hopefully! I am struggling today with anxiety and just feeling like it’s all over. X

Spending the day in bed today. The nausea is getting worse. It's constant but no actual puking yet. Was like this with last pregnancy. About four months of constant nausea and only two weeks of puking. Think I'll ring the Dr to see if they can prescribe something. Had cyclizine last time, when I'd started puking it but if anything I got worse with that. :-(

I actually had way more symptoms with my first pregnancy, trying not to look into too much as symptoms aren’t a reliable indicator!

I know it’s hard but try to stay positive! You have no reason to think it’s all over x

I would be 7 + 2 rather than 8+6 or thereabouts

I probably feel as strong as I did before having my daughter so we will see. She had severe silent reflux and multiple food allergies that were recognised until she was 17 weeks and the first few months were utter hell and it definitely had an impact on my mood! We would handle that differently if we experienced the same again. I had some counselling with my HV before TTC again and that helped process what happened last time.

It's good you have someone to talk to. I've recently rekindled a friendship from school. We both had a hard time with our mental health. She's in a similar place too she has a son via IVF and had a miscarriage beforehand. Whilst I've not had IVF there has been some symmetry in my journey with having to change meds and getting the green light from drs etc.