September 2024 - Thread 7! 🐣🧡💛❤️

[BeautyAndTheBump1]

As requested a new thread for us all! 🥰 can't believe its thread 7 already!

Then hopefully by thread 14 we'll all have our babies in our arms talking all things post partum!

On the bra chat…

https://www.marksandspencer.com/flexifit-non-wired-full-cup-bra-a-e/p/clp60439504#intid=pid_pg1pip41g2r5c1

I went to be sized in m&s recently and she put me in this and holy moly, didn’t know bras could be this comfy! Not the sexiest but honestly so good. I bought two in black and white and have lived in them since. They do it in nursing too, which I’ll go back and be sized for at full term.

(I don’t know why it’s a weird green colour in the link.. I don’t think it even comes in that colour)

No good for me and my G's 😭

Ahh sorry @TripleESept24 💔 I’m an established member of the itty bitty titty committee. They’ve grown to a whopping 34C in pregnancy so far 😂

I'm a big lover of Molke bras, they're made of jersey and very comfy and they hoik you up pretty well for being non wired. And they will work for breastfeeding too

May I suggest posters try the Boob or Bust method rather than the dodgy out of date techniques advocated by some of our high street shops? It’ll be a revelation, promise! 😁

Just googled this!!!!! Never heard of it or seen it before but intrigued!!!! It's a bit late to be doing now though but I will definitely have a go

@Decaffe im going to try this later. I always have a nightmare with bras. Since having my eldest I haven't worn an underwired bra since as I hate them but really struggle to get comfy non wired bras!
I also feel @TripleESept24 struggle. F cup over here and dreading them getting bigger. I just got some bras from matalan that seem supportive but I wish I sized up to XL as the waistband is already digging in.

@tryingfortwo2 here we go then!! 😅
thanks cor the science ☺️

yesterday evening after the gym I cooked my salt and pepper goujons which I shared with my other half and afterwards I ate ice cream straight from the tub. My dear partner was sat at the kitchen table looking at me walking around the house with my ice cream tub, gym crop top on and just knickers on and he went said “you are the most beautiful now when you are pregnant “ in a very loving way. I thought that was so 🥰 cute. Obviously many of us struggle with accepting our changing bodies and growing in size and bounce back, it’s not so much about what he said, but HOW he said it. He said it in the most loving and cutest way possible, there was such warmth coming from that sentence as I was waddling around looking like a truck with my ice cream. Just makes me realise our other halves see our pregnancy in a whole different way to us.

@Xur That’s so lovely! My dh on the other hand… I was standing naked in front of the full length mirror in the bedroom the other day, looking at my bump, and I said to DH: “Are you one of those men that find women more attractive when they’re pregnant?” He looked carefully at me for a while, taking everything in, and then said, “I don’t think so.” 😂😂 Luckily he is amazing in other ways!

@Lillers 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Bras are the Bain of my life at the moment. I’m usually a 36b but my boobies have absolutely ballooned since becoming pregnant so no idea what size they are now. I’ve just been wearing soft bras from Primark but they don’t offer much support. Underwire hurts so bad.

On the ovulation front it’s definitely not an exact science, we dtd once on the 12th December and I got a positive at 10dpo but very faint. When I went for my 12 week scan they dated me 4 days ahead which was impossible

Has anyone been told they’ll have to have baby earlier than due date? After a chat with my consultant the other day I’ll feel very lucky to get to 37 weeks. She said due to the severity of my pre eclampsia previously and family history the likelihood of getting it again or gestational hypertension is very high. Obviously I’m hoping to reach full
term, but feels a bit up in the air at the moment

I got a few bras from H&M for lounging as they’re soft and nursing bras. Not much support but I can’t do running for fast walking at them mo anyway doh!
otherwise M&S flexi are my go too as well .. always re purchasing them.

its new bedroom day and as such I’m up painting, cleaning, prepping… waiting for deliveries.
cleverly I planned a nail appointment weeks ago… so come midday I’m off to get them done by then hubby should be able to get the bed and mattress up together - right? 😏

looking forward to bedtime as we slept only on the old mattress last night! I have saved the new season of Bridgerton as well 🤩

@Emmaev I have fibroids including one which is right down near my cervix so likely to need an ELCS, which I guess they usually schedule a week or so ahead of due date, but idk if that counts! But yeah I'm due on 27 but kind of expecting to deliver more like the 20. Hope you're not too worried by the prospect of an early arrival, it sounds like you're being well monitored which is the main thing

@Emmaev

I was told at my 20 week scan that I have elevated resistance in one of my uterine arteries. As such I’ve been marked down as higher risk of developing pre-eclampsia and fetal growth restriction and have been offered extra scans.

The nhs did not explain anything to me so I sought opinions from friends who are doctors and saw my private consultant at 23 weeks for a second opinion. I’m currently 24 weeks.

I’ve been told a lot of the time it doesn’t come to anything and I’ll be able to carry to term but if at anytime the baby’s growth starts slowing they may induce me early. I’ve been told I’ll be induced in week 39 regardless, they won’t let me go to 40 weeks. NHS and private both told me this.

Apparently medical literature supports inducing at 39 weeks for all births but the nhs can’t afford to implement this for everyone as it would lead to too many inductions. In many countries this is rather standard, including in HK where I had my first born via induction.

On the ovulation chat, I had a period 12th December which lasted 3/4 days. I used Flo and we then had sex around my partner's birthday 17th/18th/19th and then all over Christmas from 22nd. They bought my date forward to the 13th September which means I'd of had to have conceived before the period date, right?

@malimoon I am a little anxious only due to having our daughter at 33+6 but I am well monitored and on aspirin this time so I’m hoping it makes a difference. I just find it very hard to imagine going past 37 weeks. The consultant basically said we will just monitor after every growth scan and midwife appointment. So who knows maybe I will go full term and have no problems.

@fleur89 my consultant pretty much said this, if growth is slow they may consider inducing me. Just hoping it doesn’t come to that. I’m 24+5 and just feels forever away to a safe point

@longingtobe23 I binged Bridgeton in one day 😂 it’s SO good you are in for a treat! Annoyingly they only released 4 episodes and now I’m kicking myself I have to wait 2 weeks to see what happens🥹

At work yesterday, a group of us were chatting and they asked me if I had a name for the baby. I said yes but we won’t tell people what it is until she’s safely here. One of my colleagues, who I spoke to quite a lot when we were TTC as she was too (but hasn’t yet), said, “I’ve always dreamed of having a little girl called” and the name we’ve chosen. It’s just as well nobody was looking at me then because it would have been obvious from my face that that’s the name.

The name is 100% staying - we’ve wanted a girl with that name for years and have been calling her it. It is her name. But I’m wondering if I should tell my colleague privately that the name she said is the one we’ve chosen.

In favour of telling: it feels respectful; I’d worry that if I didn’t say anything now then when she’s born she might have forgotten that I said we already chose the name and think I ‘stole’ it from her; she would have plenty of time to get used to it.

Against telling: she’s leaving in July and so might not even hear about the name when she’s born in September (although we do have a WhatsApp group that we message in related to a shared interest which still includes other colleagues who’ve left); she is a complete gossip and might tell everyone else, which I really don’t want.

My gut feeling is not to say anything but I don’t know if that makes it worse for her in the long run.

@Lillers I wouldn’t tell her. Keep the name for yourself as you had planned initially. Sounds like you won’t have much contact with her anymore after July anyway and it won’t matter if her future baby has the same name, it’s not like you’re family or close friends. I don’t think she’d feel upset if a colleagues’ baby has the same name as her baby (and she might not even have a girl).

@Lillers I’d say it depends on the level of your friendship. If she’s leaving in July and the chances are you won’t end up seeing her afterwards, I wouldn’t say anything.

I also don’t think it’s fair for anyone to really claim names, especially when you’re not even pregnant (despite TTC.) But that’s just my two cents!

I had this with a friend when I was pregnant with my daughter. I told her the name we had chosen and she didn’t speak to me for a few months because “it was her name” even though she wasn’t pregnant, nor trying. It was a name we’ve had for years and used in reference to a baby, when we’d have one. So chances are she’d have heard it from me at some point. People get really funny about names - it’s a tough one!

That's exactly what it felt and feels like still for me - and getting stronger! ^^ <3

@Lillers I genuinely wouldn't bother saying anything it sounds like you won't have much to do with her after summer anyway and it's not worth the risk of them spreading your private name!

My partner is away this weekend picking up baby stuff from his brothers 5 hours away for us. I didn't realise how much I rely on him to curb my pregnancy venting and anger moods. Just had to sit through 2 1/2 hour family meal and really wanted to tell every person to shut up or worse at most points 🤦🏽‍♀️ I'm not normally an angry person but this last week I'm fuming think I need locking away for everyone's sake 😂

Thanks guys! Yep I won’t say anything, that was my gut feeling so happy to hear others agree!

I just went for a lovely swim. I have decided to cancel my gym membership but I’ve still got it until the beginning of July. My gym is so nice but I’m just not using it enough to make it worth it. Until the membership expires though I’ll make more effort to use the pool! DH will still be a member so can get me a guest pass every now and then.

Has anyone else been told they have low blood pressure? I’ve been getting quite dizzy and nearly fainted a few times, and when I told the midwife and got checked she told me my blood pressure has been falling from the previous ‘healthy’ readings to now being on the line between healthy and not, but she didn’t seem too worried as nothing came back from my bloodworks and I’m already on iron tablets. Trying not to stress about it but hard to not get in your head about anything medical these days! 😂

Does anyone live near a primark that have seen this in stock?