OCTOBER 2024 BABIES - Thread 4

[CluelessInLondon]

Just getting another thread going as we are about to run out of space on the old one - hope nobody minds me taking the initiative on it!

Previous thread here: https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/pregnancy/5028774-october-2024-babies-thread-3

@AppleTree16 Your story about your toddler wanting the baby to come out now made me laugh as it reminded me of one of my friends - her little boy was desperate to meet his baby brother the whole time she was pregnant, then once he arrived her first born didn't like the noise and started demanding that he go "back in mummy's tummy". 😂

Has anybody who is expecting their first baby felt much/any movement yet? I'm 18+5 today and haven't felt anything yet, or I don't think I have - I keep thinking maybe I'm feeling something but I think I'm just looking too hard for it!

We haven't really told DC2 yet tbh. He's a similar age to DC1 one was last time (about 2.5) and she didn't really understand and also wasn't really arsed. I remember I did the whole "mummy's got a baby in her tummy" thing and she looked at me nervously, laughed and said no "no you haven't!" and promptly changed the subject haha. She was over 3 when DC2 was actually born and the last couple of months when there was a visible bump and she could feel DC2 moving etc she became attached and excited but earlier she just didn't understand.

So this time we have told DC1 now (almost 6) and DC2 was there but not really listening, I wont bother talking to him properly about it until much later in the pregnancy. DC1 says she is excited but appears a bit worried about it which I wasn't expecting. She told me she is worried how she will look after two little ones!! Lol she takes her Big Sister role very seriously and is a very sensitive little soul.

Somebody mentioned a Pipetta - I had this with DC2 and would recommend it!

@CluelessInLondon that's very sweet and funny. I’m half expecting her to tell the baby to leave when it arrives 😂

Glad you've mentioned how other siblings have reacted @WeightoftheWorld my almost 4 year old was very vocal about wanting it to be a girl and every time she mentioned I would say well it's just going to be a surprise mummy doesn't get to choose it will be a boy or girl and we will love it and welcome it into our family. Then obviously told it was a boy at scan and we got a balloon for her to pop straight away moaning it wasn't a girl and I just kept smiling and saying well aren't you lucky you have a sister and a brother lots of people don't get thrat. It's been 2 weeks now and tbh we don't mention it much but this morning she brought it up again and was very grumpy about it being a boy. It's doing my head in abit tbh!

@CluelessInLondon do you know where your placenta is?

When I had the extra scan the sonographer said mine was fundal (at the top) so I'd likely feel movement sooner than others.

@LuxeBiscuit At my dating scan the report said it was anterior so I know if it hasn't moved as baby is growing that it might take a bit longer to feel movements - just driving myself a bit mad trying to work out if I might be feeling some movement or if I'm just hungry. 😂It's like a new kind of symptom spotting!

@CluelessInLondon i haven’t felt movements yet either and first baby. I’m 17 + 5
I had my 16 week midwife appt last week and she asked if I’ve felt movements yet which worried me! But I had a gender scan on the weekend and they said have an anterior placenta - and said I won’t feel movement for a while yet!
Do you know if you have anterior / posterior placenta?

@Holl89 It was anterior at my 12 week scan although I know it can move over time as baby grows so not sure if it still is, I haven't had any private scans since then. My anomaly scan is a week on Saturday - I would love to feel some movement before then just so I can feel a bit more confident going into it, I've been feeling quite anxious about whether everything is okay and the only thing I can use for assurance is the fact that I seem to still be getting fatter...!

@CluelessInLondon this is exactly me! I'm almost 18 weeks and not felt anything definite - just like stomach rumbling feelings ? I would love to start feeling something for definite. It's quite stressful. I don't think my placenta is anterior based on my previous scans either. On the nhs website it says lots of women don't feel anything until 20 weeks for first time babies so trying not to worry. I wonder if I'll feel them when I'm flying?

I'm also getting fatter by the day which I'm hoping is a good sign.

@Holl89 I wouldn't worry. I think the question about movement is standard as my midwife typed something onto the form after she asked me.

@CluelessInLondon I know what you mean. I'm constantly waiting to feel the sensation again. I guess it's different for different people because I read it can feel like pops or bubbles and I can't even picture what that feels like. For me it has been like I'm being tickled with a light feather. But I only feel it on some days and only when I'm sat at my desk in silence.

@Mitsky catching up a little so a bit delayed but wanted to reply!
If all works out ok, this will be our triple rainbow after 3 MMCs. Im with you on feeling detached, we only ever found out no heartbeat at scans so feel like a sitting duck in between! For me it’s the only way to mentally get through, and now people are starting to find out it’s actually quite uncomfortable for me when people mention it in the usual, as you would, congratulatory way because I’m not there yet. I cannot even think of a time I will be comfortable to start making purchases and get things set up. In my first pregnancy which was my daughter it was so different, by this point I was so confident!
I have been referred to a perinatal midwife to check in later in the pregnancy - they said to help with bonding if I’m still feeling detached.
wishing you all the best. It’s so hard to believe everything will be ok when you’ve been through so much loss and want to protect yourself, you’re not alone xx

Also not wanting to bring anyone down! I enjoy following the thread as a reminder of what is normal at this stage and dipping my toe into feeling a bit of excitement! X

@MamaW05 not bringing the thread down at all. I’m so much more anxious this time round. It’s one of the reasons why I’m not having a baby shower (didn’t with #1 either) because I don’t want to congratulate the baby until they are safely here.

@Sunandsea13 I used a IKEA Poang chair which was great. To be honest I mostly sat on the sofa when he was young. It was only once he was in his own room and I was feeding him through the night that I needed a chair. The picture you shared is lovely but the back doesn’t look very high. I definitely wanted something to rest my head against in the middle of the night!

I had a second hand Elvie but really didn’t use it. The handsfree ones are great in theory but they’re not very powerful so take a long time and if you do any significant movement they leak. To be honest I found pumping such a faff that I didn’t really use it at all. Anything I had pumped early on was in the freezer and eventually got thrown out when he wouldn’t take a bottle. If I was doing it for the first time again I’d wait and see if I definitely needed a pump before spending the money. I won’t be pumping this time. Can’t be bothered!

@Sunandsea13 I had a nursing chair given by a friend, I use it now to give him his bottle before bed but before he was in his own room I used to just feed him in bed, or on the sofa if downstairs, I did bottle feed though so not sure if that makes a difference. He was off night feeds by the time he went to his own room at 6 months, so while a chair is nice to have for me it doesn't need to be specificlly a nursing chair

@Sunandsea13 that chair looks gorgeous, although I agree with what someone else said about the back being quite low! For our first we had a comfy rocking style chair with matching rocking footstool in her room and it was lovely. We used it a lot after 6 weeks when we were trying to settle our baby into a circadian rhythm (so didn’t want to do the feeds downstairs with harsher lights etc). Even though she was still in the next to me crib until 6 months, the chair being in her room meant whoever wasn’t doing the feeds that night got undisturbed rest ready for the morning feed etc. Worked quite nicely tbh, but we combination fed so does depend if you’re planning to EBF

@Sunandsea13 I used this abit but had 2 bottle refusers but I really really rate it would just pop it in my bra first thing and crack on with sorting breakfast etc

Woops @Sunandsea13

This weekend, we have been slowly clearing out the little bedroom. It was an office. The office is being resited downstairs in the rear sitting room.
How much junk can People hoard! Also, I completely have had enough of Facebook marketplace. Giving away a free bookcase (perfect condition) the questions and the no-shows! In the end we took it to the recycling centre last night such a waste.
Just the last few bits to sort, then we need to start painting, etc.

I hope everyone's having a good weekend!

I've been in all day as I've had really bad pain in my pelvis. I've googled it and it sounds like round ligament pain. It's not fun - I think I'll go to a Pilates class this week.

@LuxeBiscuit I have a few shooting pains some weeks ago and started aquanatal has worked wonders.

Hope everyone had a nice weekend ☀️

sorry to be a anxious Annie but I feel like my anxiety is spiking after after temporarily feeling some reassurance after our 13 week scan. I'm 16 weeks tomorrow and between 11-14 weeks I was having pretty constant twinges throughout the day felt like growing pains/ aches. But this last week I haven't felt any really. The odd one or two but not as regular as bedore. Did anyone else have this experience this around 15/ 16 weeks? I have a private scan booked at 17+4. I wish I had booked it earlier now!

@spudnik1 We've been doing similar this weekend - my husband has been using our box room as his office ever since lockdown so we've been moving all of the stuff out of it to turn it into the baby's room. It's raining today so he's in there painting!

@peardeer I definitely had the feeling as the weeks went on after the dating scan that everything was almost going back to normal and I hardly even felt pregnant anymore. I only get quite random on and off twinges which I think is pretty normal as things go on. I got really anxious around the 18 week mark and was convinced something was wrong, but I'm feeling a bit better now - starting to look like I've got a bit more of a defined bump which is reassuring. I've got my 20 week scan on Saturday - I'm both very nervous and looking forward to it at the same time.

I think I may have felt my first movements last night, which was kind of exciting - just flutters for a few seconds and I don't think there's been anything since but it definitely felt like it could have been. It's so hard to distinguish from normal feelings you get after eating though!

@CluelessInLondon thank you for sharing your experience. I am still having the twinges and ache but I feel like I have to stop and really concentrate to notice it. Not sure if I'm just used to it now or it hurts less but I'm finding my anxiety spiralling so much at this stage. I thought I'd feel better in the 2nd trimester but my anxiety seems to be so much worse. So hard not getting reassurance from symptoms and I'm not expecting any movements yet as this isn't my first but I have never got this far before.

I have everything crossed for your scan, hope it is a lovely experience for you. How magical to feel the movement, I keep reading about what it may feel like

@peardeer I feel you on the anxiety, it's a long time between 12 and 20 week scans.
I'm also feeling quite anxious as my sickness is much better (didn't take my anti sickness last night and feel ok today), I can drink coffee again and not feeling as many twinges.

Unsure whether to get a private scan. My NHS one is the end of this month.
its so hard to know what's best!!!

Hope you're feeling ok today.