OCTOBER 2024 BABIES :) THREAD 3

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Welcome all expectant mothers of Oct 2024… This thread has been made as we are nearly getting to the end of the 2nd thread and that was made a little last time and people didn’t find it for a abit so making this one now so people can just add their names until the 2nd thread is full. Hope no one minds me doing this :)

@October73 thank you so much! I called them and they confirmed it was a subchorionic haematoma but was small so hoping I don’t get any further issues :)

Hi everyone.

Had my 12 week dating scan today albeit I'm measuring 13+6.
My NT measurement was 3.6mm and we've been referred to CVC testing next week.
I'm absolutely driving myself crazy and already feel like we've lost the baby. Terrified of having to make that hard decision no one wants to make.

The midwife was.great and went through all the options for us and although the 1% miscarriage rate really scares me I'd rather have a definite answer than go via NIPT and then probably have to have invasive anyway.

Has anyone had a high measurement before?

Feeling absolutely alone 😔

@StarShipEnterprise1 @CluelessInLondon hopefully you start feeling movement in a couple of weeks so it will feel more real!

I went from being bloated to having a little pudgy bump and I'm only 13+2. I can no longer suck it in lol.

Everything I've read says to enjoy this early stage of the second trimester before you get too big and have aches and pains. A colleague is in the third trimester and she looks absolutely fed up.

@ButterflySkies Phew! So pleased for you!

@CharlieBalf I'm so sorry, I don't have any personal experience, but I am thinking of you. Do you know when your next appointment is? Sending love ❤️

Agree with others re emotions! I never cry or feel emotional really, but ive been crying at all sorts recently! Someone almost ran over a pigeon, I was hysterically crying and I saw a man eating alone in a restaurant and had tears in my eyes! I've read it's all completely normal.

I also don't feel pregnant, we had the gender scan on Friday, but I don't know how I'll wait for the 20 week scan without at least one more private scan first to make sure all is okay. It's such a worrying time. I'm hoping I'll feel more connected when I have a bump and I can feel the baby wriggling around, I am so excited, but because it doesn't feel real, I don't yet feel a massive connection. Hope that makes sense x

Thank you lovelies!! You're all such a huge support 🩷 really helped me through that wait 🩷

Im hoping we havent done this too soon and tempted fate but we told my DD after nursery, we both thought something else to focus on might be helpful! She is absolutely thrilled, although she cant wrap her head around the fact it could be a boy...!

@CharlieBalf sending a hand hold. I know it's hard but try not to panic, stay off google and do what feels right for you with testing. It's such a personal decision. Sending a big hug! Xxx

@CharlieBalf sorry to hear you are going through this. I was flagged at my 12 week as high risk for genetic issues, specifically Down syndrome.

My partner and I opted for the NIPT as a first call, as after discussion on options my hospital won’t perform an Amnio before 16 weeks. We decided we didn’t want to wait that long (as 3 weeks to me felt like a long time with no more answers) and we were told we could effectively have NIPT and if that flagged continue onto the Amnio a week or so after the NIPT results came back which they say are 5-10 Working days. If you really push I think they will give you both regardless.

For us our NIPT came back low risk late last week, and as the scan showed no anomalies according to the sonographers (it looks like it was my blood factors). So we decided not to proceed with the amnio and roll the dice as we felt the NIPT effectively moved us back into normal pregnancy category with the same risks.
As my hospital gives your risk profile at the same time as your 12 week scan (joys of lab onsite), the experience was somewhat ruined! So I’m waiting to have a scan at 16 weeks which is in a week or so to check in again and if that sonographer raises any concern I will be straight on the hospital phone!

I had all the scenarios running through my head, and googled terribly (bad idea!). What I will say is though, a lot of people have really high odds in discussion forums due to the NT result (saw someone with 1/6) they had the Amnio and Baby was 100% perfect! Also worth knowing not all hospitals have the same outcomes for miscarriage after, you may find your hospital has better odds if you decide to go with the Amnio.

I hope you get the answers you need quickly, it’s really awful. It didn’t help that my phone registered all my googling and started spamming me on instagram with accounts of people who kept their babies, which was not the decision we would have taken due to a number of factors.

So a piece of advice from me - if googling use incognito mode! I’ve still got the thought niggling in my mind but trying to put it aside and hoping for the best at my 20 week. I’m trying to still enjoy and celebrate the fact I am pregnant, and forcing myself to tell people now because even if it does go wrong, I’m going to need my friends support

Hi everyone I hope you are all feeling ok. I’m a bit stressed at the minute as all of my pregnancy symptoms have completely gone. I’m 11 weeks now. I’ve had 2 separate calls today from the midwife’s. One telling me that when I see my consultant in 2 weeks he may want to do genetic testing as my cousin has cystic fibrosis (I have never been offered this in my previous pregnancies, the last been 12 years ago) and the second call was to say that I’m going to need a scan on my cervix around the 20 week mark as I have had to have some of my cervix taken away due to pre cancerous cells. She said they will check to see that my cervix is fully closed still as it can cause premature labour. Has anyone experienced this before? X

@ButterflySkies Great news. What a relief for you. Hopefully the rest of the pregnancy is smooth sailing for you.

@CharlieBalf Sorry I don't have any experience with this but sending you a hand hold. The waiting is the worst in these situations. I agree with everyone else, please try to stay off Google. I know this is so much easier said than done.

@OneSunnyFox thank you so much for retelling your experience- the hospital didn't give odds or explain anything about the scan other than the NP measurement putting us in the 'danger' category which is quite frustrating.

Likentou we wanted dto know ASAP so CVC is the quickest way.

Have tried to stay off Google! Tbh I don't think with the meagre amount if information I have it would be very helpful. Just a question of stay put and wait I think.

@CharlieBalf keeping everything crossed for you!

@CosyGreyLion i was told at my booking appointment that I may need extra scans due to having treatment previously for pre cancerous cells on my cervix too. I had this done prior to having my son and I didn’t have any extra scans then so I’m guessing this is a newer thing that they offer. I carried him full term with no problems and had had the treatment about 3 years prior to pregnancy and a clear smear test since. Hope that helps to put your mind at ease

@StarShipEnterprise1 I was thinking about whether to book another scan, but then I thought if I do that I'll probably fall into a pattern of feeling like I have to have a scan every few weeks to feel reassured, and then I'll end up dumping loads of money on private scans that I could have usefully spent on other things! I think my husband is definitely against having another scan before 20 weeks and would rather just wait - he feels very confident that in a couple of weeks' time I'll have a proper bump and will stop worrying!

@WickWood Sounds like you're feeling exactly the same way I am, where it doesn't quite feel real at this point. I almost feel less like I'm pregnant than I did a few weeks ago!

@CharlieBalf No experience here either but wanted to send you a hand-hold, and I hope you get your further testing quickly so you have more clarity on how things are with baby and what to do next. ❤

Quick question - do they take a urine sample at your 12 week scan, or is that just the midwife appointments?

@IsLarryFromSomething I've been told I will have a urine sample taken at my 12 week scan but I'm not sure whether that's because I haven't had any bloods or urine taken yet as my booking appointment was over the phone.

Is anyone high risk and planning on going on holidays during the second trip ester?

Im high risk for multiple reasons, the main ones being that I have a muscle disease/physical disability, rheumatoid arthritis and hypothyroidism. This is my first pregnancy so Im not sure if it's safe to go on holiday while high risk? I can't really ask the midwife as my muscle disease is rare and not a lot of health professionals know alot about it so I don't think she'd be able to say a lot on the matter.

I haven't had any sickness at all and I'm 11 weeks (not a brag, I really feel for all of you who have been ill) and I feel pretty good in myself, much better than I usually do.
Obviously I don't want to risk being ill and that affecting the baby so if it's advised against I definitely won't be going. I was just curious if other people have gone and how it was for you?

**trimester not trip ester!!

@IsLarryFromSomething I didn't have a urine sample taken at my dating scan, just bloods for the combined screening.

@SELE97 have you been referred to an obstetrician? I have health conditions so the midwife has booked me in to to see Obs @ 15 weeks. Perhaps they could advise on travelling?

@JLT24 my specialists for my muscle disease had written to an obstetrician in my local hospital back in January before I was pregnant as they wanted me to have a pregnancy care plan before I even got pregnant but they still haven't heard back from them after following up multiple times.

The midwife said I would be referred to an obstetrician after my 12 week scan which is next Wednesday so not sure how long it will take after that to speak to someone.

Do you know what the reason is for seeing an obstetrician at 15 weeks? How come they don't see you earlier than that to create a pregnancy plan?

@SELE97 the midwife said at my booking appointment which I had in week 8 that it was standard practice that if you need to see an Obs it will be around 16 weeks, I received a letter with an appointment for when I am 15 weeks (I’m now 12 weeks my scan is tomorrow).

I agree it’s a long time to wait without any support and I’ve really struggled!

@JLT24 ah right okay I didn't know that, from what the midwife said I don't think she's referring me until after the 12 week scan by the looks because I haven't had any letters and I had my booking appointment at 7 weeks (they thought I was 8).

I'm sorry to hear you've struggled. It's really nerve wracking isn't it? They tell you you're high risk of this and this and this and scare you with all the things that could go wrong and then say you won't see an obstetrician until much later on in the pregnancy which is really anxiety provoking.

@JLT24 also good luck with your scan, the NHS dated me a week further along than I actually am so I went to my 12 week scan yesterday and they measured and dated me at 10+6 so I have to go back next week for my actual 12 week scan.

I did tell them the dates were wrong but they have to go off LMP, but im not complaining as I got an extra scan to see baby😌

@SELE97 it is nerve wrecking, my health conditions have worsened, then I worry about the impact of that on the pregnancy as well as all of the usual worries. I’ve been super emotional and overwhelmed with it all this week.

@SELE97 I am high risk. I have booked a holiday at 23 weeks. I don't think I would be happier going later. It is a relaxing holiday though . No big adventures.

My consultant appointment I for the week before at 22 weeks so quite late. I am guessing they wanted full information from all scans ? Or they are busy.

@JLT24 Aw I'm so sorry you're conditions have worsened, it's horrible when you have no control over your health. It is definitely overwhelming!

Have you had any private scans? Hopefully your scan tomorrow will put your mind at ease.