Due June 24 💚 - Part 2

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Thought I'd make a new thread before the old one filled up completely.

Into the second trimester and beyond 😊

@NorthernDaisy i hadn’t even considered I’d done too much but I had really especially over the days prior.

@oop that must’ve been a bit scary! This might seem stupid, but how can you tell the difference? Is it just how powerful / regular they are that makes you know it’s contractions?

oh @Elmlee sending so much love sounds like you’ve really not had an easy time of it. Deep breaths. Shocked and overwhelmed is more than understandable.

@beaniesunrise I would defo request the second midwife if you can! The one we had for our booking meeting was miserable and rushed and patronising and I’m sooo hopeful it isn’t her during labour. But I’ve seen someone different almost every time so really have no idea, when I asked i was told it’d be down to shifting (whose working and available). There’s definitely a lot of different styles out there :(

@DanisEndo for me Braxton hicks are painless. Certainly uncomfortable, sometimes very uncomfortable but not painful. The only time I had painful (similar to period pain at the start) tightenings was labour so I recognised the feeling I guess!

Hi ladies. I’m 34+2 today and the fatigue is killing me. GP signed me off on Monday so today I slept until 10am (although not very well anyway), stayed in bed until 11, had my breakfast and then tried to cook lunch and… I couldn’t! 15 min and I was all sweaty and out of breath and feeling exhausted. I only washed and cut 10 potatoes or so, didn’t even peel them. Is it normal? I wonder how I can manage it for 6-8 more weeks… How do people manage with working and looking after other children?

@DanisEndo yeah I’m going to request the other midwife for my next few appointments! Ah I remember the shift changes when I was having DC1, one of the parts of labour I disliked - having a different midwife each time. It seemed like they were always focused on getting all their paperwork complete/handed over before their shift change at 8 o’clock so I never felt close to any midwife to ask for help

@Ad12345678 welcome to the thread! Sorry to hear about the exhaustion, have you been checked for anemia? My DC1 goes nursery for half days so I try to get all my work & meetings done then! Helps that I WFH so can take it easy if I need to (and DC let’s me lol)

@beaniesunrise I’ve been checked in March and my iron was fine… I’ve been also taking Pregnacare since getting pregnant and it has iron in it so it should be fine. Had a blood test on Monday so we’ll see soon.

@Elmlee sending love for you and your baby 💐

@Ad12345678 I was also going to suggest anemia, or maybe lack of vitamin D: I heard it can also cause fatigue. I hope you can get the rest you need 🙏

Thanks all. I’m actually anaemic, the results just came in. The little one sucked everything out in the last 2 months hehe, my iron storage was quite high in March. Hopefully the tablets will kick in soon enough, they said I don’t qualify for an infusion :(

@Ad12345678 I really sympathise, I had severe anaemia in April. The tablets did help but it took at least five days to start to feel the benefit. I was advised to take fybrogel too to avoid constipation - hope that's not tmi but you don't need any more issues do you! Wishing you a speedy recovery.

Hi ladies, I'm 34+5 and have been in hospital for 24 hours now. Woke up yesterday morning to find I was bleeding. Scary stuff! Baby seems happy each time they check her but they won't let me leave until I'm 24 hours free of anymore bleeding. Next growth scan has been moved to tomorrow morning so hopefully I will get some answers then.

@15rainbow good luck! Hopefully you will be out soon. We're the same gestation.

@15rainbow good luck, I hope you and your baby can be home safe and well soon 🙏💐

34 weeks today and had my midwife appt, baby has dropped to below 3rd percentile so they're sending me for scan. She was bang in the middle before. I'm so scared, if it's accurate it means she's only grown half a cm in 3 weeks!! Surely it can't be right as I've definitely grown bigger in that time!!!???
Midwife said not to worry because movements are fine but I really can't help it! Anyone else in a similar boat?

@Thriving30 I had the opposite- bang on 50th centile then started measuring over 120! Went for a growth scan and she is bigger but within the normal range. The tape measures aren't very accurate, it could be something very simple like baby is in a different position

@15rainbow oh that sounds so stressful! Sounds like you're in the best place though, keep us updated!

@Thriving30 not in this pregnancy but in my first I dropped from like 90th to 10th in bump measurements in the space of 2 weeks. It effectively measured as my bump shrinking in those two weeks 😂 anyway I had a growth scan and he measured bang on average so all the bump measurements were inaccurate. I wouldn't worry at all x

@15rainbow hope you get out soon and everything is ok 🤞🤞

I got out hospital Tuesday afternoon, went for routine appointment and growth scan Wednesday afternoon.

BP was high so they sent me for checks for an hour, thought I was being admitted again! Very stressful 😥

Doesn't help I have Covid. I feel terrible. 😞

Been signed off work so not going back now.. so just going to concentrate on resting, preparing and quality time with hubs and our daughter before baby comes.

Anyone else feel emotional for their first born? Time as an only one it's nearly over 😢😳

@15rainbow wishing you speedy recovery and pray everything is ok 💐

@Elmlee ahh sorry to hear, it definitely sounds very stressful! Sounds like a good plan to focus on preparing and spending quality time before the new addition arrives.

I’ve been feeling a bit in a haze as it’s starting to I guess settle that not long is left now. Feeling an surreal rollercoaster for DC1 that these are the last few weeks of it just being us before their sibling comes… still can’t believe it and feel quite guilty that I won’t be able to give them the 121 time as I do now, looking forward to finally leave starting after next week from work!

Last 3 days I’ve noticed that my body has been keeping me awake till late (1am) for some reason.. restless feeling all over, like adrenaline. I’m mentally exhausted from work & housework & taking care of DC1 all day, so I used to fall deeply into sleep around 10/11pm latest. Hence it doesn’t make sense to why I’m awake till 1pm watching labour story time videos on YouTube or reading forums!

I remember this happening when I was pregnant the first time in third trimester, feels like it’s my body being excited for the time to come? Can’t explain it, seems very involuntary. Hope it’s nesting starting or excitement to go on leave from work soon.

Has anyone else experienced this?

Hi everyone!

@Elmlee I wish you a rapid recovery from covid 🙏What you and @beaniesunrise have said about your first children has touched me because I'm feeling the same, and my first born is really feeling it too: she's more sensitive, I'm more sensitive, we have more discussions and bad days, and there's this sense of the end of an era... I try not to turn melodramatic by thinking that, actually, I already have another child and this past months have been the adaptation we (my dc1 and myself) needed... But sometimes I struggle because I don't know if I should do something special or, on the contrary, I should just live these moments as they come and that, in itself, will be special. I don't know if I'm making sense... It's a big thing for her too, this situation: I don't know if I'm measuring up as a mum to her in these moments.

What are you all doing with/for your first children, those who have them? And, for the mums that have more children: would you share some expertise? 🙏

@Elmlee good luck with everything, you've really been through it !!

@Thriving30 yes I've had this with all of my pregnancies, it's always a worry because we can't physically see the babes to check they're OK ! I'd say having good movements is very reassuring. When is your scan ? If little babe is measuring small on the scan they will look after you very closely and whenever they feel baby is better out than in they will most likely induce (normally 37 weeks). I'm going for weekly scans now and baby is on 3rd centile, he dropped from very average to 6th by 30 weeks and since then has gone down to 3rd. His movements, fluid and dopplers (blood pressure) are all fine so I'll most likely be induced at 38 weeks unless anything changes at my next scan (growth etc). The big thing they drill into me is "if there are ANY change in movements go in!!"
Hopefully you have your scan soon and will get some answers !! Hope that's helpful and not making you worry ! When you speak to them ask them if they think you'll be induced. Good luck !!

Oh my goodness, my little girl (she's 6) had a big cry at school yesterday and at home 💔💔 she asked if we could not have the new baby and please could it just stay her and her brother 😔 my heart broke for her ! She's not a crier at all, so it was extra sad !
I remember sitting in the car sobbing holding her hand when she was a baby just before her brother was born. End of an era !
Not much we can do about it now though 😅

It's so hard isn't it with siblings! Mine is ok about it at the moment but hes too little (2) to really understand what it means. He's also been so so clingy to me recently, I think he knows things are going to change.
I'm sad for him that he'll have to share our attention but also excited for him to have a sibling.

@Goldie1234 oh bless her 💔 when the new baby is here she will feel completely different I'm sure and she will be a big big sister!

@MsNeis when DD2 was born DD1 was only 16 months old so I wouldn't say she was completely aware tbh, she acknowledged her new sister and was a bit jealous to start with but I doubt she's ever going to remember life as an only child! They now play together and get on so well (DD1 is 2.5 and DD2 is nearly 15 months)
I worry about how they will react when DD3 arrives, I think DD1 will be a lot more aware but DD2 will be 16 months so probably won't be that bothered maybe a bit jealous. I'm confident she will fit right in with them and they will both love her like they love eachother ❤️ but again, they are both very young and probably won't remember it being just the two of them. At the end of the day, I think all first children no matter what age will have doubts and worries because it's a very big change and they are only children but that sibling will be their sibling and they will never be able to imagine life without each other 😊

The same has happened to me on my last growth scan, I’ve dropped from 47th to 25th centile on weight/size so not as significant a drop as yours but the head measurement has gone down to 6th percentile which is definitely a worry. I do keep hearing that the bump measurements are very inaccurate, and that the scans can also be inaccurate too especially the head when it’s in the pelvis so I’m holding onto that as reassurance. Like everyone has said they’ll be keeping a close eye on you and it’s reassuring the midwife wasn’t worried. I’m also 34 weeks today 💕