I’m 30 weeks pregnant and trying to figure who the father is

[ThatTidyPombear]

so im 30 weeks pregnant my last period was the 26th of October 2023 my period is regular lasts 5 days at the end of every month how ever I never really kept track of when I ovulate. I had sex on the 31st of October n 2nd of November with well call him (Joe) and he pulled out.. the second guy well call him ( John ) we had unprotected sex from the 5th of November I stayed at his house from the 5th of November until the 10th of November we had sex a few times throughout them days and he wasn’t pulling out he was ejaculating inside of me . my first ultrasound sound was January the 5th 2024 said I was 10 weeks exactly

I'm having deja vu on top of deja vu with this thread.

I’m sure exactly the same scenario (breaks up with one guy, brief fling, then back with the first guy again, lots of unprotected sex, tmi about who came inside and who didn’t, and a who’s the daddy question) is posted every month or so… So the OPs not wrong that lots of women on Mumsnet seem to be in the same situation

... or lots of visitors seem to be sharing that predicament

Maybe it was a planned pregnancy…

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Where are the other two kids' dads (presuming they don't have the same father)??

Why were you planning on getting pregnant with an on-off partner in between one night stands??

Why do you not believe in using contraception?

This sounds like a chaotic and fairly dysfunctional environment for your existing children, never mind bringing new auditionees for Jeremy Kyle into it.

People aren't making fun, it's just a shocking situation for you to be so blasé about, the laughing emojis and general tone of your messages doesn't exactly imply you're taking it that seriously yourself!

I believe it’s rather likely from the second.
from 5th November onwards you would be on day 10 in your cycle and depending on the length of your cycle (you mentioned irregular) your fertile window could be from day 7 to 14 and that is when you had most of the intercourse.

Sorry to make you continue to doubt but I got pregnant by a guy that also didn't finish inside me, precum can still get you pregnant. I agree it is likely guy 2 but think it's worth getting the DNA test just to be sure so you none of the involved parties has to carry that tiny bit of doubt. In my circumstances I had only had sex with the 1 guy so there was no doubt it was his (not judging just explaining why I'm certain and how i know this happens as he didn't believe me and the Dr had to explain it to him, I sadly miscarried and whilst I'll always be sad about that I am glad I'm no longer tied to that guy!) Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy

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I mean, you obviously like your life risky and complicated AF, OP. Health risks, trying to get pregnant with ‘guy 2’ despite separation and shagging someone else a few days before, two other kids…

Why do people just churn out kids in really rocky circumstances like this, just why

Sorry to hear you're losing sleep over this - I'd say it's very likely the second guy. 99% - yes there can be sperm in preejaculation, but it's a long shot this could cause a pregnancy. Of course it's still possible so best get a DNA check done when the baby is born, but I'd say the second guy is the one.

Also don't worry about the nose - they always look big on the scans 👃🏼 x

Imagine the child one day knowing this dilemma his/her mother had at wondering who fathered them?!

Good luck with having a healthy child but please try and learn from this and never have casual sex again or at the very least use contraception.

So you are 30 weeks pregnant and only NOW thinking about this??? Surely you wondered this when you saw the pregnancy test?

Unless number 2 was Mr Burns, seeing a large nose on the scan means nothing!

@peachyqueens @Shiningout @ManilowBarry these judgmental comments are an awful way to treat a worried very pregnant single woman. Shame on all of you. You aren't helping anyone but your own egos.
Was op meant to say 'I'm so sorry for being such a stupid sex maniac but...' before her post? Bore off. She's a human being and human beings have needs and sometimes human beings make unsensible choices, I'm sure you all have at some point.

Having had casual sex around the time of her conception has nothing to do with what a great mum she has every chance of being and I'm sure she won't raise a cyber bully like you all

I agree with this .

Honestly go watch Bridget jones baby it's so good you'll have a good laugh! Glad op is still smiling and not letting the cyber bullies bring her down

@Unexpectedlysinglemum
you didn’t tag all, but that list would be too long from what I saw.
I love it how women often moan about how people don’t show them kindness in times of need, when they are like this themselves. Like a pack of hyenas. Disgraceful. Many people go on threads to bark because it makes them feel better about themselves.
As far as I am aware it’s 21st century and women have been protesting and fighting to be able to be free and do what we want. Yet we, women, limit other women just because of our own prejudice. Each persons sexual habits and behaviours is no one else’s but their own concern.

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Each persons sexual habits and behaviours is no one else’s but their own concern.

Except in the case where another human being is going to be affected by it - the baby. This baby may never have a relationship with their father. Would you want that for yourself?

my 2 other kids are to guy 2 and iv also had a miscarriage to him less than a year ago .. I know I put my self in a bad situation but that doesn’t give the right for anyone to brag about my 2 kids I already have they nothing to do with this situation and seems to be the only thing people are worried about I didn’t come on here posting for advice about my 2 kids I have it’s the pregnancy I have right now I don’t see anything mentioned about my children in the original post …. So please keep my children out of it … and thank you to all the nice people who has come on here to take the time to make me feel so what better xx I am going to get a DNA test when baby is born but I’m certain that’s it’s going to be guy 2

@Xur my periods are regular I have a 28 days cycle period lasts for 5 days .. fertilie window opened on the 5th of November onwards to the 10th I believe.. were I did have unprotected sex every day with the one person from the 5th to the 10th of November

I do not understand the mean comments on this thread. You all remind me of bullies in the school yard, throwing rocks at an injured creature.
someone is struggling here, and hurting, and scared.

so fuck off with your immature, bullying, gloating, nasty little snide comments.

OP, glad you’re going to get some answers. Just take good care of yourself and your little ones.

@Newnamehiwhodis thank you so much xx

NEW THREAD REPOST so im 30 weeks pregnant my last period was the 26th of October 2023 my period is regular lasts 5 days at the end of every month how ever I never really kept track of when I ovulate. I had sex on the 31st of October n 2nd of November with well call him (Joe) and he pulled out.. the second guy well call him ( John ) we had unprotected sex from the 5th of November I stayed at his house from the 5th of November until the 10th of November we had sex a few times throughout them days and he wasn’t pulling out he was ejaculating inside of me . my first ultrasound sound was January the 5th 2024 said I was 10 weeks exactly

Why are you reposting this, Op?