Pregnancy After Miscarriage - Knicker Checkers Anonymous Part III

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Hi everyone.....roll up here for your passport to check your knickers on an hourly basis

morning everyone and thanks for the welcome!

ronshar well done for hitting the halfway mark, I think thats when I began to show 1st time round and I was soooo pleased when I started to look preg.

justjules you are nearly there now and it sounds like you have a packed programme! So sorry to hear of your previous mcs.

I have just come back from gp appt. where my blood tests showed a slightly elevated rise in my clotting test (but she told me it may be because I have an inflammatory illness) but if I mc again this time they will refer me to the recurrent mc clinic! I just came out feeling omg. I just want everything to be ok this time but suppose it is in the lap of the gods for now. Still on a positive note still no more spotting so fingers crossed.

Poppy are you supposed to just sit back and wait and see if you lose this baby?. Get back down to the GP and ask exactly what the concequences of an elevated clotting time are and will it raise the chance of MC. By the way, yes it does, ask Jules. Then tell her you would prefer to speak to a consultant obstetrician who actually cares about the health of you and your baby!

Why do GPs think we can just keep getting pregnant at the drop of a hat and then shrug off the loss of our babies. At which point do they think that having to go through the death of three babies is an ok thing to have to deal with?

Sorry. Rant over. It makes me
On a positive note at least you are ok at the moment.

Hi justjules I am so sorry to hear your story, that is such a lot of heartache to go through. So glad that things are better for you this time.

ronshar you are right that they just seem to think we can get preg again (and this was a female gp). It took us nearly 4 years to get preg again after having ds and we have both been tested and 2 years ago I had a laparoscopy to investigate further but all our tests came back ok so it was just put down to unexplained infertility. Have also had a lot of pressure to "complete" my family from my rheumatology consultant as my drugs are not really controlling things well and she wants to put me on different (but toxic to a baby) drugs!

I had a mc in feb and that was my first and with the spotting etc this time things are a bit uncertain. Sorry for ranting on a bit.

I know what you mean trying. Because i was not on clinical trial i do feel like I self-medicated a bit. It then took quite a lot of pushing to actually get to see the consultant about weather I should continue. Now he has said he doesn't think it is worth it, I am now obsessing about stopping (although i didn't have any yesterday). I know it is silly, he is the expert after all, but psychologically i think i have rather been using it as a prop....

Sorry Poppy, didn't see all your posts then (am sure this pregnancy has made my brain and my computer stop working properly). Hope everything is ok - good that spotting stopped, no? I get really just with the fact that we have to go through this 3 times in a lot of cases before they even see us, or give us any extra attention.

I dont want to sound forceful but I was there all last summer when Jules was in the pits of despair. I have had two mc's of my own.
If it is preventable why the fuck should we just let them brush us aside like that?

Go back Poppy and insist on an urgent referal to consultant. Or you could try your Rheumatology consultant. Maybe he could liase with the obs team to sort out appropriate medical treatment for your pregnancy. Before it is too late for you. Make a big noise.
I'm afraid those who shout loudest get best treament in NHS system.
Like I said, sorry to sound hard but they do treat us like idiots sometimes.

Hi guys

Do any of you have any experience/knowledge of Anti-E anitbodies? I'm O Rhesus Neg and DP is Rhesus Pos and following my m/c last year, it appears that I've got antibodies Anti-E and Anti-C! I know all about Anti-D and don't have those thankfully, but I'd never heard of these other ones til yesterday!

Did post on another thread but no reply (it was an old one...)

Have read and agree with all of your comments above. Why should women have to go through 3 m/cs before anyone will do anything about it? Poppy I hope you manage to speak to someone else soon and that all is well...

Sorry for being ignorant, but Jules what are BA and RA?

Cheers Jules, I'll take a look now!

Ha, just found the same one! It looks like it's pretty rare that anything bad will happen but they will just need to monitor the antibodies and check they aren't rising. I guess I won't know until I get the results back (hopefully next Friday...) Fingers crossed it's ok, don't fancy the poor baby having to have a transfusion. Whatever is happening, it certainly hasn't affected the baby's mobility - it's kicking up a storm today!

Cheers for your help.

Doh, now read the other links and realised that I may not be able to have a home birth... Think I'd better wait until they get the results before I start panicking. Right, off home now - have a good weekend.

Hi Everyone,

Yippee it's friday!

Ronshar Congrats on being 20 weeks! can't wait til I get there! And yay for jules - nearly 30 weeks!! Still feels so early for me but just so pleased to be in the club!

hope everythings o.k. poppy Fingers and toes crossed for you.

Nothing to report today - just wanted to wish you all a happy weekend! Woo hoo (hmm... too many wine gums posssibly )

hello... weird being on here at the weekend... but it's nice to be on here and being able to read posts properly and not be pretending to work!

Reading the info above, I might do the baby aspirin thing, I feel like this pg is hanging by a thread anyway, with all the spotting.

rainrain you say you're using aspirin as a prop, but if it isn't harming you, it probably doesn't matter. Nothing wrong with the placebo effect if it is keeping you sane

Poppy, any news? It is crap that they're so dismissive after the ordeal you've been through to get this far. Hope you're feeling ok anyway.

Spent yesterday evening with close friend who had a baby boy 2 weeks ago. He is gorgeous, but she got pg 1st month of trying, has had an easy pg, uncomplicated birth and is already back in her pre-pg jeans - all since my 1st mc. (btw, she didn't brag about the jeans, I just know her very well and noticed!)

I feel quite jealous that she has this innocence that I will never feel, because it was so simple for her. But then reading justjules story makes me think I'm indulging myself by thinking that way. Your description of your kung fu girly made me , but it sounds like you've had your innocence well and truly shattered on your way to getting this far. How amazing it must feel now though.

lovely weekends to all.

btw I measured my bust this morning and it has increased by half an inch this week [nork-tastic emoticon]

A pregnancy symptom at last, thank god! I was starting to think I might not be pg at all, and the BFP was a mirage!

Morning!

Hope everyone is ok....

Just needing a little reassurance in this corner. I am almost 9 wks and next scan on Wednesday. Earlier scan at 5+6 weeks showed everything in order, I've had no m/s and feel 'normal'. I have had 2 m/c both without medical intervention and have had no bleeding (touch wood)

I am just worried about the next scan and what it will reveal . Work advise that any more sickness will result in disciplinary and whilst this can be argued out (3 bouts of sickness in 1 yr - 1 of which was m/c related) I really don't fancy a fight with the boss!.

I really wanted to self medicate on the baby aspirin, but i was talked out of it by both the hospital and my partner (who works in clinical trials).

With each pg, a friend or family member has also been pg and they have gone onto have beautiful babies whilst I have been left berefit. I have been away for the last week with family which was fab, but being with a baby for a week and now its just me and dp again - the place seems quiet - too quiet.

Feeling so utterly sad today......any words of wisdom would be appreciated.

Oh gosh kd. I don't really have any words of wisdom, but wanted you to know there's someone out here thinking of you.

I guess sometimes you have to roll with the emotions, and let yourself feel sad for a while. On the positive side, the earlier scans sound good, and you have no reason to think that anything has changed. But I don't think that will ever stop someone who's pg after mc from worrying...!

at your work - that's incredibly insensitive. No wonder you're down if you're stuck in that kind of unsupportive atmosphere.

All the best x

Sorry you're feeling so down, kd, but it's not surprising with what you've gone through. Having other people around you go on to have babies when you've had mcs must be incredibly tough.

I don't know much about taking low doses of aspirin, though i wouldn't have thought it would hurt to take it, and if it mighr help, surely it's worth it? Did your hospital / partner have good reasons why you shouldn't take it? Do they think it could be harmful?

Remember that having recurrent mc isn't common, your 1st scan was ok, the probabiluty of things being ok this time round are high.

Don't worry about lack of symptoms / feeling normal - everyone is different, lots of people sail though without any symptoms - think of all the stories about people who don't even realise they're pg for months.

I don't know if any of this helps - I know it's pretty much impossible to stop worrying - we've all felt the way you're feeling now. I hope the scan on Wednesday can give you some reassurance - sending lots of hugs, postitive vibes and thoughts your way

morning everyone
trying (grin) at the bigger bust measurement. It's always good to get a symptom. I was very sick with ds from quite early on and it lasted months (dh even bought me a yellow baisin so I didn't have to run upstairs to toilet!) and this time the symptoms are much less obvious. I have also been around babies recently as my good friend had her 3rd last year but I don't mind being round her family as she is always so supportive of me and is so lovely that I never come away feeling envious of her (maybe others!).

kd (angry) at your work. The last thing you need when you are feeling vulnerable is a battle on your hands. I hope your next scan goes well.

So far I still seem to be ok and the spotting hasn't returned but knicker checking is at an all time high......