@PinkWatermelon88 fingers crossed your DC will be little angels while he's gone! 🤞🏻 Don't know how those of you with partners on long shifts regularly do it tbh. My DH does one or two long ones a week, plus a lot of weekends on call, and I find that hard enough.
Just on the sleep training convo, I personally would prefer not to do it. @SpicyMoth I definitely also have in the past had MH issues from attachment issues - thank god for therapy! But I think maternal health is the most important thing tbh for our kids. No point avoiding sleep training only to have a complete breakdown, because that puts our kiddos in an even worse spot IMO. So if anyone needs to do it to feel well mentally or physically I think it's something they should explore. Such a divisive topic, with strong opinions either side though!
I did try some of the Lucy Wolfe stuff with my first - except the crying bit - and the stuff around routines and getting him used to his cot did work a little.
My Baba has been an awful sleeper lately too, so we gave a 3oz formula bottle last night. Told my DH my mind was cracking, went to bed at 7 as soon as the toddler was down, and left him too it with the baby and housework. Told him I didn't want to see him until 12. 😂 Whether it was the bottle or daddy cuddles I don't know, but he was only up at 12, half 2, and then a quick feed at 6 before going back to sleep until half 7. I feel like a new woman today!! Will be going back to a nightly bottle for my sanity I think. Can't even remember why we stopped.
@SpicyMoth do you live with your DM, or could you take a little break from contact for a few days? 🙈 Sounds tough!! If Bear takes a bottle would also highly recommend taking one evening a week to yourself if you can? I've been going to pilates (I hate pilates) and it's been glorious to have a little bit of mental quiet and be by myself. The car ride with music full blast is my fave bit.