Pregnancy After Miscarriage - Knicker Checkers Anonymous Part III

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Hi everyone.....roll up here for your passport to check your knickers on an hourly basis

Oblomov so so pleased for you, and glad to hear someone's showing you the care you deserve at last. Am all teary too

Lol Ellie! I've also been crying for no apparent reaosn this morning (because DH got up early and din't make me a cup of tea..........gaaaah Are you taking raspberry leaf or anything? I swear the baby's kicks have gotten stronger since I started taking them and am same as you - I just want her out now!

Great news Oblomov - glad somebody took some time to see to you and give you osme reassurance - now healthy and well healthy and well for another 34 (ish) weeks

Good luck with scan ILTS!

Popsy and rainrain - I have also been the same with all scans/appointments - ie feel great for about 5 minutes and then go back to knicker checking/belly prodding/panicking again...well they are my knickers so why not?

Great news Oblomov I'm pleased you're finally getting the care you deserve too. But why does it have to be such a struggle, what is wrong with the NHS?! (Ok, don't even answer that one!)
ILTS Good luck with your scan and please pop back in to tell us the results!

results are....one healthy happy baby girl

I have a lot of catching up to do, but first wanted to say...

Congratulations iliketosleep - FANTASTIC news! How far gone are you - can they be sure about the sex?

Ronny thank you so much for sharing your experience with me. I can now begin to understand what you went through. For us the only difficult decision was whether to go for the CVS or wait for the amnio, if the results are bad we would not consider keeping our baby if it's maximum life expectancy was 5 months. I don't see any reason to put ourselves or our baby through that. It would have mssive internal and external deformities - just not meant to be.

Donbean so sorry to hear your news, will be thinking of you over the coming days and weeks (((hugs)))

Haven't been on here so far this week as have just been concentrating on getting through the days. Think I'm in denial about it all really. Have a scan booked for 5.30pm on Monday with the consultant to see if beanie is still there. Don't really want to go, but consultant thinks I should and we trust him, so I'm going. I veer from really not being able to believe that anything is wrong to thinking about whether to have a funeral... Am also trying to think of a girl's name, although for no real reason have always been sure it's a boy. Feel a bit bad for thinking this way, but although I had names picked out (Jemima or Toby) I want to save them rather than use them for this LO if it doesn't make it. Is that awful? We're thinking of Thomas if it's a boy which is DH's middle name, but can't think of a girl's name...
Sorry if you find this upsetting/wrong. Just the way I'm feeling.

I had another look at the report letter the consultant gave us and the other possibility it mentions apart from a chromosone disorder is placental dysfunction. Anyone got any ideas on that one?

Hugs to all, and thank you so much for your good wishes. Kxx

Brilliant start to a crappy rainy day.
ILTS a little girl. What flavour are your other DC?
Oblomov, that is such good news. Sometimes it is great to be wrong. Obviously we are women and not wrong very often.

Thanks for the bra advice ladies. Anyone would think I had never been pregnant before. I am turning into a neurotic mess. I will be getting back to my wires. I do not like this sideways action. I want it all out the front.

Popsy when is your first midwife appointment? You should be getting routine bloods taken at 16 weeks. Phone your hospital and ask them what the deal is! They are very used to first time mums being crazy so dont worry too much if they are rude to you. Part of being a midwife.
Just wait till you phone them to say you think you are in labour. Then they will laugh in your face and tell you to phone when you cant speak!!!

Ellie 3 weeks!!!.
Who is next on the list to graduate??

Sorry Kate X post.
It is a really awful time for you and DH. You have to do what ever you feel/think is right for you. There are no right or wrongs. No one here will judge you for doing what is right for your family even if it isnt what they would choose.
I think placental dysfunction (but dont quote me) is a very common cause of MC. Often women mc at 8/9 weeks because the placenta should take over. If the placenta hasnt formed properly then it will not be adequate enough to help the baby grow etc. Sorry if that isnt quite what you wanted to know/hear.
Stay with us as we are all here for you, whenever you need us.

Thanks Ronny. Will hopefully be sticking around for a few more weeks at least.

Just popped back cos I realised I forgot to say thank you to p2b for your contact details. Am going to wait til I have a definite diagnosis if that's ok, but after that if it is triploidy as the consultant suspects I would def like to get in touch if that's ok with you? xx

Brain like a sieve... also meant to say ronshar have a look on figleaves.com for maternity bras, they had some really pretty ones last time I looked, actually quite sexy! Haven't tried them (obv) so no idea if they're any good, but they might make you feel better even if they're not really supportive enough - if that makes sense! xx

Cheers love looking right now.

2dds and 1ds already.

She said i cant see any boy bits so i think its safe to say its a girl. I dont think she would have said anything if she wasnt sure.

Fab news ILTS - what a nice mixture of children you'll have!

((((hugs))))) to kate x

Went to ante natal this morning and am measuring 39 weeks though only 37 - clearly baby takes after her Mummy and is a bit of a chubster! They are going to book me in for a growth scan next week to see if she is a fatty or just lots of fluid or whatever. I hope she comes early am sooo excited to meet her

Uh oh, you are going to have to squeeze out a bowling ball, how wide are your hips??.
Only joking love. Scans all ways give different sizes at this stage. All depends on position etc.

Well luckily my hips are plenty wide enough to cope if she does turn out to be a little fatty!

Great news ILTS! Just you wait until all those girls are teenagers and are hogging the bathroom!
Kate Thanks for the update, we were worried about you. You're on such an emotional roller-coaster at the moment, I can't even begin to imagine what you're going through. As Ronshar says, there are no rights or wrongs, you just have to do what you feel is right. Keep posting on here if it helps, and know that we are all thinking of you. (((hugs)))

Well, had my scan on Thurs, was told sac was 6wks (should be 8) but couldn't see fetal pole so have been told pregnancy not viable and to see if I m/c naturally rather than having d&c, as it is a lot earlier than last time (last time was 12wks). Go to work on Fri and get home to find message from gp to say I need to go to a&e straight away and that she has faxed my history to them, as the results from Thursday's blood came back and my hcg is now at 22000, having increased from 7800 on 17/3. She was concerned that this could have meant an ectopic pregnancy. So after waiting 3hrs in a&e, we saw a doctor, who consulted with hospital gynacologist, and they took more blood and want me to come back to see the gynae on Monday morning. Not a lot they can do really, as I haven't been bleeding, have no pain, nothing, just increasing hcg levels. Thursday's scan showed sac in my uterus, so it didn't suggest to anyone that it was ectopic from the location. My uterus is also tilted, which can make it harder to see baby, but I'm accepting the fact that it isn't viable, but would just like to know what the f* is going on. I was very sad 2wks ago when we had our first scan, so now just want to get on with things so we can start trying again. Guess I will have to be patient until Monday and hope it's nothing out of the ordinary.
Congrats to those who have had postive scans, great news. Kate can't imagine how you are feeling right now, hope you get some answers soon.

scully I'm sorry to hear your news.

Kate I really hope you get some postivie news soon.

Oblomov, congratultions and masses of luck to you.

ILTS, glad everything went well with the scan. My baby was a girl at 20 weeks and now looks like a boy and both sonographers were certain about what they had/hadn't seen!

Scully and Kate. Thinking of you both for Monday x

Kate i think your feelings sound totally normal, and like someone else said, no one here is going to judge you for how you feel. It must be so hard waiting to see what is happening, and planning for the worst. I'm glad you've both found it straightforward to come to terms with what your decision will be. We're always here if you ned to chat, please feel comfortable saying whatever is on your mind, however "awful" you think it is x

Glad you had a good scan ILTS

Anyone else find it hard to believe they're still pg? I should be 14 weeks tomorrow, but just feel so totally normal, no sign of anything. I can't help fretting that something happened after the scan which was just over 2 weeks ago, not helped by mw not being able to feel anything after I was 12 weeks. Guess just have to wait til appointment with mw at 16 weeks, or for a bump to appear (perhaps it's just lost under the crisps and choc podge??)

SOrry to hear your news scully - and I'll be thinking of both you and kate on Monday.

Sorry to hear your news scully - hope you get some definite answers soon x

Don't say that goingfor3 - I haven't thought of any boy's names and can't imagine having a boy now! Not that I wouldn't love it either way. As long as healthy and well would be cool. Would be a bit of a bugger though as some of the clothes have bought are a bit girly....

As a graduate of this thread I would like to let you know that our liitle son, James, was born on the 9th March weighing 9 lbs. I did not have much time to post lately, but the support I received on this thread was invaluable. Wish you all the best and good luck!!!!

Congrats Gingercat on the birth of James. I agree with the support on this thread although I am more a lurker than poster.
After 2 miscarriages, I am now pregnant again and 17 weeks at that! All looks well at the moment x Take care

So sorry Scully. Sending you hugs.

Congrats to gingercat. I agree that this thread is invaluable...

Splishsplosh- I have only 8 weeks left until I meet my little girl and every day I am surprised to still be in th game. "Healthy and well"

I've ahad a quick flick through this thread, and i'v noticed some names from the Due Nov 08 thread. From those of you who go to that thread, you'll know why I'm here. Im approx 6 weeks preg with #2. My LMP was 26 Jan, so I should be further along, but scans have shown me to be earlier than that. Had scan Fri week ago and size was about 5 wks. Since yesterday I'v had a brown discharge. This morning I'v noticed some streaks of blood, though nothing seams to make it to my pad. I've also got period type pains. I am worried and have spoken to the Obs Gynae Reg at my hosp. he told me to only come to the hosp today if the bleeding becomes excessive or the pain unbearable. i've to go there tomorrow for a check up scan. I've never exerienced a MC and don;t obviously knwo if this is one (my period would have been due about now, and that seems to be a normal enough symptom). I don't wnat to depress theose on the Due Nov 08 thread, so I'm here with you now.

I'm just taking it easy on sofa. trying to be positive. Will wait out until tomorrow lunchtime when I'll know one way or the other.

thanks. sorry for long thread.

Hi Daisy

Hope you are okay and getting some rest on the sofa. There's really nothing else you can do - if you are going to MC it will happen.

Lots of ladies on here have experienced bleeding of varying amounts and colours and it doesn't always necessarily mean that you will MC.

Similarly, MCs can involve some pain and some don't at all (I was a good 5/6 days into mine before I had any pain). That said, it can also be normal to have period type pains at and around your normal due date.

All I can say is try and get some rest before tomorrow and I hope that things turn out for the best for you - healthy and well