Should I tell midwife that my father is a pedophile TW

[Lifeisanillusion]

Hello,
A couple of years ago I found out that my dad was looking at sexual images of children on the internet. I was living at home at the time and he has always been abusive so I reported him to the police and moved out, the police said they would look into it but nothing happened.

My sister has recently told me that my mum has caught my dad looking out of the window at the neighbors children and sexually pleasing himself. I have reported the incident to crimestoppers. My mum still lives at home but my mum suffers from severe agoraphobia and is scared to leave on her own.

I have recently found out that I am pregnant so I am now terrified after finding out this information. I have my first midwife appointment tomorrow and I am not sure whether to tell them what's been going on? Would social services end up being involved? I do not have contact with my dad.

Thank you

My sister doesn't have any children

What? Who said anything about grandparents' rights?
I'm a midwife. When women have disclosed abusive parents to me in the past, as well as making any mandatory referrals that are appropriate, I've ensured that, for example, the hospital security is aware not to allow the grandparents onto the postnatal ward, or if there's a risk of the abusive grandparent turning up at the woman's home I've invented a reason she needs to stay in hospital/ be readmitted (with her full knowledge and the knowledge of the medical team of course; only her family are given the fabricated reason). I've also liaised with health visitors or CFS to ensure the woman and baby have protective factors around them.
That's all I meant.

Not necessarily. Pedophile is the psychiatric term for someone who is sexually attracted to pre pubescent children. Pedophiles who are convicted are done do as a sex offender.

There are lots of Pedophile who have never acted on their attraction, but are still Pedophiles.

I would tell the mw, just in case it's raised and you haven't told them, it looks worse. Also the more who know the better protection for all.

Is this recent behaviour or something he has done for years. Does he have any other health issues or concerns. The only reason I am asking is that pedophiles might not act on it as most people have inhibitor ( reasons not to do things I.e prison, being hurt back, losing job etc) however people living with things like dementia lose the inhibitor ( or forget them) and will do things they wouldn't have done before. It's like they lose their filter. Even more specific types of dementia can cause sexual disinhibitations.

I would tell the mw, just in case it's raised and you haven't told them, it looks worse

‘Raised’ by who? And what does it have to do with the midwife? Not saying this is incorrect but I’m genuinely curious?

As far as I am aware midwife appointments are completely optional- they are an available service you can choose to utilise or not. Most pregnant women will choose to attend regular mw appointments to keep an eye on their/their baby’s physical health. If some women also wish to use the appointments for additional help with other concerns or issues they may need support with surely that’s entirely at their own discretion.