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Sept 2024 - Thread 9!

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SpicyMoth · 17/07/2024 21:20

Feeling Can You Feel It GIF by Noel Gallagher

Continuation from the previous thread before it fills up - we're getting so close ladies, ahhhhh!!!

Previous thread here; https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/pregnancy/5094920-september-2024-thread-8?page=39&reply=136855271

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PinkWatermelon88 · 01/08/2024 08:09

@BeautyAndTheBump1 i said this to my partner last night too! We found out I was pregnant at like 5w back in January so in one way it seems like it’s taken forever but for the most part we blinked and now here we are!

Lillers · 01/08/2024 08:26

@UnicornRainbow2 I have gestational diabetes (also diagnosed despite having no risk factors!) and can thoroughly recommend this website as a good starting place for advice: https://www.gestationaldiabetes.co.uk
There is loads of information on there about diet and the condition itself and lots of recipes. Even if you can’t get the healthcare, you can still start making positive lifestyle changes to help.

Alongside the website, there is a brilliant FB group run by the same team who run the website: https://www.facebook.com/share/dXf8TXDxVUbYhPse/?mibextid=K35XfP

It’s full of GD mums and the moderators are amazing at answering questions and pointing you in the right direction with any concerns.

Both are UK based, but the advice for diet etc will be applicable and with so many members there might be people with experience of the healthcare system you’re in.

Gestational Diabetes UK • Gestational Diabetes UK

Gestational Diabetes UK is dedicated to offering support and evidence based research to women diagnosed with gestational diabetes in the UK and Ireland

https://www.gestationaldiabetes.co.uk

UnicornRainbow2 · 01/08/2024 08:29

Thankyou @Lillers I will take a look and start monitoring diet in the meantime 👍🏼

Emmaev · 01/08/2024 09:16

@BeautyAndTheBump1 i thought the same thing this morning, 32 days until my due date. Feels like it’s whizzed by but been so slow at the same time. We found out just after 4 weeks.

Ive got another bp and urine check this morning, so hopefully it’s all ok. My feet are so swollen but I’m hoping that’s from the heat.

I also have a painful moving baby, she hurts more when I lay on my left side. Hard to believe for such a little baby they hurt you so much!

Being heavily pregnant through August though is not for the weak. Here I am praying for some rain and wind.

MudandMoet · 01/08/2024 09:56

@UnicornRainbow2 if you haven't gotten anywhere with them by the time you fly to the UK is there anyway you could see a dr or healthcare professional here (I think pharmacists can now check for water infections and mild complications) I would also feel like screaming if I was getting that kind of care - especially if it's private 😬

BeautyAndTheBump1 · 01/08/2024 14:37

Coming on for a rant! Had a growth scan today and baby was on 17th centile at 28+4 now today she's on 10th centile at 32+5...but everything else is perfect, all blood flow placenta etc.

So then seen the most arrogant consultant after who said she wants to put me on steroids cus I'm still vomiting with the HG...but back at 20 weeks a different consultant said they try to avoid steroids at all costs because of the risks/side effects, esp being on them long term.

So I told her I wasn't sure I was comfortable going on them at this stage and she started being all snotty with me.

I told her my 1st born was healthy, fine, born 7lb2 at 41 weeks and she was like 'well this baby is even going to make 5lbs and if she is still measuring small on your next scan we'll be getting her out' ....excuse me?! You won't be doing any such thing unless I agree to it 😡

I checked my growth chart and even on 10th centile at 40 weeks she would be predicted 6lb5 so where she got her "won't even be 5lbs from" 🙄

So I'm back next week for them to check the blood flow again, then back the week after for a growth scan.

MrsMoggy · 01/08/2024 16:04

@BeautyAndTheBump1 that doesn’t sound like a good experience at all. It’s difficult when the consultant changes each time.

I’m scheduled for induction in 2 weeks time at 37+3 as my baby is also on the 10th centile at the moment. At 28 weeks she was only 6th percentile, then up to 13 and now back to 10. Because I have had 2 “abnormal” centiles that’s why they want to induce, I have also had several episodes of reduced movements though and hyperthyroid problems so a few risk factors.

I don’t have HG but at no point have I been offered steroids.

Hopefully all your scans go OK and you get a nicer consultant next time.

Decaffe · 01/08/2024 17:04

That’s so frustrating @BeautyAndTheBump1 and how unprofessional of the consultant to try to scare/intimidate you like that! What are the risks/side effects of steroids? I thought they were used quite regularly with premature births to strengthen the baby’s lungs?

33 weeks today, and so pleased I can say ‘next month’ now. We found out at 3w2d 😳 so it’s been quite the long journey!

BeautyAndTheBump1 · 01/08/2024 17:11

@MrsMoggy @Decaffe

Sorry been abit unclear - these are a different type of steroids - not the steroids they use for baby's lungs but the oral type of steroids that are normally used for people with asthma, the purpose of them would be to try and completely stop my vomiting - in hope that then myself and baby get more food/nutrition, but side effects can give us both blood sugar issues and give me gestational diabetes and baby low blood sugar once born which she would then need to be monitored in neonatal!

WinsandSam · 01/08/2024 18:03

@BeautyAndTheBump1 honestly some of these consultants are A holes! You totally have a right to chose. You can also request a second opinion and to never see this doctor again.

As an asthmatic those steroids are great for getting me breathing but only very short term. Long term use has so many side effects

MudandMoet · 01/08/2024 19:44

Warning - this may conjure up some crazy images in your mind

I'll apologise now if anyone is eating their tea right now reading this... so I've just done my first perineum massage (36+1) got down on a bath mat in front of long mirror to see what I was doing and as I did the motions as per the guidance online it felt like there was a bloody golf ball or similar almost at the entrance of my vag! Is this normal? Has something been pushed down that is normally out of sight/touch?? Upon opening the flaps you can actually see it there, it's not like a tunnel (wrong word but can't think what else to call it) it's almost like it's blocked off by whatever this fleshy bulbous thing is. Yikes, I'm a bit scared now and I'm not seeing anyone until consultant next Tuesday. Someone please enlighten me - wtf is going on down there??? 😵‍💫

Sorry you've had a bad experience with your consultant @BeautyAndTheBump1
Makes you wonder why they do that job when they know how vulnerable their patients are. Is there no compassion training that goes alongside all the medical jargon?!

@Xur thanks for the add but that WhatsApp group is crazy fast - I can't keep up with it at all.

SantasRubiksCube · 01/08/2024 20:05

@MudandMoet mine feels the same, although I've had three previous babies so figured it was just cos everything is a bit....loose down there 😫 but I had to apply cannesten cream recently and although it doesn't feel like a prolapse (at least I hope it isn't) it's almost like everything is getting pushed down/out. Probably just the weight of baby but definitely ask someone about it (and let me know what they say in case our insides are falling out 😅)

MudandMoet · 01/08/2024 20:53

@SantasRubiksCube I'd say mine is about an inch or two inside but definitely visible when you have a proper look. We've been having regular (ish) sex and I've not noticed anything feel different but I want to do it this evening to see if it does now 😂🤦🏼‍♀️

Xur · 01/08/2024 22:19

@MudandMoet I have it as well and I have not had any babies and I am fairly certain it’s not a prolapse, that I think it is is the intestine, the poop canal!
I have noticed it’s more prevalent when my bowels aren’t exactly empty (with poop or gas).
I was also weirded out when I discovered it, but I googled myself through like so many anatomy images and so much stuff on the internet I’ve come to the conclusion it must be the intestine just slightly protruding into the “free space” technically our vaginas are free space.

Xur · 01/08/2024 22:28

@BeautyAndTheBump1 your consultant can go and do one! Who the fuck do they think they are! You have every right to refuse steroids and it’s okay if baby is on smaller percentiles! Every single knowledgable person, them being a doctor, a midwife or an experienced woman has told me “SIZE COMPARISON DOES NOT MATTER! What matters is the diagonal in which the baby is growing, if it’s at the same pace it’s still normal!” I swear these consultants I am hearing about…maybe that’s why I haven’t been offered the option to grace the presence of one yet…
I’m so sorry you had to experience that.

malimoon · 01/08/2024 22:40

Going for my second glucose tolerance test in the morning (I had the first one about three weeks ago) as baby is so enormous (head on the 97th centile)... Wish me luck...

PinkWatermelon88 · 01/08/2024 23:29

Plagued with reflux tonight!! Doesn’t matter if I lie right or left I can taste my dinner :( I used get relief by left lying but not tonight. Hope it passes soon!

BeautyAndTheBump1 · 02/08/2024 05:15

@WinsandSam

Exactly that's what scares me the side effects - I said how long would I be on them for just a few days? She said no it would be until the end of your pregnancy - I'm 32+6 now so that's 7 weeks! And I've survived my entire pregnancy being ill and got this far myself why would I want to take something with such risks at such a late stage of pregnancy!

@Xur exactly!! She was 10th centile at my 20 week scan - 17th at 28 - 10th at 32 - so if she's staying around that I think it's absolutely unnecessary for them to try and force to induce me and it was her 'we'll be getting this baby out' line which really pissed me off - like it's her decision and I don't have a choice? I know I'm going to have opened a can of worms with her now I'm refusing the oral steroids and will have to be prepared every week for an argument 😂 now don't get me wrong if she starts to drop in growth then yes absolutely get her out if that's safer but atm she's growing just fine in there!

FuppinNora · 02/08/2024 06:24

@PinkWatermelon88 get some Losec from your GP for reflux it is amazing!! I am like a new woman, I can eat and sleep again. No more rennies. I used to be half the night with it and the first night I took it, instant relief.

Cinai2 · 02/08/2024 11:50

Checking in with a new user name, it’s still the old Cinai but I somehow can’t log in anymore. 33 weeks today, luckily still feeling good apart from some acid reflux. Excited for the first baby announcements in our group 😃

Daphnethinks · 02/08/2024 13:11

Helloo, hope i'm not to late to join in i've been a long time lurker and went back and read all the threads after finding them, reality that all being well baby will be here in a matter of weeks has just hit in the last few days (due September 22nd) Hope everyone is doing ok in the heat 💛

SpicyMoth · 02/08/2024 13:20

35 weeks, 32 days until my due date - I thought I was starting to feel better this last week and in significantly less pain, but good grief the PGP has come back with a vengeance today.

Rolling over in bed last night I heard my pelvis.. I was gonna say "click", but in reality it was more of a "crack".
Went to bed totally fine, but after that? I woke up in complete pain and having to walk at a snails pace.
Swimming didn't even help x-x

Little vent here and AIBU? question here;
I probably am being unreasonable to be honest but I need to get this off my chest as it just shocked me... I'm not one for being like "Oh I'm pregnant so I deserve x,y, or z". But good god today... Today I was genuinely upset and taken aback and nearly cried.

Our local pool is very much filled with late middle aged to elderly people - not "frail" elderly by any stretch, very fit, very "young" elderly if you know what I mean - they've looked after themselves.
I was making my way to one of the family changing rooms after showering post-swim as I need the extra seat space and room to sit and stand and move about (I'm absolutely massive and very obviously pregnant, I assume due to my small stature. There's 0 hiding it).

I also NEED my partner to help me get dressed after swimming at this point as the PGP is genuinely that bad, the whole reason I even go swimming is to help the PGP!

I was struggling to walk and groaning with each step, at one point I cried from the pain whilst in the pool it was that bad.
I was (I thought) very clearly moving towards the last available large stall with my partner trying to assist me where he could so I didn't slip on the wet floor or hurt myself further, and this elderly man, I'd say probably early to mid 70's, very fit, no obvious physical health conditions literally just speed walked past us right into the last available family changing space... Not even a seconds thought to the slippery floor (so clearly not frail or in pain based on the speed and lack of care to wet floor) or the fact that he'd barged past us...

My chest sunk and I genuinely had to fight back tears at the thought of having to try and get changed on my own in an absolutely tiny stall. (I fully cannot get socks and pants on without help right now).

I know the big stalls are family stalls and I'm yet to give birth so not technically the intended user, but there were no other families or kids in the pool today - literally none - and I really honest to god needed the space, and imo it was obvious that I needed it and obvious that we were headed to that stall.
I'm in agony today.

This has happened a couple of times before at this pool (always by men) but I wasn't as phased by it those times as tbh I wasn't as massive and felt immensely guilty that I was even using those stalls to begin with.
Again, they're not technically intended for me, they're more for those with babies or very young children - So I felt like "eh, fair enough first come first serve".

But now that I'm at a point where I genuinely NEED it?
Jesus. I was just so taken aback at the brazenness.
It just makes me feel so weak and pathetic and not to be "that person" but it's just feels really rude and almost sexist?
I'm sure I'm just being hormonal and unreasonable now at this point, but I feel like absolute shit because of this :') Like I'm fully fucking invisible and like this guy's "want" trumped my genuine physical need.
I just found it so fucking rude honestly...

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PoppingUp · 02/08/2024 13:27

@SpicyMoth thats appalling behaviour from that man and you're right to be upset! So selfish of him! In contrast I've started to have older people wave me to the front of the bus queue and volunteer their seats on benches for me the last few days and I'm not in visible pain and being helped about!

Are you getting any support from the doctors for the PGP? I really hope you manage to get a bit more comfy this afternoon and are able to take some time to relax away from the arseholes!!

SpicyMoth · 02/08/2024 14:25

PoppingUp · 02/08/2024 13:27

@SpicyMoth thats appalling behaviour from that man and you're right to be upset! So selfish of him! In contrast I've started to have older people wave me to the front of the bus queue and volunteer their seats on benches for me the last few days and I'm not in visible pain and being helped about!

Are you getting any support from the doctors for the PGP? I really hope you manage to get a bit more comfy this afternoon and are able to take some time to relax away from the arseholes!!

Gahh, thanks so much - I was sure I was just being very unreasonable to be honest!
I had a physio appointment a good few months ago to give me some tips and tricks, got some co-codamol and a pregnancy ball to sit on and do "rolls" with, but that's about it really.
Just recommendations of certain exercises and swimming - None of it's really been helping though to be honest, midwife doesn't seem overly bothered by it.
the only thing that genuinely seems to help is sleeping in till around 3 or 4pm but obviously that's not exactly good to do all the time when house and work stuff needs doing!

I'm just hoping that it'll go away post-birth rather than linger on as I've heard for some women it doesn't go away!

I'm glad your experiences with others have been a lot kinder than mine! :') <3

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Cat2022 · 02/08/2024 14:45

@SpicyMoth I really feel for you I think unless you have experienced PGP it’s hard to comprehend just how hard it is even just existing nevermind trying to get dressed etc. I had it last time and it was demoralising enough having to ask my husband to help with my leggings, socks, shoes etc but then also dealing with people out and about. One time an old man had parked so close to my car when I was past 40 weeks I had to stand in the pouring rain for 15 minutes until he came back as there wasn’t even enough room for my bump nevermind the way I had to get in with the pelvis issues and no way I could’ve climbed over. Not too long for you now!

I was complaining about elderly people today because of how rude some of them can be towards little kids. My daughters only 17 months and you would’ve thought some of these people in the shop had been born 65+ with the tuts and disgust at someone who was just being a happy little girl (not even a meltdown etc)

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