Due September 2024 PART 3 ❤️🩷💛💚💙💜

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New thread as old one was almost at 1000 😊

That’s what my partner said when I got home. Just can’t seem to shake how it’s made me feel

@GeorgieRose23 people really put their foot in it sometimes, it was probably a mindless comment, don't think about it too much!

How come you decided to tell them quite so early? I'm trying to figure out how to hide it as much as possible!

Thank you! I just decided to tell them as I felt like I was fibbing, and my boss invited me over with a few colleagues for tea on Friday so I thought it would look suspicious not drinking so I decided to be open about it. Maybe thinking I shouldn’t now but it’s done haha

@GeorgieRose23 ive been asked this before. I think it's a really old fashioned but common question, in sure they didn't mean to insinuate anything about your circumstances x

@GeorgieRose23 That’s understandable…I really hope they’re thinking ‘WTF have I said there’ right now, I can only imagine that it caught them by surprise and something massively inappropriate came out. Surely nothing to do with you…I mean, it’s not that surprising that a 30 year old woman decides to have a baby.

Oh wow, how do you decipher these?! 😂😭
yeah it highlights how easy to read mine were, they’re from Kings London and are quite high-tech with everything from the bloods to the scans, however, I’ve now changed hospitals to a less “advanced” one so I don’t think I’ll be getting anything as detailed like this again x

Cheers @siobhanmt247 I'll take a proper look now.

@Knope24 just noticed your comment on the blocked nose, mine isn't fully blocked but it's been a funny kind of stuffy for 6 weeks now (I'm 10+5) it's driving me nuts and I never realised it could be related to the pregnancy.

@GeorgieRose23 I’m so shocked by what your employer said! How did you react? I don’t know if I’d have been able to keep my feelings off my face. I hope you’re ok, that’s not a nice response the first time you let people know.

I told my employer at 4 weeks (literally the Monday after I found out) because I didn’t know that not telling them was an option 😂. It wasn’t until I spoke to another team member this week and she told me she’s 14 weeks pregnant and is planning on telling work soon that I realised I could have kept it quiet if I wanted to!

I’m telling my work tomorrow 😊 will be 6+6. I only speak to my LM once a fortnight so it’s either tomorrow or wait 2 weeks more, and I don’t want to do that as we have a big team day soon and I don’t know if I’ll be able to make it through the day and 90 minute commute for! So I’m priming him for that tomorrow!

It’s also performance review time and I’ve heard a rumour that they just give pregnant colleagues the same rating as they got the previous year, to avoid any risk of saying you’re performing badly in pregnancy (if you got a good rating of course). As I got the top rating last year, that would be nice as it’s directly linked to our bonus haha.

On an unrelated note, I’m feeling so, so anxious today. After spotting at 5 weeks and some confusion from the community midwives about a referral to EPAU that didn’t happen, I just don’t know if I’m imaging symptoms? I had some light cramping last night and I’ve just had some twinges in my left shoulder. I’m just doubting myself though?! It’s probably all just anxiety.

@MudandMoet Its unbearable isn't it! Putting on a difusser with some olbas oil is the only thing that seems to help me a little

@HoneyandSunshine I know I’m a bit late replying to this one but just trying to catch up! Sorry to hear you didn’t get the reaction you wanted.
I haven’t actually told any of my family we are pregnant yet for fear of this exact reaction! (Also our third) I know once baby comes along everyone will be over the moon, however I don’t fancy anyone bursting our bubble so have opted to keep stum for now 🤭 How are you feeling about it now? X

@Ifyouknowyouknowyouknow I don't think you’re alone here, I’ve had a couple of wobbles along the way when I get into the rabbit hole of worrying, especially when you already have children to consider so I do understand. Sending love x

Very overwhelmed right now... went in for my first scan today. Should be at 8 weeks +1 but only measuring at 5 weeks. They have me coming in again on Thursday so they can do an HCG comparison. Doctor said she's concerned about a psuedo-sac based on my scan. Will know either way later this week but I'm very scared, can't stop crying

@RosiePH I told my manager at 6ish weeks too. My commute is 4hrs round trip and I was feeling awful. I was told to come in when I felt like it. Then I found out at 7 weeks it was twins, I told her and it was changed to under no circumstances was I to come in and to work remotely (3 days instead of 2)
Glad I told them as I was/am so unwell. I have called in sick twice already this year so I don't feel guilty. I ended up in hospital when I was 6 months pregnant with my daughter as I kept "getting on with it" but with twins pregnancy, it's been on another level of sickness 😂

@Theflyingfreckle I am so sorry you're experiencing all this worry. The uncertainty is horrible. Thinking of you and hoping for the best xxxx

@Theflyingfreckle so sorry to hear you're having to go through such worry

@Theflyingfreckle sorry to hear about what you are going through x

I’m sorry to hear that @Theflyingfreckle I saw your other thread and I wonder if maybe you’re just not as far along as you thought? The HCG test will explain one way or another. Fingers crossed for you.

I am 7w2d today with my NHS scan tomorrow. Starting to get pre-scan jitters. I had a bit of nausea/retching which has disappeared. My bloating seems to have gone down. Boobs less tender than they were. Haven’t had any little twinges for a few days. Starting to wonder if the fact I was measuring three days behind at my 6w0d scan was less about measurement error and more because it was never really taking off, so to speak. At least I will find out first thing tomorrow. It can’t come quickly enough.

I’m sorry @Theflyingfreckle, how stressful for you. I keep my fingers crossed that it will end well and your dates are just off.

I don't know if this reassures at all but with my first baby I went for a scan at what I thought was 7+3 weeks but measured 5+5 which was so worrying, but it all worked out OK, I had ovulated much later than I though even though I was tracking(?) and her growth caught up. It's so inaccurate in the early weeks too. I hope it's a positive outcome but I understand it's really stressful waiting

We’re here for you @Theflyingfreckle ❤️❤️❤️

my 12 week scan is soon, but I’ll be 13+1, just wondering if this will be ok for the combined test/screening? Or is 13+1 a bit too late?

@Honeyandsunshine1 should be fine, combined is a blood test and measurements of the baby on the scan to look for markers.

Congratulations on your third, too! ❤️ I’ll be honest, I feel better overall and more determined to prove everyone wrong that this wasn’t the wrong decision, however, I do occasionally have a wobble when my current two get a bit difficult and I think “shit, are we making a bad decision? Will we cope”. So, it’s wavy 😂 I definitely feel more ok about my parents’ reaction now. I guess I just wanted some initial shared excitement as it felt deflating. I’ve told a couple of friends though and they made up for their lack of excitement which was nice. I just won’t be doing any kind of social media announcement to save any judgement and comments (I have 2 boys so I reckon I’ll be inundated with “I hope it’s a girl” 🤢), and god knows when we’ll tell partners side. I’ll leave that up to him 🤣

do you think you’ll tell anyone ever or will you just meet them one with a round belly, to see their faces like ???? Huh??? 😂

I had some lovely advice and comments from @MudandMoet @longingtobe23 @RoSco197 so thank you all so much. I appreciated it 💜

I also had a lovely message from @Ifyouknowyouknowyouknow. how are you doing today my lovely? X