Pregnancy after miscarriage - New support thread

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A new thread for those who are pregnant following miscarriage/s. Come and share your worries and joy with people who understand what you are going through.

Hi everyone. I've had the tiniest bit of pink mixed in with stringy discharge tonight and now I'm really nervous. I'm almost 6 weeks so I guess it's too late to be implantation. Does anyone have any advice?

Hi @siobhanmt247 I'm sorry no advice, but wanted to check in and see how you are, did it stop? I've read so many comments on various threads that have this and it's nothing of concern but I know all of us here will share the anxiety even the normal stuff can bring. Hope you're ok xxxx

Thank you @Nic17 yes it seems to have just been a couple of drops. I'm going to wait until tomorrow and call epu. Meant tonoutbyhe watch away but just wanted to see what happened overnight and bbt dropped below baseline so I'm thinking the worst but at least I'm prepared

Thank you @ChloeN hope you and little one are well. @siobhanmt247 hope you are ok am keeping everything crossed for you xx

Are there any IVF moms in this group? I’m beginning to think that might be my next course of action.

@RainbowMoonstone Sort of! I did a round that ended in a CP then got pregnant naturally just before the next frozen transfer.

Little update: went for our 20weeks scan on Thursday and everything was fine! Baby was wriggling around in there being a stubborn nuggets and refusing to show us their face. But they had no concerns about size or anything once they finally got all their measurements and I’m overjoyed to announce we’re having a boy!! 🥰🥰

I still have an underlying sense of dread, think that will stick around throughout because I still don’t feel like 20 weeks is “in the clear” but there is a rather large and obnoxious weight off my shoulders for the time being!

@Sav2023 - if you’re still here I remember you saying your 12week scan was on the 25th, how did that go love?

@AprilShwrs wow congratulations 🥹❤️! It must feel amazing to get good news at the 20 week scan and a baby boy, so happy for you.
Yes my scan went amazingly, baby is right on track and all looks perfect. It has made me feel a bit more confident that everything might work out ❤️

Hi all, can I join please? I have DS who is 3. Last feb I went for a gender scan at 16 weeks to be told there was no heartbeat. Which then led to me having to deliver and bury my daughter. The whole thing left me ptsd which I have gotten to the other side of. I’m currently early pregnancy EDD 5th October. I feel like I’m going insane. I’m trying so hard to find the joy everyday but it’s hard.

Hello - looking to see if anyone has been in the same situation.

Screening results were back and I’m high risk - NT (1.8mm at 13 weeks) and normal levels of HCG but Papp-a is really low at 0.12 … has anyone been in the same situation and had a positive outcome? I’m devastated at the thought there is something wrong with our miracle xx

@Sav2023 that is fantastic news! I will continue to keep everything crossed for you! I’m so glad everything looked good aswell! 🥰

@Nic2908 I am so sorry for your loss last year! I cannot imagine how hard it must have been to go through that. I know nothing anyone can say will make the worry go away, but we are here to support you - please try to stay as positive as you can, good vibes for your rainbow baby to help them grow strong! ❤️

@Hoping4amiracle i’m sorry but I don’t know what any of that means for you or baby! Do you have a consultant appointment due? If not maybe you could call your midwife and ask her to explain what it means and what you should expect now?

Hi, consultant came and spoke to us today when we had the NIPT test done. To be honest I didn’t feel she offered much hope and I just don’t understand why other markers are normal but Papp-a is very low. It’s heartbreaking to sit and listen to the consultant talking about termination options for a baby we want so much. They offered us a quick scan and we heard the wee heartbeat for the first time and it’s breaking my heart x

I'm so sorry @Hoping4amiracle didn't want to read and run. I don't have much advice either, it's awful we are left in the dark about things, when you're facing something like this you don't know where to turn for support. Did the consultant signpost you anywhere for more information or support? Sending lots of love 🙏🏼💞

Here we go again…
I got a positive pregnancy test yesterday morning and am crossing my fingers that it sticks this time. This will be my 5th pregnancy since January last year, so I’ve seen a lot of positive tests and they don’t mean as much as they used to. But during my last 3 pregnancies (which ended in losses), I scrutinized my body non stop. I checked my bbt every morning, took hpts every day and checked the lines to see if they were getting darker, got my blood work to check my hormone levels… I was a ball of stress! This time I’ve decided to let it be. I put away the tests. I’m not going to get my blood work done yet. And I’m just going to take things a day at a time. All I know right now is that my period is late and I have HCG detected in my urine. If I get my period, so be it. If I don’t, maybe there will be a rainbow waiting for me this coming October 💖🤞🌈

@Hoping4amiracle so sorry you’re going through this. How are you doing now? I googled low Papp-a because I had never heard about it before. From what I saw, it looks like it poses a number of risks, but doesn’t necessarily doom the pregnancy. I’m no expert at all, this is just what I read on Google. Maybe get a second opinion?

Hi @RainbowMoonstone - really hoping this is your miracle baby and this pregnancy goes well for you.

From what I read HCG is actually raised at 2.14 MoM (essentially double what it should be so don’t know why hospital said normal) and it’s the combination of high HCG and really low Papp-a that suggests a chromosomal issue.

Ive been spiralling to be honest - off work, constant crying, off food, haven’t slept … it’s been horrendous. Just keep thinking about how I will cope haven’t to go for a medical termination … just don’t think I’m strong enough, I already love my baby xx

@RainbowMoonstone i have everything crossed for you and your little bean.

Hi future moms, just checking in. How is everyone doing?

I’ve made it to 3 weeks post ovulation and it’s been a full week since I got my positive pregnancy test. I’m doing ok. I’ve stuck with my intention of NOT obsessively taking pregnancy tests every morning like I had before. I haven’t gone in for hcg draws yet either. The stress of waiting for results is too much for me to handle right now. And if the numbers are dropping (like they did my last 3 pregnancies), I would rather not know. I feel like I’m living in a state of denial. I want to be pregnant, but at the same time I’m trying to forget that I am so I can make it through these next couple of weeks. If I make it through this week, I will be farther along than I was in my last 3 losses.

Did any of you go in for early scans at 7 weeks? Did that ease your stress? I’m trying to decide if I want to schedule mine for 7 weeks, or the standard 10 week mark.

@RainbowMoonstone Glad you're doing ok! And yes I had scans at 7, 9 and 10 weeks before the 12 week scan. 7 is a good time to have the first one I think as you should be guaranteed to see a heartbeat.

Hi @RainbowMoonstone , hope you are doing well.

I had a scan at 7 weeks and it helped in some ways but it also made me feel like I had ‘something to lose’ and in a weird way that made me anxious as well.

I think either way pregnancy is a very anxious time especially when you have experienced miscarriage.

I hope these next weeks going quickly for you xx

Hi ladies,

Similar for me, I had a scan at 7 weeks (measured 6+3 and saw HB), 9 weeks (measured 8+6). My next scan is booked for 10+4 then I'll wait for NHS scan which is at 12+6. Anxiety isn't easing at all and clinging onto every symptom. The scans only ease my anxiety for a day or so and I'm back to worrying after that. Having said that, the scans have been amazing and getting little pictures is really nice to place around the house and look at.

Really trying to enjoy being pregnant but time feels like it's going so slowly.

@RainbowMoonstone did you book a scan?

Morning all
I have such an uneasy feeling today and I can't really explain why. First I thought I had some cramping but it lasted a few seconds if that and I keep thinking I see a tiny bit of blood when I wipe. 3 weeks until my 12 week scan 🤞

Good to hear from you @siobhanmt247 and sorry that you are stressing. It takes an incredible amount of courage to face what we have. Is your doctor willing to see you sooner to give you peace of mind?

@Hoping4amiracle how are you doing this week?

@Nic17 I have not scheduled a 7 week ultrasound yet, but I’m going to call tomorrow and get on the calendar. I’m happy to say that I’ve reached the milestone where I have now stayed pregnant longer than my previous 3 mc’s. If there’s a heartbeat, I know that’s a beautiful sign, though I know we’re not out of the woods just yet.

I have been doing the best I can to just live my life and forget that I’m pregnant. After a year of miserable stress, it wasn’t worth it. A couple days ago I had a moment though. Out of the blue I got a really bad migraine that lasted the whole day. The last time I had one like that was in August and I had a MC the following day. At that time, the headache was a response to the drop in hormones. Fortunately this time though, that wasn’t the case. I have a Mira which allows me to test my hormones at home whenever I want, and turns out my headache was caused by a rise in hormones, not a drop! So I’m still pregnant for now and will be 6 weeks on Tuesday! Hoping for the best but holding on as I would hold a butterfly.

I’m happy that this channel is still active, even though more quiet than usual. It’s been a beacon of hope for me knowing that many of you have experienced similarly as I have and are moving forward.

@siobhanmt247 I have those days ❤️ hang in there. You're so strong. I wish I could give some advice but I can't.

@RainbowMoonstone that is amazing about the rising hormones and the huge milestone of getting further along than you have been before. They are such big positives to hold on to! Being able to track hormones at home isn't something I've heard of, does it give you peace of mind? X

@RainbowMoonstone congratulations on the new milestone and I'm glad the migraine turned out to be a good sign in the end. My partner doesn't want an early scan and I'm scared to as having to wait 2 weeks to see if I was just behind in dates was awful. I did eventually miscarry around 9 weeks though and I pass that next week. There's definitely no slotting today it's just in my head

@Nic17 thank you. I'm clinging to every symptom like you. Barely had any today but I've been getting a lump in my breast at night which I've affectionately called Hubert. If he turns up I feel a little better