October 2024 Babies thread 2 👶

[Nic2908]

Seems we got to the end of a thread. Not sure if a new one has been set up.

@Scarftown thank you. I just keep telling myself that even if I do have it there's an 80% chance the placenta hasn't passed it on.

I'm not U.K. based either. I'm out in the far east and under private care thanks to a great insurance package.

The U.K. system is basic for routine pregnancies but I know as soon as you show any sign of high risk, they wheel out all the stops and you are THE BEST hands. A few of my friends have ended up in risky situations and the level of care they got was impeccable. In a way, I'd rather have basic level if everything is routine, with the knowledge that if I needed additional medication attention it will be stepped up swiftly and efficiently.

I praise the NHS. They do a cracking job with the resources they have. Winds me up how money is wasted though. I'd take the NHS any day over some of the other medical systems around the world.

@KittyFantastica
Can you self refer to a different area?
In my area, the local mat ward had a bad rep. And quite a few jump the border and refer to the next county.

I was very tempted, but I can see the hospital from my windows 🙂
I know the birth suite was fine, the emcs was fine. It is literally just the ward. ( they don't feed you, I was in 9 days , they don't give you pain meds , and it's filthy) I discharged us at 2am.

I have my fingers crossed it's changed, but I will be packing a bag full of food and paracetamol. I'm also hoping this child won't have jaundice, so he/ she can be out quick 😬

Unfortunately not @spudnik1, the closest one is the second best in the area and the only option for us because we currently don't have a car. All the other options are 2 hours plus on public transport.

@Oct24 the nhs is incredible indeed !

Is anyone taking magnesium for insomnia if so is it working?

@GingerCactus Sorry to hear the scan didn't work out quite as you hoped - that's annoying that they were only able to do an abdominal scan. Fingers crossed that it works out better next week!

@Nervous764367 @hopingforapeainapod @aussiegirl89 Joining you all in not feeling like socialising at the moment! Partly because I'm really tired (felt loads better yesterday and then had a rotten night's sleep so am now in the office feeling like a zombie!) but also because I can only come up with so many excuses for not drinking - I'm famous among my friends for my love of wine so if I suddenly went to a social event and didn't have anything to drink they would all know instantly!

@aussiegirl89 We can pay for private viability/reassurance scans in the UK - I suspect there's quite a lot of money in it as the NHS doesn't routinely scan before 12 weeks. The NHS will generally do early scans if there's a sign of a problem or a history of miscarriage though - the emergency gynae unit at my local hospital is brilliant and gave me a viability scan at 7+2 and I'm getting a reassurance scan at 9+2 this Friday because I've had a previous miscarriage. Good luck for your next scan!

@Nic2908 Lovely news about your scan, must have been really nice to see everything looking as it should!

@spudnik1 also hoping for no jaundice. We were discharged after 2 days and then had to go back 24hrs later. I cried and cried about it. Just wanted to be at home.

@mrssunshinexxx I’m taking magnesium for restless legs and morning sickness but my sleep is awful. I’m not sure it’s helping my sleep!

@CluelessInLondon that’s amazing! I didn’t get any extra scans for my son after having a loss before him. And it wasn’t a straightforward loss, I was in and out of hospital so they definitely knew about it!

Wow I am exhausted. 6 + 2. I’m panicking that I unintentionally didn’t eat for 16 hours overnight last night! I had dinner at 5.30pm, fell asleep at 8.30pm and woke up at 9.30am this morning, I felt so shaky!

@Bee49 I'm not sure if I'm just really lucky that my local hospital has actually made some investments in its facilities for women's health, but the emergency gynae unit have been amazing - they looked after me really well when I had my miscarriage and then all I had to do was call them when I got pregnant again and they booked me in for a viability scan. They were going to discharge me when everything seemed fine, but when I explained that my previous loss had been just before 9 weeks they booked me for a reassurance scan at the end of this week. Just counting down to it now, I don't feel quite as anxious as I did before the last one but definitely nervous about the possibility of something having gone wrong without me realising.

@JLT24 Sorry to hear the tiredness is so bad right now - although if you had a really long sleep last night then that's probably beneficial even if it means you didn't eat for a while. I think you just have to try to rest when you need it, you can always eat when you wake up but it's harder to replace lost sleep than missed meals!

@Oct24 that’s so kind of you to notice! I’m okay, just having a break from MN as come across a lot of worst case scenarios and get myself worried. But still planning on following this thread :)

@Sunandsea13 So good to hear from you!

I highly recommend not looking on the pregnancy boards. I fav / follow this thread for quick access and stay well away from the pregnancy boards. It does my mental health no good hanging out over there!

@Oct24 yes that’s a great idea, will do the same! Have my scan next week so hoping to get good news and feel better!

@Bee49 aw no! I hope it's helping with your other issues atleast. I'm gunna get some to try as no harm and the nausea has arrived with vengeance today, yay!

@mrssunshinexxx how many weeks are you? I think I'm 5 and feel totally fine - marginally more tired / hungry but that could be in my mind. Maybe I have a week or so before it begins

@mrssunshinexxx i know every pregnancy is different but I definitely don’t feel as bad as I did with my son. Been taking vit b complex and magnesium so potentially they’ve been taking the edge off the nausea!

Hi all

Joining in as I’m currently around 5 weeks 4 days, so due around 26th October I think!

We have an early scan and sneak peek gender blood test booked for the 11th of March, and the time seems to be dragging whilst we wait for that.

We already have a son who is 4 (will be 5 by the time this baby comes) and he was diagnosed as autistic around 18 months ago. We have wrestled back and fourth over the decision to have a second child for the last year. His diagnosis, the challenges that presents and the fear it could happen again with another child was something we couldn’t seem to get over. Eventually we decided to throw it out to chance and see what happened and it did on the first try.

Despite all the stress we had around making the decision, finding out I was pregnant has left us with a huge sense of peace, which is a change from how I felt when I was pregnant with my first l (that was a constant ‘oh god, I don’t feel ready, I’m not sure I’m prepared for our lives to change so much’ panic and then I had PND afterwards and a serious case of not being able to bond with him for a long long time).

This time it feels like the final missing bit of the puzzle in our lives has fallen into place. Didn’t imagine I’d feel like this, but really happy and hoping for the best!

@CaptinKitty Welcome and congratulations, and thank you for sharing your story - it's lovely to hear all the different ways people have made their decisions and how they're feeling about it. ❤

Thank you @CluelessInLondon it wasnt ideal, more frustrating than anything, I have my first midwife appt on Friday at 7+2 which I didn’t realise was quite early until I read on here! I think it’s because based on LMP I’d be 8+2 however I have long cycles.

Good luck with your 9 week scan!

Hi everyone!
I’m torn whether to have another scan / when to have one 🥺
I had one last week at 6weeks 6 days, all was fine ❤️
Debating having another one for reassurance (I’ve had a previous missed miscarriage).
i can either have one next Friday 8th where ill be 8 weeks 6 days
but I go away for our anniversary (in the uk) 13th March and I’m scared if it’s bad news (I’m praying everything’s fine) that we go away 5 days later ☹️ is it stupid doing that?
but then if I have it when I get back I’ll be 10.5 weeks and my 12 week scan will be 8 days later!

I’ve been feeling so positive but anxiety has hit the roof the last few days 😭

@Holl89 get one before you go! I had another one at 8+4 with my daughter and it really helped me through the anxiety of up and down symptoms and not really feeling very pregnant. It will bridge the time to 12 weeks and it will most most most likely all be fine and you'll be able to enjoy your time away x

@FlyOnTheWall89 @Bee49 I'm 5 + 4 it's literally started this morn but had the same with last 2 pregnancies til 14 weeks all day nausea x

@Holl89
I think I would just wait till the 12 week one. Be in happy oblivion for your holiday.

Sorry, I'm sure this has already been discussed but can't seem to find it. I'm currently 4 + 6 weeks, so due 31st October I think. Had a positive pregnancy test 9 days ago and it honestly feels like months ago, how do you guys get through the first few weeks of pregnancy?

I really want to have a viability scan just to check the pregnancy is in the right place but my partner works away Monday-Thursday and has every other Friday off. We were going to have an early private scan next Friday when I would be 6 + 1 weeks but the private clinic said to leave it a bit longer to avoid unnecessary stress in case they don't see anything as it is very early. However the next date my partner is off is the 22nd March when I will be 8 + 1 weeks, I just can't stand the thought of having to wait over 3 more weeks, the days are going so slow and my anxiety is increasing. This is my first pregnancy and I just need that reassurance that everything is okay so far. I've already cried today over the thought of waiting that long for a scan (very much down to the hormones as I was fine 2 minutes later lol) and am so tempted to go without my partner which is very selfish of me as he's looking forward to our first scan and says we should just wait. He can't get time off work either as they're very strict about it.

Anyone else had their first scan at 8 weeks? Any tips for passing the time until the first scan?