Pregnant after miscarriage

[January0901]

Hi guys in September I found out I had a missed miscarriage. I have just found out I’m pregnant again and am so nervous, I’m terrified the same thing will happen again. I have an early scan booked but it’s not until the start of March. How did you guys cope with the anxieties of pregnancy after miscarriage

Hello, I’m so sorry you experienced that. It’s a challenging thing to go through. We have three children but experienced four miscarriages between them. I felt such an overwhelming need to fill the void left after a miscarriage, but then when I became pregnant again would feel the same way you’ve described.
My Christian faith was the biggest help to me. Not only to focus on peace and joy but also for the community it provides. I found maintaining my normal exercise routine really helped my pregnancies. And don’t underestimate hydration and healthy nutrition. If for nothing else, these helped my mental well-being dramatically.
Know that you’re not alone and your body is so so strong. Sending love.

@January0901 I totally get how you feel. I'm 10 weeks after 3 consecutive miscarriages. When I first found out I was pregnant instant fear kicked in. I was so anxious and absolutely dreaded every toilet trip, I could feel my heart racing. I'm still anxious but not as bad. I started talking to my belly after every toilet trip. I would wipe and see no blood and say thank you baby , love you. I still do it but not every time. I have to just keep telling myself I am pregnant today and that's the best I can do, I can't control the outcome but I can stay positive. Iv had 2 scans so far and thankfully everything has been ok but I still doubted straight after the scans. Iv got my 12 weeks scsn in 2 weeks and I'm dreading it. Xx

Congratulations on your pregnancy!

For me, the anxiety has not left me. I've had two missed miscarriages finding out at 11 weeks both times. It's like my body doesn't recognise it has stopped growing. (This is after seeing the HB both times.) I don't want that to scare you though as it's just my experience and i do believe it's rare for that to happen even now.

I have my 12 week scan on Wednesday and absolutely dreading it but I would say just take it one day/ week at a time. We are all probably doing all we can and there isn't anything we can do to change the outcome.

I have been told by by MW/doctor and many that even after 2 miscarriages you still have a very good change of the pregnancy continuing and unfortunately it can be bad luck.

Do you have anyone you can talk to? Maybe your MW or partner? Feel free to post on here with any worries or concerns.

Hi! I’m so terribly sorry for your loss. It’s the worst feeling in the world isn’t it? After my MC in November I was able to see a psychologist through my work which I’m very lucky to have access to. And they just were very helpful in helping me deal with my feelings. One thing I took away from it is, there’s nothing you could have done to change the outcome, and that it’s something that just happens in life through no fault of your own.

On the plus side! Congratulations on your new pregnancy! I think that’s one thing to remember, is this is a new pregnancy, not the old one so you cannot compare. I fell pregnant in December and am currently 11+5, have the 12 week scan on Friday which I’m petrified about. But one thing I would suggest is take one day at a time, don’t think too far ahead, just one day at a time. And just remember today I am pregnant and I have a healthy baby, and if or should I say when you get the anxious thoughts I just say I will deal with that situation if it happens, and that’s a big IF.

My last pregnancy I had minimal symptoms, this one, I’ve questioned my sanity a few times but in saying that, this one hasn’t been easy, I was bleeding on two separate occasions which naturally makes you think the worst, but thank goodness all is well.

Congratulations once again! Xx

Thank you for all your messages, it’s such a different experience being pregnant after a loss. The uncertainty is just horrible. I have an early scan booked for the 29th and just want the date to be there and am praying and hoping there is a heartbeat. @Whiterose123 how did your 12 week scan go?

I've just had my scan and it was good news. I'm Measuring ahead 12+5.

The run up to the scan was still filled with anxiety and constant googling, I had convinced myself prior that it was another missed miscarriage, so I was shocked to see the baby on screen. Time to start trusting that this one will be ok. ❤️

I really hope everyone else get's their good news when you go for your scans, good luck 🍀

@Whiterose123 such wonderful news 🥰 I bet you're so relieved!! Iv got my 12 week scan next Thursday and dreading it x

@My2boysaremyworld good luck for your scan next week! When did you go for the 2 scans you’ve had already? Have they calmed you at all?

@January0901 thank you. I had my first at 6 weeks and second at 8 weeks and we was measuring 3 days ahead which was lovely. Even though I'm still feeling rubbish with nausea and just general first trimester symptoms I'm so scared x

@My2boysaremyworld wishing you all the best for your scan. I have booked an early one where I should be 6-7 weeks by then and am so nervous for it I’m so desperate for everything to be okay. Did you hear a heartbeat when you went to your 6 week one?

@January0901 I didn't hear the heartbeat at either unfortunately. We saw it on both though and it was the second thing they said once they said there was a sac they said there's the heartbeat. We completely broke down both times. Not sure if it's different at the EPAU than normal scans regarding hearing the heartbeat. Fingers crossed for you xx

@My2boysaremyworld thank you I am trying to gage whether I will be far along enough for my scan to see a heartbeat so I’m hoping there will be one as I’ll be between 6 and 7 weeks

@January0901 I went thinking I was 6 weeks 3/4 days and I was measuring bang on 6 weeks 3 days and she found it straight away. I ended up having an internal scan but they aren't uncomfortable, they don't go too far in. Go with a full bladder incase they can do a normal scan. Xx

@My2boysaremyworld Could they not find the heartbeat with the abdominal scan? The place I am going to only offer abdominal scans

@January0901 she could only see the pregnancy sac via my tummy, probably doesn't help I'm a plus size xx

I’m about a size 14-16 uk size now I’m worried she won’t be able to find a heartbeat via abdominal ultrasound

@January0901 please don't stress, you'll be fine. I'm a size 20 with a nice big belly. The second scan I had to lift my belly lol, like I wasn't feeling rubbish enough xx

@My2boysaremyworld thank you, sorry I’m just a nervous wreck. I didn’t realise how bad I would be, I feel as though it’s all consuming. It’s just all this uncertainty would love to just skip time a few weeks

@January0901 I totally get it. I wish I could go back to the person I was before all my losses. The naivety of thinking nothing can go wrong. I just have to tell myself I'm pregnant today and I have no control over that. Everything is ok today xx

@Whiterose123 ohhh that’s amazing news! Congratulations! I have my scan tomorrow, I’m an absolute bag of nerves. DH has been trying to reassure me that everything is okay but it’s the uncertainty of not knowing isn’t it? Xx

@January0901 @My2boysaremyworld good luck to you both! I’m sure everything is progressing well and all will be okay. I understand what you mean about the naivety of not realising what can go wrong. But as you said, you have a baby today and all is okay today xx

@Rainbowpeanut02 wishing you all the luck for your scan tomorrow I’m sure everything is going to be ok! I think it’s tough like you want the reassurance from your partner but until you hear the doctor you won’t believe it

@Rainbowpeanut02 thank you and good luck for your scan xx

@Rainbowpeanut02 how did it go today xx

@My2boysaremyworld Hi! Sorry scan was today. It went really well, DH shed a tear and it’s crazy when you see how much baby has grown, the NT was in normal range which is good, the HB is slightly on the lower side but nothing concerning so will move the 20 week scan up to 16 weeks.

I was an absolute bag of nerves though, just been filled with dread this whole week and broke down yesterday cos I was already mentally preparing for the worst. My symptoms have been all over the place also which didn’t help. Everyday felt like something was new or vanished or wasn’t as strong which again freaks you out more. So the nerves and anxiety are still very real. Kept telling myself in bed, I have a baby and all is okay, over and over again. Barely slept 2 hours before my appointment.

I don’t think the nerves or anxiety will go away until you are holding your baby in your arms. It’s just sad as you kind of feel like you have been robbed of such a joyous time.

Fingers crossed it will get easier for all of us! How are you getting on? Xx

@Rainbowpeanut02 so happy for you. Oh we've both cried in both scans so far. Yes I don't think we will stop worrying until baby is in our arms. I'm still feeling rough which I know is good signs but then I know it can mean absolutely nothing too!! I hate knowing about the bad outcomes. I just wish we could be constantly reassured everyday! Xx