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I’m 30 weeks pregnant and trying to figure who the father is

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ThatTidyPombear · 30/05/2024 08:32

so im 30 weeks pregnant my last period was the 26th of October 2023 my period is regular lasts 5 days at the end of every month how ever I never really kept track of when I ovulate. I had sex on the 31st of October n 2nd of November with well call him (Joe) and he pulled out.. the second guy well call him ( John ) we had unprotected sex from the 5th of November I stayed at his house from the 5th of November until the 10th of November we had sex a few times throughout them days and he wasn’t pulling out he was ejaculating inside of me . my first ultrasound sound was January the 5th 2024 said I was 10 weeks exactly

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ThatTidyPombear · 30/05/2024 11:02

@IncognitoUsername because I had the job to make it happen with my hand lol sorry I had to say it like this

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IncognitoUsername · 30/05/2024 11:02

Are you in a relationship with guy 2? Does he know about guy 1?
I hate to break it to you but you can get pregnant even if the guy doesn’t finish inside you. That’s why the withdrawal method is not a reliable form of contraception.

SofaSpuds · 30/05/2024 11:03
Baby Mama Singing GIF

I also looked at the recent scans of the baby and his nose is very large like the second I slept with
😆🤣 I am 100% certain this is not possible, and is only used in movies for comedic effect.
If I'm wrong someone please tell me!!

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 30/05/2024 11:04

It's stressful for you not to know. It sounds like it's your ex partners but I would confirm with a dna. If you don't want to tell guy 2 then you can ask guy 1 for a dna test I'm sure he'd be happy to rule himself out to avoid a child maintenance claim. Either way you need to make sure you know and you bring up baby knowing the truth or they will find out themselves from an ancestry test and get very cross with you later!

I was also single while pregnant - it's tough- focus on you and baby x

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ThatTidyPombear · 30/05/2024 11:09

@Unexpectedlysinglemum thank you ☺️ I feel certain it’s guy 2 because of the amount of sex that we had in the few days together and every single time was finished inside were as with guy 1 it wasn’t the same he did pull out and I had the job with my hand to finish it all so I feel confident it’s guy2 but I am going to get a DNA test

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SnoodieLife · 30/05/2024 11:35

So you had unprotected sex with an abusive partner, spilt up then within a matter of days you were having unprotected sex with someone else in the hope of becoming pregnant?! Sure people make mistakes but the more your telling us the worse it's getting 😬

malimoon · 30/05/2024 11:39

@SnoodieLife I think you're getting two different people muddled up here. OP temporarily broke up with her partner, had sex a couple of times with another guy, and then got back together with the partner and had sex several times with the deliberate intention of conceiving. The person who got pregnant from an abusive ex was another poster.

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ThatTidyPombear · 30/05/2024 11:42

@SnoodieLife no I was never in a abusive relationship don’t know were your getting that because I never mentioned abusive me and guy 2 were In a relationship for about year and we been split for a matter of months before I become pregnant I had sex with 1 guy that whole time we was split up and it was a few days before I went back to my exes house that I had sex with guy 1 after that I stayed at guy 2 the (ex)house for a week and had sex every night basically with him finishing inside

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IncognitoUsername · 30/05/2024 11:42

SnoodieLife · 30/05/2024 11:35

So you had unprotected sex with an abusive partner, spilt up then within a matter of days you were having unprotected sex with someone else in the hope of becoming pregnant?! Sure people make mistakes but the more your telling us the worse it's getting 😬

Where does it mention abuse?

Enko · 30/05/2024 11:56

Op chances are high its bloke 2 . However there is a small chance its bloke 1 due to this it is recommended you get a paternity test done.

Its not the amount of sex its 1 sperms that is all. You can't know what one of them had one that went to your egg.

WildGeece · 30/05/2024 12:07

SofaSpuds · 30/05/2024 11:03

I also looked at the recent scans of the baby and his nose is very large like the second I slept with
😆🤣 I am 100% certain this is not possible, and is only used in movies for comedic effect.
If I'm wrong someone please tell me!!

My child's nose shape was pretty noticeabley like mine in scans (small button nose type)! It was pretty uncanny when they were born.

HcbSS · 30/05/2024 12:23

Unless either wants to be involved, does it actually matter? You don't want a relationship with wither of these men, you will be a single mum. Just get on with it right? Or do you want money off one of them?

FineWordsButterNoParsnips · 30/05/2024 12:33

HcbSS · 30/05/2024 12:23

Unless either wants to be involved, does it actually matter? You don't want a relationship with wither of these men, you will be a single mum. Just get on with it right? Or do you want money off one of them?

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It absolutely matters, yes.
The child has a right to know both of its parents, relatives medical information, and the parents are both obligated to pay for the child they chose to create.

beergiggles · 30/05/2024 12:35

SnoodieLife · 30/05/2024 08:59

The only way to know is to do a paternity test when the baby is born, and maybe use this as a lesson to not have unprotected sex with multiple people around the same time? 🙄

As I understand it it's actually quite a good strategy for women because the sperm will compete with each other so the best one will fertilize your egg and you'll get the healthiest baby!

SpringerFall · 30/05/2024 12:35

HcbSS · 30/05/2024 12:23

Unless either wants to be involved, does it actually matter? You don't want a relationship with wither of these men, you will be a single mum. Just get on with it right? Or do you want money off one of them?

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The child being born is not a dog but a human, of course it matters to them probably, atleast even of the adults don't care

pinkyredrose · 30/05/2024 12:38

Any reason you didn't use condoms? Anyway I reckon it's guy 2.

Motnight · 30/05/2024 12:43

ThatTidyPombear · 30/05/2024 08:42

Ok and we were having sex nearly every day I was with him from memory @New2024newname i also look at the recent scans of the baby and his nose is very large like the second I sleept with

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Ah well, the info about the large nose nails it. No need for a boring paternity test.

PossumintheHouse · 30/05/2024 12:45

Two unprotected sexual partners aside, I find it surprising that you started trying for a baby immediately after getting back together. Of course, you're pregnant now, so... that's that. Assuming you're still with this partner? Hopefully it's guy 2's, for your relationship's sake.

YetAnotherSpartacus · 30/05/2024 12:45

Really?

Did you want to bring a child into this or were you not clued in on what the result of fucking without contraception leads to?

MidnightPatrol · 30/05/2024 12:47

PossumintheHouse · 30/05/2024 12:45

Two unprotected sexual partners aside, I find it surprising that you started trying for a baby immediately after getting back together. Of course, you're pregnant now, so... that's that. Assuming you're still with this partner? Hopefully it's guy 2's, for your relationship's sake.

I’d say fairly unusual to start trying for a baby during the same cycle you’d had sex with another man…

This problem was somewhat inevitable.

PossumintheHouse · 30/05/2024 12:49

MidnightPatrol · 30/05/2024 12:47

I’d say fairly unusual to start trying for a baby during the same cycle you’d had sex with another man…

This problem was somewhat inevitable.

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Indeed. You just wouldn't risk it if you had any sense.

BIWI · 30/05/2024 12:52

Punctuation is a marvellous invention.

Overtheatlantic · 30/05/2024 12:58

It’s half term y’all

Grumpynan · 30/05/2024 13:05

Overtheatlantic · 30/05/2024 12:58

It’s half term y’all

I was just thinking the same 😂