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I’m 30 weeks pregnant and trying to figure who the father is

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ThatTidyPombear · 30/05/2024 08:32

so im 30 weeks pregnant my last period was the 26th of October 2023 my period is regular lasts 5 days at the end of every month how ever I never really kept track of when I ovulate. I had sex on the 31st of October n 2nd of November with well call him (Joe) and he pulled out.. the second guy well call him ( John ) we had unprotected sex from the 5th of November I stayed at his house from the 5th of November until the 10th of November we had sex a few times throughout them days and he wasn’t pulling out he was ejaculating inside of me . my first ultrasound sound was January the 5th 2024 said I was 10 weeks exactly

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PossumintheHouse · 30/05/2024 13:08

Overtheatlantic · 30/05/2024 12:58

It’s half term y’all

Yep, this came to my mind too. But unfortunately I wouldn't be surprised if this was legit. I've heard of worse sexual... conundrums.

PoopingAllTheWay · 30/05/2024 13:09

Lucky you havent caught anything

Unprotected sex with 2 men in 5 days

Noone here can tell you who the father is nor can the ‘nose’ on the scan

Get a dna test asap and make sure both men know the truth and hopefully this will give all 3 of you a lesson on safe sex 🤯

TimeZonePlantPot · 30/05/2024 13:11

Partner 2 is more likely, but I hope you know that men do release sperm during sex before they finish/ejaculate. I think posters are concerned that you broke up with someone and then 3 days after sleeping with someone else got back together and decided on day 1 to try and get pregnant of getting back together with someone you had left and don’t live with?

rwalker · 30/05/2024 13:12

Any answer would be a guess

Swanbeauty · 30/05/2024 13:12

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Withdrawn at OP's request.

User79853257976 · 30/05/2024 13:21

ThatTidyPombear · 30/05/2024 08:44

@New2024newname I kind of had always had a feeling it was the second guy the fact he wasn’t pulling out . But knowing that sperm can potentially survive for up to 5 days I just couldn't really know

Pulling out isn’t a reliable form of contraception. It’s the likely time of ovulation that means baby is probably John’s.

gindreams · 30/05/2024 13:22

It's a shame the Jeremy Kyle finished
Free DNA tests

HappyGoLucky96 · 30/05/2024 13:23

ThatTidyPombear · 30/05/2024 11:01

@Unexpectedlysinglemum yes guy 2 was my partner but we had split up in the time all this was happening so I did have sex with another guy unprotected on the 2nd of November and he did pull out and I know nothing went inside of me but I thought I would mention it because it was unprotected sex … yes with guy 2 we were trying for a baby and now I’m pregnant

Jesus Christ are u for real? you were trying for a baby then went away and had a one night stand god help these two men 😂

Riapia · 30/05/2024 13:32

i also look at the recent scans of the baby and his nose is very large like the second I sleept with
Oh well, the size of the nose, define proof that it’s man2 that’s the father.
😁😁😁

FawnFrenchieMum · 30/05/2024 13:37

ThatTidyPombear · 30/05/2024 10:54

@MolkosTeenageAngst well I had sex so much times with guy 2 from the 5th of November to the 10th of November and only twice with guy 1 .. with guy 1 on the 2nd of November I know he didn’t put anything inside of me for a fact.. we’re as with guy 2 he was every single time

If you have full sex, I’m guessing his penis was certainly inside you 😆

Lifesingflowers · 30/05/2024 13:45

Hope you don't mind me asking are you and the second guy together now? Are you getting much support from these guys in terms of your appointment etc

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ThatTidyPombear · 30/05/2024 13:59

@Lifesingflowers we are not together now but I have been visiting him this is guy (2) I go to appointments on my own and i am high risk pregnancy as well so I’m so traumatised Iv been trying to get some advice it seems some people on here seem to make front of me than help me 😞 I don’t have any contact with guy 1 what so ever as he thinks he doesn’t own the baby .. but I fell confident it’s guy 2 who is the dad

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PossumintheHouse · 30/05/2024 14:03

ThatTidyPombear · 30/05/2024 13:59

@Lifesingflowers we are not together now but I have been visiting him this is guy (2) I go to appointments on my own and i am high risk pregnancy as well so I’m so traumatised Iv been trying to get some advice it seems some people on here seem to make front of me than help me 😞 I don’t have any contact with guy 1 what so ever as he thinks he doesn’t own the baby .. but I fell confident it’s guy 2 who is the dad

Most people haven't made fun of you, they're just questioning how sexually responsible you are and have suggested you give it a lot more thought in future.
The fact is, nobody on here can help you. You can only help yourself once the baby is born by getting a paternity test. You can think and pray it's guy 2's all you like, but the only answer you're getting is from your baby's DNA.

IncognitoUsername · 30/05/2024 14:06

ThatTidyPombear · 30/05/2024 13:59

@Lifesingflowers we are not together now but I have been visiting him this is guy (2) I go to appointments on my own and i am high risk pregnancy as well so I’m so traumatised Iv been trying to get some advice it seems some people on here seem to make front of me than help me 😞 I don’t have any contact with guy 1 what so ever as he thinks he doesn’t own the baby .. but I fell confident it’s guy 2 who is the dad

The more you say, the less I believe any of this.
How old are you OP and why is the pregnancy high risk?

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ThatTidyPombear · 30/05/2024 14:13

@IncognitoUsername because I have 2 other kids born via c section and this pregnancy is high risk because of that .. I don’t care what you believe tbh

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ThatTidyPombear · 30/05/2024 14:16

@PossumintheHouse obviously but I’m here for advice like many other women have and I will be getting a DNA test done

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FawnFrenchieMum · 30/05/2024 14:17

Hoping this isn’t true tbh. Third child, third C-section, planning a baby after separation yet still separated. Poor children.

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ThatTidyPombear · 30/05/2024 14:19

@FawnFrenchieMum Yes 3rd child 3rd c section poor me what does that have anything to do with what I’m referring to ? It’s my life and I’ll do what what I want .. I’m just here for some advice as I know some other mums are going through the same situation ☺️

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ThatTidyPombear · 30/05/2024 15:10

Thanks everyone for your comments ☺️ I will be getting a DNA test done

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YellowPolkaDotBikini1980 · 30/05/2024 15:25

ThatTidyPombear · 30/05/2024 14:19

@FawnFrenchieMum Yes 3rd child 3rd c section poor me what does that have anything to do with what I’m referring to ? It’s my life and I’ll do what what I want .. I’m just here for some advice as I know some other mums are going through the same situation ☺️

You know someone else going through the same situation?

Really?

Scottishlady2 · 30/05/2024 15:35

ThatTidyPombear · 30/05/2024 14:19

@FawnFrenchieMum Yes 3rd child 3rd c section poor me what does that have anything to do with what I’m referring to ? It’s my life and I’ll do what what I want .. I’m just here for some advice as I know some other mums are going through the same situation ☺️

It’s not just your life though is it? It’s the kids you’re dragging into a mess

UpUpUpU · 30/05/2024 15:45

Hi OP. Likely second man but only a DNA test will tell. Can I about the father(s) of the other 2? are they Man 2's also?

Tlolljs · 30/05/2024 15:55

Poor fucking kids.

Lifesingflowers · 30/05/2024 16:28

I hope everything goes well for you and that you have an easy birth. Ignore all the negative comments people here pretend they have never made mistakes or forgetting that they are speaking to a pregnant woman. What will they get from dragging someone down? You did a good thing you notified both of them you didn't play any games. Just relax and try to enjoy the pregnancy

theholesinmyapologies · 30/05/2024 17:06

Were you trying with Guy 2 before you 'broke up' briefly and had sex with Guy 1?

IF so, it would make me wonder if Guy 2's sperm count isn't all that, but Guy 1's was....

You're going to need a paternity test. Hope Guy 2 knows about Guy 1.