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Gender disappointment - please tear into me

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Mottledgrey · 07/12/2023 11:32

As the title says really. Yesterday we found out that our second and last child is another DS. I don’t think I realised how much I wanted him to be a girl until they told me in the scan room and I immediately started crying. It was a private scan and it was meant to be such a lovely experience but I was just desperate to leave. I feel so guilty about how I feel that I can’t even look at any of the scan photos.

I don’t think it helps that DH and my parents were also hoping for a girl so I feel like I’ve failed them which is just ridiculous!

Basically I need you all to tell me what a terrible person I am for feeling like this because I can’t talk about it in real life!

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Franticbutterfly · 07/12/2023 23:33

I was gutted when I found out child 3 was another dd, but you know, she was so different to the others and gave me a really different experience of being a Mum. She made my life really.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 08/12/2023 00:04

You're just mourning an experience that you won't have - mothering a daughter- and it's ok to
Mourn that. It doesn't mean you love your unborn son any less.

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