Pregnancy after miscarriage - New support thread

[tulipsunday]

A new thread for those who are pregnant following miscarriage/s. Come and share your worries and joy with people who understand what you are going through.

@tulipsunday Aww congratulations on your little one's arrival!

@loulouhind Welcome and sorry you've been through so much :(

Hi ladies, can I join please?

I had a miscarriage (early at 5+6 ish) and chemical (even earlier) last year. Currently 6+2 and really struggling with anxiety. Every time I go to the loo I'm expecting blood and even dreaming about it.

Have booked a scan for 7 weeks, hoping to make it there this time.

I've read through some messages already and I think you're all so strong and this thread brings some much needed community to a really hard time. I wish pregnancy was different for us! X

And @tulipsunday congratulations - just wonderful news! X

@Nic17 I still check all my wipes when I go to the toilet and I’m 19+1, I too experienced the horrific MC dreams, especially in my first trimester. I’d like to say the anxiety gets easier, but I won’t lie to anyone here - I do like to think that in a strange way the anxiety makes your love for baby so much stronger though!

I have all my fingers and my toes crossed that a rainbow is coming your way! 🌈

@Nic17 I too check every wipe when I go to the loo and I am 28 weeks! Had a MMC in March last year. I think the anxiety with pregnancy after loss is only something women who've been through it understand, but we all get the same feelings & emotions and you're not alone. It's sad that this is our journey & we've lost our innocence in a way. But trust in your strength, you can get through it ❤️

Hello, I just wanted to join and say hello, as I read your posts, thinking of you all and so sorry for your previous losses. I had one miscarriage at 14 weeks, it was quite a surprise as all was fine at the 12 week scan, and I have one child already. It was spontaneous and complete. I’m now 7weeks and our EPU offered me a scan based on consultant advice and there’s a heartbeat. Totally relate about the stress, not sure if I’ll post on the thread as don’t want to feed my own worries, but I will follow and am wishing the best for all your pregnancies.

Congratulations @tulipsunday I'm just catching up on the new thread. It's lovely to hear about baby's arrival!

I am 39 weeks today and have a sweep booked on Wednesday. Will keep you posted.

Congratulations @tulipsunday it is such a relief after the losses!! 💕

@AprilShwrs @sweetpotato29 thank you both so much for sharing, you've validated my feelings and made me feel less alone.

My partner got upset for me earlier and asked when I think the worry would stop. It made me realise that it probably won't, at any stage in pregnancy. I've just got to be thankful that today, I am pregnant, and just because I lost it doesn't mean I'll lose again.

Looking forward to keeping in touch on this group! 💞

Congratulations @tulipsunday - happy to hear baby arrived safely xo

Thanks for the new thread, I'm marking my place. I'm 6+6 today. Using cyclogest after some spotting and a MMC in September. Feeling really anxious this time around but trying to keep thinking positive thoughts. I'll have another EPU scan at around 9-10 weeks. I'm travelling so unable to get reassurance but keep telling myself there's a heartbeat (first scan was too early for it).

@tulipsunday congratulations this is so lovely. Very happy for you!

Thank you all 💖 @Nic17 I did find anxiety lessened as pregnancy went on so hopefully that is a bit reassuring. Anxiety did sometimes transfer a bit - went from worrying if the pregnancy was viable to worrying about induction/birth etc. but certainly the feelings felt less overwhelming.

Good luck to everyone with scans and appointments coming up xx

I'm 5+3 today and was feeling on about everything but last night my resting HR dropped, BBT dropped and HRV was higher than it has been for a few weeks so nownim worried my body has stopped working hard to make the baby again :(

Hi all,

I started my own thread in Pregnancy but then noticed this page and thought I might get a bit more help posting on here!

I am currently pregnant following a MC last year. I had a bleed at around 5-6 weeks and then miscarried naturally a couple of weeks later following a scan confirming no heartbeat.

This time I am around 8+2 and everything was going fine until last week when I had a bleed. It was quite heavy initially (not enough to soak a pad though) and then just spotting until it cleared a couple of hours later. No cramping or clots and felt fine apart from bleeding. I rang EPU the next day and they asked me to go in for a blood test which I did and they confirmed HCG was where it should be so they were happy to see me for a scan at weekend. Went with DP on Saturday. The sonographer did an abdominal scan and said everything looked great, there was a strong heartbeat and the baby was measuring around 6 weeks or so. 1.5-2 weeks behind where I thought I should be?!

After the scan we went in to see the midwife who said the same as the sonographer. Everything looked great (they couldn't see any cause for the bleeding so might just have been a one off) and that I won't be seen again until my 12 week scan.

I asked her about the dates as I assumed that meant I was measuring 2 weeks behind and she said I'm not - they go off the date of implantation (date baby starts growing) whereas I am going off the date of my LMP so yes, there'll be about 2 weeks difference. Can anyone confirm if this is correct?? Because going off everything I read on here the scan dating should be the same as where you think you're at weeks wise? Or am I wrong?

Any help / advice appreciated!

Congratulations @tulipsunday , enjoy the newborn snuggles 🥰

@siobhanmt247 progesterone levels in early pregnancy increase and they slow down your muscles, don’t interpret it as your body not working harder! Then the placenta takes over progesterone production at 10-12 weeks. They give progesterone treatment to prevent early miscarriages, so you could interpret it as your body responding to the progesterone which maintains pregnancy. https://www.nct.org.uk/pregnancy/how-you-might-be-feeling/pregnancy-hormones-progesterone-oestrogen-and-mood-swings

@Caffeinedetox did you receive a piece of paper with the scan measurements? I’ve had ultrasound scans with the NHS. I got a piece of paper and at one line it says “gestational age” which is by the first day of my last period. Then there is another line that says “The CRL measurement is equivalent to X+x weeks”, which is slightly less, by about a week. I don’t think we can advise you otherwise unless they used those terms, because it could be lost in translation or poor communication. It’s rubbish isn’t it, little words can make such a difference to how we feel! I was told they can’t reliably date it until 12 weeks nuchal dating scan, as there is SO much variability in how the baby grows in the first 12 weeks. If you’re worried, I would call and ask for a midwife to call you to talk it through so you can understand.

@BakeOffRewatch No I didn't get anything apart from the scan photo and the midwife confirmed the baby was measuring at 3.5mm which is consistent with around 6 weeks... I have my booking in appt next week so I'm going to make a list of questions to take with me!

Hello @siobhanmt247

I know it’s hard but for the sake of mental health I’d really recommend stepping away from measuring resting heart rate and BBT once pregnancy is confirmed. It’s not an exact science and the stress it causes you is just unreal. The last couple of times I’ve been pregnant - whether it worked out or not, ive taken the fitness watch off and stoped OvuSense. I found ignorance to be bliss with respect to resting heart rate and BBT xxx

Hi @Caffeinedetox - sorry you are going through this stress. I had a bleed couple of weeks ago and was in bits but ended up being a haematoma and baby was fine - by next scan the haematoma was gone. I was told by midwife that a bit of spotting is pretty common. I’d also say that I had an infection that came back in my blood test and needed antibiotics, when that cleared the spotting stopped so I think there can be a few reasons for spotting.

It is possible that implantation dates or ovulation dates are out slightly of the midwife/sonographer is happy id take it as positive. However I would push for a scan between now and 12 weeks as that is a long time xx

Reintroducing myself on this new thread. Thanks @tulipsunday for keeping this up for everyone 💖.

I had 4 mc’s last year (1mmc and 2 chemical). Really hoping this is the year for us. I already have a son who will be turning 2 in April. Dreamed of having 2 children close in age and with each loss the gap keeps growing. Took last month off from ttc for my mental health and decided to try again this month. Hoping for a BFP in the next week 🤞

Oh, and I’m also 39 years old and today is my birthday.

@RainbowMoonstone happy birthday!!!! Got my fingers crossed for you, keep us posted! I'm sorry for what you've been through xx

@RainbowMoonstone happy birthday! And sending you all the best wishes for your journey going forward!

also hello to @siobhanmt247 & @Caffeinedetox and sorry for your previous losses. It’s hard not to worry, especially when you have a million reasons why you think you should. Just try to remember that stress isn’t good for either you or the baby, so try to keep yourself as occupied as you can in the meantime. (Easier said than done, I know) Now don’t read the next bit coz I’ll sound like a hypocrite 🤫😅

For anyone that doesn’t know me, I’ll reintroduce myself. I’m currently 19+5 after two miscarriages last year. I’m due my 20week scan on Thursday and although I’m beyond excited, I’m finding myself struggling with my anxiety again this week. My hips/back are achey and I’ve been feeling what I can only describe as mild cramping.

Part of my brain knows it’s probably growing pain because it doesn’t last for very long, part of me knows it’s probably gut ache from constipation, part of me wonders if I’m finally feeling the baby like I’ve been hoping for…

But a bigger part of me is now expecting to go to the scan on Thursday and find my journey has come to an end.

The only things stopping me from spiralling out of control at this point are my boobs are still tender and there’s been no bleeding. Every milestone is a hurdle, I’m just trying to enjoy this pregnancy and be as excited as everyone around me is, but I’m also scared that I’ve made it this far only to fall just before the halfway mark. 😔

@Caffeinedetox The only other thing that struck me was that they did an abdominal scan on you. Is your uterus tilted, do you know? If so, abdominal scans can give poor measurements. I even had to have an internal scan at 12 weeks.

@TheBirdintheCave I have absolutely no idea?! They didn't say anything about my uterus being tilted? However in my previous pregnancy I got told I had a bicornuate uterus and after this scan they told me that I didn't?!

@tulipsunday ahh so pleased to hear your news of baby boy!! Sounds like your Labour was super speedy too xxx