💙🩷From Bumps 2 Babies & Beyond!🤰👶🍼🤱🤱

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following on from the Due February 2024 thread 7.. now this shall be thread 8! For us all to continue our pregnancy&postpartum journey together 😊

Thank you @Sunshineclouds11 and @Mummapenguin20 it's so hard to know if you're doing the right thing sometimes x

@Hankthehonk try sleeping with a blanket/ something close to baby then putting in cot at night. I walked around all day yesterday with a blanket under my clothes and put it on my boy at bed time it’s the first night I’ve had more than 30 mins sleep at a time x

May I ask where you read that? If they’re not waking every 3 hours, 4 hours max, you absolutely need to wake them for a feed in those first couple of weeks while they’re showing if they’re gaining weight.

Definitely don’t compare feed size - feed your baby what it wants. Mine jumped from 30ml to 110ml bottles in a matter of days. And depends on what’s being fed…I’m doing triple feeding so can’t compare to formula amounts or exclusive breastfed for example.

How is everybody handling visitors? I’m a big introvert and having family/friends wanting to visit all the time is driving me crazy 🙈

@DmcinT and @Hankthehonk glad it seems pretty normal. I've upped the fibre and have peppermint but stopped taking it, so I'll get back on that. I was worried maybe they'd sliced through something digestive wise I needed 🙈

@Meeting once they've regained their birthweight you can apparently stop waking them. Mine was okay after her 5 day check, so midwife said we can stop waking her as per nhs guidelines. She probably does feed twice in the night however

@redxlondon I'm not too sure, I do far too much googling at 3am! She's over 2 weeks now x

Shes well past her birth weight now, so can I stop waking her during the night and wait for her to wake herself @A1b2c3d4e5f6g7 ? I was thinking of trying that tonight but maybe wake her if she goes longer than 4 hours?

Yes the quantities sound fine @Meeting - my little man wakes himself for feeds now as well.
He tends to go down from 2 to 4 hours at a time, but today, it's been more like a wake up every 30 minutes so I think he is suffering with some uncomfortable gases. I'm hoping he feels more settled soon as it is sad seeing his little face all scrunched up. He must be tired too.

@Meeting I'd maybe message your midwife and check if you're not sure. Here's an nhs guidelines link. Our baby was a chunk so they don't seem concerned www.dorsethealthcare.nhs.uk/breastfeeding/night-feeds#:~:text=Therefore%20if%20your%20baby%20sleeps,are%20over%20their%20birth%20weight.

I am more relaxed this time around though @Meeting. I did wake her the first few days by setting an alarm. But then we notice she wakes herself every four-ish hours anyway, and when she regained her weight, we stopped

@RachLeeds I'm the same.
Happy to see my mum, but feel constantly bugged by in-laws to visit 🙈
Feel bad to say can you not just come once a week 🤭

I've ended up putting her Moses basket in the next to me which has worked. Think it's too spacious for little one.

Not sure what you have but someone mentioned this on the peanut app and it's done the trick with putting her in milk drunk xx

Yes, me too! The difference is my mum actually helps with the baby, will bring me dinner etc and watch him so I can nip out. Where as in-laws only want to hold him for 10 minutes and then give him back to me so they can enjoy their cuppa in peace! 🤣

Has anyone with toddlers noticed a real regression? I have a just turned two year old, he was great the 1st week with new baby. But the last couple of days he's regressed on his potty training and had accidents, won't use potty, won't wear a nappy etc. Constant temper tantrums, and very upset if I hold the baby or feed the baby etc.

We're fussing over him lots, lots of cuddles, doing lots of activities he likes etc and the baby sleeps a lot so we aren't holding her a lot in the day. Not sure really what to do, or if it will just settle down

@A1b2c3d4e5f6g7 yes 😩 my LO hit me yesterday for the first time ever, very emotional, had two accidents this week after being dry for almost a year. We’re doing all the same things you are but it’s awful, the guilt is horrible! No advice just solidarity xxx

@A1b2c3d4e5f6g7 @Thewildthingsarewithme
Yip same happening here my youngest is 3 1/2 & emotions are all over the place, yesterday was the worst day we have had & I’m 8 weeks in I actually never thought it might be the arrival of his baby brother 🤦‍♀️ he’s hitting out peeing & pooing himself constantly up 2 mischievous behaviour x

I am 40+4 today and heading up to the hospital to try a sweep I know they have mixed results and I've seen loads of people on these threads have previously refused them but has anyone had one and it's not been absolutely horrible ? 😂

@Bookwormmumuk I had 3 sweeps in my first pregnancy. I had my last sweep at 11am on the Saturday and baby arrived at 5pm on the Sunday. The first 2 had very little effect. Although uncomfortable none of them were painful and once I'd gotten over the initial awkwardness of them they were ok. Good luck!

Today is my due date and there are still no signs of baby. If anyone has any tips to get things moving that would be great!

@A1b2c3d4e5f6g7 my DS is older, 5. And the first week or so were horrible for him.
His behaviour and tantrums were next level.
It has died down now and we're onto week 3.

My HV said to me, remember how you felt with your first baby, it's a shock to the system etc and that's how he will have been feeling. Which hit home for me.

Good luck!
My sweeps weren't too bad tbh just uncomfortable, just remember to breath 😂

@A1b2c3d4e5f6g7 @Angelslookingafterus @Sunshineclouds11 sorry to hear you’re all experiencing the same but glad I’m not the only one xx

It's like we have the same in-laws @RachLeeds 🤣

@Thewildthingsarewithme @Angelslookingafterus and @Sunshineclouds11 sorry you're all going through it also! It feels horrible but it's comforting to know it's not just us. Hope it gets better for you soon xx

We've also got a rescue dog whose regressing as well (not wanting to go for walks etc) so trying to make a real fuss of him and play lots of games and have lots of treats.

I think where I've had a section also, I can't really wrangle either toddler or dog, so I'm kind of helpless when they refuse to do things etc, especially if we are out

I was given a sweep (or something similar) without consent before baby was born and I think I'm really traumatised from the experience, I am even missing chunks of baby's first couple of days from my memory and he's only 17 days old. I already have an appointment made with a psychiatrist but I just wish I got the nurses name so I could report her and try prevent it happening to anyone else.

I'd give anything to stop topping up with formula but baby has a dilated kidney so the pediatrician is really concerned about his hydration. My partner actually works at a factory where they make formula and we're able to get a certain amount free because if that but even with that convenience I'd love the freedom of not needing to mess around with bottles. I know I don't have to listen to the pediatrician but if I weaned him off top ups incorrectly and caused any damage I wouldn't forgive myself.