OCTOBER 2024 BABIES!

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Just found out I am 1-2 weeks pregnant according to clear blue digital!!

Estimated due date is 1st Oct.

Here's a thread for anyone due around same time. Let's enjoy this wild ride together 🩷🩷🩷🩷

@Oct24 I’m not sure yet as don’t think the stress of waiting for the result is good for me. But I may do one on Monday. Not sure on DPO due to PCOS but it’s still very early days. I am tempted to do a HCG weekly until I can scan though so need to decide what to do !!

Finally got my weeks indicator so now I know conception was 1-2 weeks ago! Going to try and relax and enjoy it now! No more tests!

Hi to all the new members. Lots of scan dates coming up to look forward to.
Got mine today at EPU, I'm only around 5+6 so seems early to me. HCG scans were taken last week and doubling confirmed so maybe they are going off the predicted HCG from those?
I'm excited to be having a scan but scared because it's early it could leave me in limbo as has happened previously.
My symptoms come and go which also worries me, you can't win.
I've just been trying to switch of from it all for now to help me get through.

Hi everyone! Hope it’s ok if I join - found out last week that im pregnant and am 4 weeks today, it’s been the longest week of my life as I found out at 3wks2days 🙃
I had a couple of losses last year and now I’m a bag of nerves going into this pregnancy.
has anyone else experienced chemical pregnancies and been ok in their next? I just can’t get everything out of my head and the second my boobs stop hurting I panic!
hope you’re all doing well xx

Hi everyone, have been holding off joining as have been very nervous about things not working out - but now feel either way I would like to be part of this friendly supportive group! I/

I got a positive pregnancy test last week (day 25) I'm getting a bit worried as I'm now day 31 and the lines don't feel like they've got much darker, and my clear blue digital has said 1-2 this morning, and 2 days ago. We werent explicitly trying (we wanted another baby but thought we would wait another couple of months, so this was a lovely surprise) and had last dtd on day 10 - so any less than 1-2 weeks feels quite unlikely (my cycles are normally around 28 days - and just cant see sperm hanging around for long enough to mean that I'm still only 1-2 weeks?!)

I know these things can be inaccurate, but I'm still finding it hard not to worry - this is our 4th pregnancy and I've been so lucky that all of our tests have looked as we expected up until now.

Has anyone got any experiences to share? Or any advice as to what I should do?

Thank you for having me anyway - I feel better just talking it out ! Sorry for the long message xx

@Kittykiki I honestly would advise to stop testing as it just causes stress when those CB weeks indicators are notoriously inaccurate. If you’re worried, book in for a HCG test (can do it via medichecks) or if you’re in a city you can get it done in-person. That way you can compare the HCG to your estimated weeks and feel better :)

Hi @Kittykiki welcome! I know how you feel. I had 2 chemicals last year. This whole process is nerve wracking.

I second what @Sunandsea13 mentioned. Get yourself a hCG blood test. (HCG is the hormone produced by the developing placenta. The same hormone at home tests check for.) The test result will be a number. Retest again 48hr later and the number should have at least doubled. Both my chemicals the number never doubled. Went up only a little but then went back down. This time around my initial number at 4weeks was A LOT higher and my dr was happy. We still retested 48hr later to check for the doubling.

Best of luck. Deep breaths and try not to rely on home tests to tell you on how things are progressing. Remember they're not designed to show you accumulative results. All they can really tell you is yes or no.

Super random, but when is everyone telling their family ?

@Sunandsea13 Fun question!

I'll tell my mum once I see a heartbeat.

But my husband's family we'll wait till we're 14weeks. We're traveling back to the U.K. for a holiday and the timing is perfect to be able to tell them in person. We didn't get to have that in person moment with them with our first so we're really looking forward to it.

@Oct24 I am thinking the same with my parents. Hoping to see a heartbeat on a 7 1/2 week scan if possible as we are already booked in to spend the weekend with them that weekend. Are you doing an early scan? I am tempted to go for a 6 week one!

Have so many visits planned over the next month and don’t know how to navigate not drinking/no undercooked beef (always offered pink on a roast and they know I like it!).

My parents are visiting us right now in Sydney (from the UK) so I told them as soon as I had the positive test. We haven't told my sister or any of my husbands family yet.

Planning on telling his mum and dad after the 7 week scan.

Hoping to keep it quiet from others in the family until we visit the UK in May so we can reveal in person (also after 20 week scan)

I will probably tell some friends around 12 weeks but not announcing anything on social media.

@Sunandsea13 Annoyingly my
Husband is traveling during week 6 and 7. So I'm booked in for a scan at 5+5 before he flies off. Dr has said she doesn't expect to see a heartbeat by then but we're hoping to see the yolk sack. If every thing is as it should be, I'll go back a week later at 6+5 and dial my husband in via FaceTime lol.

We saw son's heartbeat at exactly 6 weeks.

@Sunandsea13 and @Oct24 thanks so much for coming back, and for the kind messages. @Sunandsea13 I'm so sorry to hear about your chemicals - but great news that this time all is looking more positive. 💕

I know that obsessive POAS is never a great idea, but finding it hard not to get fixated on it! Didn't realise you can get blood tests done tho - thanks so much to you both for sharing. I've had a Google and looks like there might be somewhere nearby that I can get them done tomorrow - feel that's likely to give me a better idea one way or the other, so will give them a ring in a bit. My husband wants me to wait a few more days as he says it might worry me unnecessarily - but tbh I feel I'm at a very high level of worry anyway, and at best this might bring it down. I've been getting a lot of lower back pain and cramping - which Im flipping between seeing as a reassuring or worrying sign!

Urgh what a ride this early week are...!

@Sunandsea13 we'll be telling our parents this weekend. We see his parents a lot as only down the road, but they smoke, so I want them to stop smoking around me. Don't feel I can lie to them why not smoking round me for another 8 weeks 😂 And then if we told his I feel we have to tell mine too 🤷‍♀️

@Oct24 that’s great! I can’t see anywhere that will let me do it at 5 weeks so glad you’ve been able to!

@aussiegirl89 @Dannie2024 that sounds lovely! I can’t decide what to do! Can barely function at the minute, one second I’m thinking about prams, then mat leave, then cribs then HCG tests! Still can’t believe it! Would love to tell my mum right now but want to do it in person so will have to wait!

@Kittykiki I think you mean @Oct24,l regarding the chemical pregnancies - also hope you’re doing okay @Oct24 and are feeling happy :) so easy to click on the wrong name on here!

I would do the HCG. Did mine yesterday and made me feel much better!

Oops sorry yes @Sunandsea13 - I did mean @Oct24. This is my first time posting on Mumsnet - will blame that (and my fat fingers!)

@Sunandsea13 - pleased your bloods are looking good. Do you get results straight away?

Will report back if I do go for it tomorrow. Xx

@Kittykiki I got them same day but it was a London clinic! Happy as they are 46.8 and I only got my CB digital positive on Wednesday and weeks indicator today. I’m retesting Monday and then maybe every week until I can scan.

@MamaBee23 @Seashells4 @Kittykiki Congratulations and welcome to all of you!

@MegaManicMama Good luck for your scan today, I hope it goes well - it does sound early but hopefully you at least get to see that everything is as expected for this stage.

@Sunandsea13 I'm planning to tell my parents and sister next weekend - we are visiting them so I wouldn't exactly be able to hide it with not drinking etc. for the whole weekend, and we've got our first scan next Friday morning so I'm hoping things will be looking okay and we'll be able to give them positive news. We'll probably call my in-laws at the end of the weekend to tell them as well, as otherwise my husband will be funny about my parents knowing and not his! They were a bit OTT last time though, they sent a big bouquet of flowers when we told them, which I just found way too much (and I had to throw them in the bin a few days later when I started to miscarry because I hated looking at them) - so I'm hoping my husband will have a quiet word and tell them not to do that again.

Question for all of the ladies who have had previous losses, as I know quite a few on this thread have - how are you managing your anxiety/worries? I feel like I'm doing okay on the whole and I've known for nearly 2 weeks now without totally freaking out, but last night I ended up just going down a bit of a rabbit hole, googling chances of two consecutive miscarriages and stuff like that, and it kind of brought back all of the emotion of losing my first pregnancy last year. So if anybody has any good tips or techniques for managing when those emotions and fears start to bubble to the surface I would really love to hear them!

@CluelessInLondon totally get your fear of miscarriage and the anxiety around it. I’m working hard to keep my anxiety under control. Not sure if you have tried before but I really like the headspace anxiety course and find it really helps to do this when you start spiralling downwards and googling everything. Have you booked an early scan? I’ve done this and found it reassuring to know i will know where we are soon (literally counting down the days only 13 to go 🤣). Miscarriages are just the worst and I hate how it steals the joy a bit when you get pregnant again.

@Sunandsea13 ive had to tell my work as I’m working on call this weekend so needed back up as certain things are high risk for pregnancy in my job. I don’t intend to tell family probably not till well after 12 weeks if I can help it maybe 16 wks or something? Seems so far away atm think I will just see how I feel nearer the time if things go well x

@Ellenn Thanks for the suggestion, I will check out Headspace. I've got a scan next Friday morning at my local hospital, the EGU there is really good and will scan early for women who have had previous miscarriages. Not exactly looking forward to going back as I have really bad memories of being there, but I'm hoping maybe the outcome will be better this time. You're absolutely right about micarriage completely sucking the joy out of being pregnant - even though I know lots of people who have had losses before, I kind of just assumed it wouldn't happen to me and I feel like I was so naive to think like that last time!

We’ll probably tell our families after 12 weeks (might end up telling them earlier but no current plans to). And then few weeks later tell work and friends. Will be interesting to look back and see if I did stick to this or not.

Ive got a 7 week scan at the ivf clinic in 2 weeks and I’m undecided whether to get in touch with my gp before then about being referred for the booking appointment or wait until that date when I know everything looks good so far. There’s no self referral by us so have to go through gp. Should I just ring them now or wait until then? Don’t know what waiting lists or priorities are like etc

@CluelessInLondon the anxiety is real and honestly, I'm very up and down. I even find it hard being on here sometimes, as infertility and IVF have stolen the joy from me and I can't just assume that this will end in a baby. I haven't made my booking-in appointment, and won't until much later.

I too have been down the Google rabbit hole, but I listened to a podcast on pregnancy after loss and the thing that resonated most is 'control the controlables'. Things will either be fine, or they won't, and there's very little we can do about it. All we can do is rest, stay hydrated, and take our vitamins. I also know that even if this ends in miscarriage, I'm strong enough to get through it, like I have before. I'm trying to distance myself from things a bit, involve myself in work, watch films, and go to bed early - as every day that passes takes me closer to my viability scan.

I'm probably going to tell my mum this week as I need to tell someone outside of me and my partner lol! Everyone else including my older children I'll probably wait until after the 12week scan.