Pregnancy after loss support

[Hopingrae]

Hi ladies, I've recently found out I'm pregnant again after 2 losses in a row. I'm very lucky to have a DS and I had another MC before I had him. So 3 losses in total. I'm only 4+4, but got faint positive 11 days ago at 9dpo and it feels like I've been pregnant for aaaages but time is moving so slowly. We've booked an early scan when I'll be 8 weeks exactly so waiting it out until then, and hoping nothing happens in between. I wondered if anyone else is in a similar position and wanted to share this early journey with me. I've decided not to tell anyone this time round, a lot of my close friends are dealing with newborns or their own ivf journeys and I don't want to add any load to anyone. But it feels like a huge load to me so would love to share with someone!

@Figtree11 I'm so very pleased for you and to be reading this!! I know the wait and build up to scan must have been so hard. What a relief you must be feeling. How wonderful. Glad they've given you progesterone too to cover more bases. Sending MN hugs x

@Holl89 thank you for the reassurance I was so scared this morning after going to the loo, I petrified myself 😂 they were like pessary bombs!! @Figtree11 that's amazing news, so happy for you!!! The pessaries have stopped my spotting for now (touch wood) you've got this! Have they booked you in for another scan in two weeks? Xx

@Figtree11 YES!!!! Amazing news! So happy to hear this update! 🥰 I think I said before but I've had some random spotting and bleeding with this pregnancy and no reason was ever found. Glad you've got the progesterone now. Fingers crossed that was your last scare!! 💗

Thank you so much, you ladies are so lovely & supportive.
Sorry I’ve been no support to any of you this week, my head had been a mess.

Mega relieved, and glad I have progesterone as makes me feel like I’m doing something, as last time my pregnancy made it to 8wks, so hopefully this will help.

@Rockyslife no I’ve been discharged, I won’t have another scan now until the 12 week one fingers crossed. Glad to know the pessaries stopped your spotting!

Thank you all again for thinking of me xx
Hope all of you are doing ok today

@Figtree11 Awww that's great news ☺️ Great that you've been prescribed the progesterone too!

I finally got my delayed Nipt results in the post after the Bank holiday. We knew from the nurse calling us last week that they'd come back as low risk, so this morning we found out that we're having a girl 💖 It still doesn't feel real at all. Maybe it's self preservation after loss or maybe it's normal I don't know. Will just have to keep taking each day as it comes being tentatively hopeful as we pass each milestone 🙏 🌈

thats amazing @Figtree11 so happy for you and great that they’ve given you progesterone. Hopefully the time between now and your scan will fly by.

congrats on having a girl that’s so exciting @Sez281💓🌸🌺🎀

good luck for your scan tomorrow @Hopingrae looking forward to hearing your good news ☺️

xx

@Sez281 so glad nipt all ok and how precious to know it's a girl. So pleased for you 🥰

@30somethingttc thanks lovely. Feeling rather nervous tbh. I hope I have more good news to share with you all. Likewise will be thinking of you on Friday!

Hello, I hope it’s ok if I join? I’m 5 + 3 with pregnancy number 4, I have DC age 3 and had two MMCs in the last nine months. I’m trying really hard to not think about this pregnancy and to think instead about getting to the next milestone (likely a viability scan in the next week or so at EPU, getting past 10 weeks, getting to 12 weeks..) but sometimes it feels completely overwhelming and as though there is a gigantic mountain to climb to get there!

Lovely news @Sez281 that it’s a girl! I’m glad your test results came back as low risk

Thank you @30somethingttc

Good luck tomorrow @Hopingrae everything crossed for good news

Welcome @Wise0wl i never knew how terrifying pregnancy after loss would be. Wishing you all the luck for when you have your scan soon. Thinking in milestones is a good idea, it’s not as overwhelming breaking it down into chunks

Thanks @Figtree11, and I’m so glad that you’ve had some reassurance with your pregnancy! I’m also on progesterone as I have a history of spotting.

@Sez281 yay a little girl 🥰 how lovely. I've found it's all felt a lot more real since I knew it was a little boy in there. Being able to think of him as 'him' has made him more of a little person!

Welcome @Wise0wl ! We're on a couple of other threads too! Glad to see you here - it's a really lovely supportive thread 💕

👋 hello @SnookyPook, thank you!

Guys I can't deal with this, just been to the loo and wiped and it was like almost a tiny of orange, I was just starting to relax and now this happens I am absolutely petrified and I almost wish I never got pregnant again, I physically can't keep dealing with these highs and lows. I'm so scared, I am just waiting for it to turn into more

I know that it's way, way easier said than done but try and have a breather and see how things pan out this evening tomorrow. If things get worse then contact the EPU?

I know it's not the case in every scenario but as @Figtree11 showed with her scan today, bleeding / spotting does not always = bad.

I realise nothing will take the stress away - I've been the same when I've had bleeds so far. Am still waiting to hear what my HCG looks like but I think all we can do is take a deep breath and try to distract ourselves!

I’m sorry you are so worried @Rockyslife Every trip to the toilet is just anxiety inducing isn’t it.

I had some orange type discharge a few weeks ago, only lasted a morning. I had read that certain pregnancy multi vitamins can cause it. I take pregnacare, and it turns wee very yellow, so wasn’t surprised it could affect discharge too!
Or it could be irritation from the progesterone?

@Rockyslife Oh you poor thing, I totally get why you'd spiral seeing that but I absolutely agree with the others that it could be absolutely progesterone, or vitamins or just random weird cm. I know it's easier said than done but try not to worry too much x

Thanks @30somethingttc How are you getting on? You have a scan soon I think?

@Hopingrae Aww I totally get the scan anxiety. I'm sure it will all be fine though. Glad you're feeling a little better and the antibiotics have worked.

Welcome @TamsynR and @Wise0wl and any other ladies I missed. I agree with @SnookyPook that this thread is a great space to share our worries and any bumps in the road that we may face. We've all unfortunately had losses that make everything more heightened in new pregnancies but it's great to be able to talk through our concerns (and hopefully update with lots of positive stories too! 🌈🙏)

This is the end of the road I know it is, I can't do it I am absolutely petrified I am a mess. There's no one for help and I dot know what to do

I know it’s so hard @Rockyslife & totally sympathise. But it doesn’t mean it’s the end of the road. When are you next due a scan?
And have you had your booking appointment yet? If you have can you talk to your midwife about some support to help you get through how you are feeling?

My midwife appointment is Tuesday and my check up scan with epu isn't until next Fri I only had one on Sunday, I am just traumatized, whilst waiting for the worst to happen. I just don't see how it can end up positive as this is the same as what happened last time. Plus I am on pessarys so why would I start spotting again if it wasn't more sinister 😢

Pessaries can irritate the cervix causing spotting but honestly from your pic it doesn't look like spotting, it just looks like tinged cm which could be from anything. Please call your GP or epu tomorrow and try and get some support. I know it seems hopeless now but it might not be. Definitely talk to your midwife about your anxiety too hun. We can all relate and it's so understandable but you need to mind yourself x

@Rockyslife I'm so sorry you're feeling so anxious about this - and I absolutely get it! I've had at least 3 points in this pregnancy where I've been absolutely certain it was the end of the road. However, it wasn't. And it wasn't for Figtree today either. Seeing spotting/blood is particularly triggering after previous loss but it really can be just one of those things. And I agree with @Sez281 - what you've shared is more like tinged CM than anything. Please don't write it all off just yet. And definitely look into a referral for some MH support going forwards - even if it's just a check-in call with a midwife once a week or something. Pregnancy after loss is really tough and I had the same thoughts of "I'm not sure I'm strong enough", but these little ones have chosen us at this moment and we have to trust the journey with them. There are never any guarantees unfortunately so I'm trying to enjoy every bit of the ride as much as I can. I hope you're able to get some support tomorrow. Definitely call your EPU again and see what they say. Mine have been fantastic and insisted I go back any time I had spotting or concerns. Hopefully yours will be similarly helpful. X

Got my bloods back. HCG is 723 and progesterone 60+.

Am happy with the progesterone but HCG feels a little low for where I am (4+5ish) and my spotting had gone from brown to pink. Focusing on next load of bloods on Friday and then to see how scan next week goes 😥

Morning everyone, last night was an absolute whirlwind, I think I had a panic attack which I have never had before and I couldn't calm down. I didn't manage to get a wink of sleep, so feeling shit this morning. Epu have got me in for another scan this morning and for some emotional support hopefully for either way. I just can't take this stress. I hope it's ok to keep having this many scans 😢

Wishing you lots of luck for your scan today @Rockyslife 🤞 and I’m glad they’ve offered you some emotional support too

Hi everyone

Hope you don't mind me joining the group. I've had two miscarriages in the last year, both at around 7 weeks, after a previous successful pregnancy 3 years ago.

I'm now pregnant again - 8 weeks and taking progesterone pessaries prescribed by a private specialist. I had a scan on Tuesday which showed a heartbeat and approx size of 7+2 (in line with my late ovulation dates). I should be feeling calmer having passed the date of my previous miscarriages and seeing a heartbeat, and I'm really trying to be, I just can't shake the feeling it's still going to go wrong.

My husband has decided we need to be hopeful after the scan was so positive, but I just keep reading stories of people seeing heartbeats only to lose them later and I just don't know if I'll be able to bear it. Got another scan booked with my specialist next Friday so just have to survive until then.

Wishing you all the best of luck with your pregnancies.