How old is too old?

[queenofmums]

Would you say there is an age limit of having children?

I don't think that explains the huge rise in autism @productiony

I'd be interested to know why there is a huge rise in autism. Is it just due to more children being diagnosed than say 20 years ago?

It's a very interesting one isn't it. Probably multi faceted... lot of toxins in environment could contribute. The controversial vaccine argument too is an interesting one but we won't Open that can of worms!

All down to personal preference.

I've always said I want to be done by 40 (almost there), more because I feel like I want a bit of freedom back. Had our eldest at 21 and youngest at 37 so spent a long time with young children needing a lot of my time.
Miscarriage may get more common in older age but... in my 20's I had 3 live births (singletons) and 3 mc's, in my 30's 3 live births (twins and singleton) and 2 mc's. So been 50/50 for me anyway, they are horrible.

@queenofmums thing is that your insides are the age they are . I'm super healthy too.

Why would you make huge life decisions based on what other people may or may not think.

Im 27 no live children and 3 miscarriages.
So i think its just life that gives people shit.
Miscarriages are definitely not defined by age, just something that happens (thats what my gp told me lol)

35 was my personal cut off and I had my last at 31. I have friends that had babies later (39 being the oldest), and they had no issues.

40 is my personal limit but each to their own

I don’t get it personally, I have 1 in my 40’s and I’m knackered. Do you have a cleaning crew and chef come in everyday? Just cooking for that many people must take forever.

I’ll be honest OP when I see posts like this I think it’s just that some people really like babies. I don’t think I could give that many children the standard of living or one on one attention that they sometimes need. Reading practice alone takes us half an hour, then there are clubs/sports, bath and bedtimes. you must be super organised and rich frankly.

I’m not saying don’t do it but do I worry about dying earlier than I would like or experiencing cognitive decline etc when Dd still needs me. About getting her on the housing ladder, helping with uni etc. theres a lot still to do for the kids you have.

Chances of miscarriage absolutely do increase with age, your GP was probably reassuring you because you are still young so it’s not your age. But past 40 you are far more likely to miscarry.

I would say that nature has cleverly put in a natural stop for when we stop having children as women. However, in this modern time of choice 40 was my cut off. My husband was a good few years older but as it wasn't his body going through pregnancy, birth etc his age wasn't the critical factor.
I have 3 children, and although part of me wishes I had 4 I know realistically this would have been a poor idea for us.

Honestly, with the number you have I would say count your blessings and perhaps stop now. But...you are living your life though and your boundaries and desires about how you parent sound different to mine and most people's so I'm not sure you will get helpful input here.

Why is your limit 35?

Do what you want OP. No else is going to live with your decisions! Make your life what you want

I will…. Thanks ☺️