How old is too old?

[queenofmums]

Would you say there is an age limit of having children?

Surely though, the only reason your children's great-grandmother is alive is because she started having children young?! Or is that not the case?

Equal maybe, but it will be very thinly spread!

That shouldn't make a difference! You can't judge a mum of 10, by how you would be with 10 children.

Thank you.. and congrats on having twins at 43. I believe and feel that children keep you active. I'm in the UK .. and I know there are some big families.. even in this day and age

I always wanted a BIG family... so my kids could all look after and protect each other when we aren't around

FGS I can't stand my sisters and we're NC.

You asked for opinions and you've got them. 10 is too many kids as it is.

No, I’m not judging on your age! Most people aren’t. They are judging on you already having 10 children, and wanting to add a huge risk which is higher due to your age. Your 8 kids are home actually need you and their dad giving them the most attention they can muster, they don’t need number 11. And frankly, even if your loved ones are supportive, they no this is true too even if they don’t say it to you.

I beg to differ.

Some people don't get a choice in the matter
I started trying for a baby when I was 28..took 12 years (numerous fertility treatments) and I'm now pregnant at 40. I am fit and healthy and have had an easy pregnancy so far (33 weeks now) DH is 43. There are some judgemental people out there who think we are too old but no one knows how life is going to pan out..you could have kids in your 20s and die young..or be a terrible parent. I can't comprehend having 10 kids but I guess chucking one more in probably won't make a lot of difference!

Mate no one is judging you on age they're judging you on the fact you've already got 10 kids.

Do you ever get a chance to go on family holidays?

I’m sorry but I agree OP, I don’t think age is the reason to stop here.

Ask your kids in 20 years' time and see what they say.

I guarantee my parents would have told everyone it was all roses too.

I also wouldn't have wanted a 60 year old parent when I was a teenager

I was my mother's "surprise" menopause baby (my brother and sister were older teens when I was born). I was very self conscious about having "old" parents. If I'm being honest as a teen I was really embarrassed and would die inside every time they were mistaken for my grandparents!

Not making any judgements at all, but that was my experience as the child of older parents.

Congratulations.. and thank you for wise words x

Many congratulations on your pregnancy. I think having a baby at 40 after many years of infertility is a totally different scenario to having one at 45 when you've already got 10.

My eldest children say I'm the best mum ever!

Yep, I used to say the same as a kid.

her eldest are adults

Of course we do... lol... we have fantastic times as a family

I'd probably say the same now to my mum's face TBF.

If you want another baby, and you can, you should. Just make sure you get all the medical support possible.

it’s a difficult question to answer. I always said I didn’t want kids after 34/35 because of the age gap between my mom and I (she was 35) and I live in fear of losing her while I am still young. Sounds silly, but I wouldn’t want to have my kids feel that way.
however! Life expectancy is up, women are having babies later and doing a great job!!

so do what feels right to you.

So your judging me because I have managed to conceive naturally... and have 10 healthy children, and care and support them totally.... 🤔

What exactly will you get from an 11th baby that your existing children don't give you?

"I want a big family" - you've already got one.

It's nothing to do with what my children give me!