Parents laughing at labour/parenting thoughts

[Firsttimemumtobee]

I'm currently 25 weeks pregnant with my first baby. My parents were over yesterday, I have a good relationship with them and talk to them a lot. They're very excited to become grandparents.
We were chatting about the pregnancy and my thoughts on different things, what I'd like to try etc. I chatted about trying colostrum harvesting and breastfeeding if possible (understanding that it may or may not happen at the time, just thinking about what I'd like to try). I saw my Dad roll his eyes at my Mum, and then he started laughing. He said I don't know how you 3 (me and my siblings) ever survived! I was shocked at his response, he's usually very supportive about anything I do/ideas I have. When he went out of the room, Mum said so much has changed since you were born, there's far too much information for you now. I said that yes, they have obviously done more research in the last 30 years since I was born, as they would have done when she had me, compared to when my Grandma gave birth. She agreed, but was still smirking. I ended up saying that I wasn't prepared to discuss anything further with them if they were going to be like this.
Has anyone else had these reactions, and how did you deal with it?

Thank you all for your replies, I came off here for a while so have just read all your responses.
I've since been to 3 antenatal classes and have found the best way is to just tell them what info I've been told by the midwives and feeding experts. I've been met every time by sighs, smirks and laughter, but I am allowing it to go over my head 😅 My partner has been very supportive, including last night when I had a little cry. It's just that this is so unlike my parents who have honestly been so supportive throughout my life, of everything.
I'm also feeling a lot less worried about what they say, when I've just found out that my mum smoked throughout her 3 pregnancies, which has a direct link to my heart condition 🤷‍♀️
Also, no my dad definitely isn't embarrassed by this kind of conversation. He's always been very relaxed talking about periods, sex, pregnancy etc. He always says it's just a natural part of life that no one should feel embarrassed to talk about.
We just have to do what's right for us at the time, which is all anyone can do. After 2 losses last year, I know I am being a bit precious, but I don't even feel like I will end up with a baby, even when I can feel them all day every day now. Just want to do the best I can.

Oh my mum has also told me that she'll be there as soon as I've given birth to meet her grandchild. I jokingly (but truthfully!) replied that in that case, I wouldn't be telling her for a little while so my partner and I get a chance to meet our baby first. My mum's friend then suggested that she sits outside the room during labour 😂

Hopefully your mum's friend is joking, but where I work (I'm a midwife) it's not at all unheard of for grandparents and other relatives to turn up against the couple's wishes. If a couple lets us know that there are particular people they don't want allowed on to the unit, the receptionists are very good at making up reasons that they can't come in, without disclosing that the couple has requested it, and creating any family drama!

Thank you so much for letting me know this! 😆 After I found out my babys heart had stopped beating last year, they did just turn up unannounced, so it wouldn't surprise me at this point. Very good to know! 😄

With regards to your parents, ignore them and don't speak to them further about your choices.
With regards to colostrum harvesting, I would highly recommend. It didn't affect my labour, DD was 10 days late and I started bang on 37 weeks, but I found the easiest way was to sterilise a small pot (I actually used an unused shot glass 😂) and then use the syringe (1ml) to suck up and pop in the freezer as is. I had about 30 syringes that I gave to my DD during her first 2 weeks. My right side was a better producer, with milk supply as well, but if you can get a few syringes it will really help especially if you struggle to breastfeed or it takes a few days to come in. My DH brought 5 syringes to the hospital and I kept them in the fridge there in my own bag that was labelled

Yup me too. Babies born between 1973 and 1981. Breast feeding not only encouraged but expected. Newborn put skin to skin immediately after birth. Low lighting in delivery room and by the time the last ones were born, birthing pools offered. I did have shaved pubes and an enema for the first (Addenbrookes) but not for the subsequent 3. Started weaning at 4+months, never gave any of them baby rice or juice. Never gave them top-up formula.
Didn't breast feed in front of my dad though. He'd have been embarrassed (headmaster).

Thank you for the advice, it's something I'm going to try from 37 weeks 😊

To be honest, I completely understand your mum. My kids are young adults and some of the things I hear today makes me roll my eyes. I swear it is making new parents so anxious

I should add that breastfeeding was normal when i had mine and things like lying on back to sleep and weaning at 6 months, but I've heard some pretty extreme ideas more recently