🩵🩷 Bumps 2 Babies & beyond #2 🩷🩵

[CheeseAndCrackersx]

New thread as the other was getting full 😀

Yes, vit D is very important for the immune system and NHS recommends 10 micrograms per day for children 1-4 (as adults we should also take vit D). Especially in not so sunny places like the U.K., vit D is arguably THE vitamin to be supplemented.

www.nhs.uk/conditions/vitamins-and-minerals/vitamin-d/

@CheeseAndCrackersx NHS guidance is that anyone receiving less than 500ml infant formula should receive a vitamin D supplement. There's no age limit, even adults are recommended to have the supplement.

I use a multivitamin for my boy to give him some extra iron and zinc as well.

Thank you @Thewildthingsarewithme that was a really kind reply. I managed to get an LH peak after 6 weeks of night weaning but I don’t think it has resulted in a full cycle returning as I had two days of spotting and nothing since. I’ve also gone back to in demand feeding. Probably latched on between 10 and 15 times last night 🫠

I hope your cycle returns and you’re able to conceive when feels right for you. I’m nearly 36 and looking to have number 4 asap, I know I have a few years grace period but I want to get in with it. My eldest is 12 and I’ve been parenting since I was 23, id like to have at least a small window of adulthood where I’m not raising children, haha.

@LavenderSweetPea I hope the weaning goes well. My LO is still allergic to cows milk and soya so I don’t really feel I have an alternative. I’d probably drop at least some feeds at this point too if I could be sure of her nutritional and emotional wellbeing. Best of luck with it, it sounds like you are both ready

Happy international women's day to you super ladies and super mamas 💐

Happy international women's day! I was just coming on to say it in this thread too! ❤️

Anyone else going through molar teething? My little boy has little sharp parts through the gums at the top but most of the tooth isn't out yet. I feel like he's been teething for weeks!!

Hi @Cheetocatyes we have two molars through already, it was a painful week for the little man but coincided with his one year jabs so we were giving calpol anyway.

Anyone else in the “one and done” camp?
i am absolutely over the moon with our DS, but couldn’t imagine having anymore.

@newmumabouttown I’m not but I think it’s a really valid and great choice if that’s right for your family. Two feels like the number you should have societally so it feels like you must explain if you deviate from that.

I’ve had my third so far, I have a 12yo 11yo and 1yo and I felt quite ‘one and done’ with my final baby, thinking a lot of her childhood would be her on her own once the bigger ones grow. My DH was 100% sure we should have at least one more and now I’ve swayed and am desperate for the fourth. If he wasn’t bothered, I think I would have enjoyed my one baby and big kids.

@newmumabouttown I felt one and done with my DS but then started feeling broody again and had DD, there's 5 years between them.

At the time of feeling done it did feel right and suited us perfectly, not entirely sure what changed our minds tbh.

I’m in and out the “one and done” camp 😄

if we did have another it’ll be when little man is over 2, whereas I used to say I’d like to start trying when he was 18 months but have decided I want to soak up more time first if do have another 🙂

I constantly flip flop between being one and done and wanting another. I just keep constantly changing my mind. I struggled to conceive DS so I don't even know if I could have a second anyway ALTHOUGH big news is I've just had my first period after giving birth, so I'm going to start tracking and see if I'm actually ovulating. I'm 35 this year so I don't have loads of time to make a decision. I think I'd be happy either way and I'm enjoying just having DS.

I have said for a long time that I only wanted one but I'm terrified he'll be the only child of his generation in his dad's entire side of the family and I don't think I would want that to happen. I left my county to live with my partner so my family is only in his life when we visit over and back. My son's birth was extremely traumatising and I don't ever want to go through that again but thinking about my son growing up with zero other children in the family is so depressing.

Just to reassure you, I was an only child with no extended family so no other kids. It was “normal” for me so never even contemplated another child being around, and actually loved it.

@Mismatc we have a similar age gap and I can't quite decide if we should go for one last baby. Ours are 14, 12 and 1. I dont like the thought of him growing up alone at home but i do also love spending 1on1 time with the children so I then think I'm done. He does have a cousin who's 4 one who is 18 months older and one 9 months younger who we see regularly so he would always have family around his age.
I'm not yet 34 so I do have a while but like you I'd prefer not to spend my who adulthood parenting younger children.

It's such a tough decision and I always think you'll never regret the children you have but may regret the ones you never had.

Hi all,

I hope everyone is well.

Ive been quiet on here because I’ve had quite a difficult second pregnancy with HG but I officially have 6 weeks left until my planned c-section and my little ones will be 14 months apart. I had an emergency section the first time and it was a traumatic birth and the recovery wasn’t great but because I got pregnant so soon after this seems like the safest choice for us. I really hope it being planned makes it a less anxious experience and it will at the very least give me the opportunity to get things in place to help my recovery. Has anyone else had two under two via c section and how was the recovery the second time round? Any tips?

I don’t know if my daughter can tell if something is about to happen but the past month she has been super clingy and has refused to sleep in her crib and only sleep in bed with us. It’s been ok because we’ve all managed to get some sleep that way but now I’m really worried about my c-section recovery and what to do with her in the bed with me. Any ideas on how to get her back into her crib?

@Ebonythoughts I had 18 months between my eldest two and a (very) emergency section at 33 weeks with my second. I had a baby at home and a baby in the hospital and coslept/ breastfed them all. You will find the way that works for you ❤️

I was driving by day 5 (I checked with insurance) and things really started to feel better from then onwards. I really enjoyed having my two babies together. I hope you can make a plan that feels comfortable for you and have the support that feels right to you so you are able to enjoy the journey with as little anxiety as possible

I missed the ideas to get back in crib! Acceptance of no sleep for a few nights and consistency with putting her back after each settle, I think. That said, I still cosleep with my 13 month old because she wakes every 1-2 hours and I just can’t be doing with getting out of my bed. Clearly I’m doing a bad job myself!

Hello ladies. How are you all? Hope you all had a lovely Mother’s Day last week 🙂

just wondering in regards to walking or learning to walk, does anyone else’s little one just not like walking with you, little man will walk with his push along walker, he’ll push along his little people bus, & he has took a step by himself from say his play table to the sofa or like yesterday from the sofa to me. But if I go to hold his hand to walk with him it’s like he forget what to do and sits down 😄

My little boy wouldn't walk holding my hand until he was already taking loads of steps by himself, I think he just wasn't confident enough and thought he'd fall if he felt go.

I am loving having a baby this age, the chaos and the constant learning of new words and new tricks!

Hi ladies! Hope you're all well :)

For those whose little ones are at nursery - how long did it take them to settle in / be somewhat happy and not upset at drop off?
My little one is also barely eating at nursery which I find quite upsetting.

It's been 4 weeks so far so I'm hoping there's still some improvement over the next few months!

@msp2023 oh it's horrible isn't it when they're not happy at nursery :(

My little boy has been going for 3 months now. He did a hunger strike as well, but only for the first week and a half - he wouldn't eat anything, drink his bottle or have any water at all while he was there. Fortunately that went away quite quickly. It took at least 4-5 weeks for him to not cry at drop off. He's there 4 days a week - the nursery staff told me that the more they are there, the quicker they adapt to nursery life. How many days does your little one go in?

Hang on in there, he'll love it eventually
Xx

We had a food, bottle and nap strike!
shes been there 3 months now, eats everything plus extra sometimes and naps have improved massively esp the last couple of weeks.
i would say 5ish weeks and she started happily going in.
she does 3 days.

it does get easier! Going off experience with my oldest.

Thank you ladies.

LO is only going 1.5 days which doesn't help :( both days in the middle of the week so there's a long gap between the weeks!
It's been 4ish weeks now.

Feeling pretty crappy about it now but hoping she's better in another month or two.

@msp2023Awr don't feel crap. They are still only little so it does take time.

how is she there through the day?

My LO has been going since January and goes 2 days per week but inconsistently because my DH is a shift worker. She’s only done a full day twice and has had lots of days off for illness or because my DH is available. As you’d expect, she’s inconsistently settled. She eats and sleeps (no milk but she’s breastfed) but has varying levels of crying at drop off