How old is too old?

[queenofmums]

Would you say there is an age limit of having children?

Exactly...the male female divide. Ok for men not for women.
2 of my friends were in their 50s...one 50 other 52...had their child...easy pregnancies...labour for both was long..but so was mine and i was 32 years younger . Mums and children are fine. Also in my family my great gran had gran at 48... And my cousin had her 2nd child age 49... complications but alls ok now. If you are having periods you're gd to go...no matter age

You have 10 children and 4 step children, I’m not sure if this is real but if it is you don’t need any more children, focus on the ones you’ve got. Why would you want another child at your age? I could understand if you had no children and had been trying for years but seriously.

If I was 50...even 48/49 I doubt It would be a question in my head at all!

I've not been on here before... ! Lol

10 already, Christ! I'm coming to the end of my first (easy and healthy) pregnancy at 40 and wondering if we'll feel willing and able to squeeze one more at 42/43 to give them a sibling. I'm thinking about the effect on me and the general risks, wouldn't cross my mind if we already had 10!!

I was making a point that as long as you can have kids... then go for it.

Appreciate that.. its good to know that older women are in my shoes

I feel too old but I did as soon as my third was born and I’m in my mid 40s and my third and youngest child is 10. So I’ve been feeling too old for a decade. I just found it all quite hard!

I am 34 and having my first. But I feel like they'll probably be an only as my DH is 42 and I think he'll be too old in a few years.

Yes, he's a "young 42" now, but so many men seem to age fast in their 40s, sometimes with health issues, and I'd rather he was an active participant in one child's life than spread too thinly across two.

We are a close family..and family is really important to us... all the kids kind of expect it another!

40

Dont think most people can relate to, or parent, teenagers well when they're aged 53-59 themselves.

Too much of a generatiom gap and the male midlife slump & menopause makes women not great at dealing with teens at this age.

Also means a parent is likely around age min of 70 before becoming a grandparent, which is too old generally to be hands on. Better age 55ish assuming average age of childbirth is 25-30 generally

I was on here all set to say ignore all the "you're too old past 30" naysayers but I'm not being funny, if you've got 10 kids you shouldn't be having any more. I'm one of 5 and even that was too many.

25 is very young these days to be having children.

I had my 3rd last year at 38 and I wouldn’t want to have another much older than that- I am knackered.

I think you are playing with fire . If you have healthy children then I wouldn't risk it .. I had my son at 37 and he has SN . There is no way I'd risk one in my 40's now I know what I know now .

What makes the fact that I've got 10 children be a negative? So why shouldn't I have anymore?

Because no one can parent that many children equally and effectively. Seriously. The party line when I was growing up was that we were one big happy chaotic family and we loved all the noise and what have you, and I parroted that belief, but my GOD did I need my own space and did I get sick and tired of my siblings. I've only had one myself - go figure.

😊 I am a very active 45 year old. I'm certainly not old before my time. But at the same time... i have a secure solid marriage and family

If you have ten I'd ask why you want another? What will this 11th child bring to your life that you don't already have?

I can vividly remember my mum telling me she was pregnant with the fourth, and then the fifth, and each time smiling happy and saying how excited I was whilst inwardly going oh please no, why do we need another one?!

I do take that on board.. and appreciate iate what you are saying. But at the same time I'm really healthy. That is a risk factor in my head that 10 children have all been uncomplicated 4 hour births and they are all healthy too.

Because family is so important to me...and to us... and even my children say about me having another. Its me that's been slightly holding back more this time

I’m sure you are healthy and active, but you’ve given birth to 10 babies and that takes a huge physical toll on your body, your kids deserve you to stay healthy for them and have the energy to put everything into them. The risks are higher now and it’s not fair on your family

I had my second and last child at 30. I wouldn’t have had kids past 35.

10 kids? I wouldn’t be able to give them the attention that I would like. 2 is perfect for us.

Your children say about you having more because it’s all they no! Not because they want to be further diluted and have less attention and money on themselves. Big families are great, and you’ve got one, more just adds more risk to yours and the babies health