IVF pregnancies - Spring 2024 (thread 2)

[thislittlebird]

New thread! Do tag everyone I've missed, I'm off out to see the new Hunger Games so can add more later but need to dash! @CazzyM1983 @KG1244 @countrypunk @Misty84 @ASGIRC @TheBirdintheCave @Summerishere83

@thislittlenugget You're still welcome to post here if you want to talk specific IVF stuff with us ❤️

Anyone else getting fed up with the acid reflux? 🤦🏻‍♀️

@KG1244 yes! I tend to get it at any random time of day or night, before and after eating, sitting up, lying down, awake or asleep. It’s especially bad around 3-4 in the morning when it wakes me up, then I can’t get back to sleep. Water seems to really set it off too 🤷‍♀️ Rennies and the pink gaviscon seem to be helping.

@KG1244 This is supposed to mean your baby has lots of hair apparently! I've not had any in any of my pregnancies so far!

SOOOOOOO fed up!!!
I have it almost every night. Fortunately it is not an all day thing, but in the evening it is awful!
Skin on almonds are supposed to be really good as well. Ive only just bought some. Ive only taken a rennie when Ive had actual heartburn (fortunately only once or twice, so far)

Thanks all! Good to know I’m not the only one fed up with it. It actually made me throw up this morning. Guessing I will be having a very hairy baby 😂

Ive messaged my midwife to see if there is anything I can take other than Gaviscon or rennie.

I get this but not a vast amount, just off and on and I take a rennie or tums and it’s ok again. I was a very bald baby, I’d imagine mine will be too.

@KG1244 you can take omeprazole as well

@ASGIRC have you ever taken it or know someone that has? I think if I’m sick again, I’ll get an appointment from my gp to see if they can prescribe me some. Thanks lovely xx

@KG1244 I havent but yes, know several pregnant women taking it currently, prescribed by their doctors!
Mine is not bad enough for me to take it... It just annoys me (because having a burp come up with the contents of your stomach is not particularly nice...)

You know what else Im REALLLLLLLLLLLLLLYYYYYYY fed up with?
Peoples opinions...
I say "I cant wait to not be pregnant anymore, this has been shit", and someone always pipes uo saying "Oh, when shes born, you will miss it!!" No. I can guarantee you that I wont.

Or I say "I cant wait for her to be born and to be able to drink some wine or beer"
And people will invariably say "Oh, youll be breastfeeding, so you wont be able to". Can you mind your own business? 1st who knows if Ill breastfeed? Second, you can definitely drink while breastfeeding, there are plenty of studies about it these days, it takes an enormous amount of alcohol in your system for it to pass to the milk. Not to mention all the things you can do, like pump before drinking, or whatever.

And my favourite... "Im having a planned C section".
"oh, dont theyre horrible, dont do it!". Because natural labour isnt horrible? Also, I didnt ask for an opinion, this is a decision that has been taken. It is done. The only reason it wont happen is if I go into spontaneous labour before hand and when I get to the hospital they tell me Im fully dilated and just need to push for a bit!

@ASGIRC I with you on the opinions thing. I keep getting comments about the size of my bump….’oooh you are tiny!’ ‘You can’t be that far along, is the baby actually growing’ etc from random people I only pass in the corridoor at work. I think I will start saying ‘You’re looking HUGE today, what have you eaten?’ I don’t know why everyone thinks pregnant women should be the size of a whale? I just look like I have a football stuffed up my jumper!
You are right you won’t ‘miss’ being pregnant, you will have a tiny baby to look after with a whole new set of challenges. The most likely thing you will miss is pre baby life as you adjust to your new role as mother. Then you can lap up all the helpful unsolicited advice people want to give you at that newborn stage 🤣

@PollywithaP I actually did miss being pregnant as it was preferable to the first few weeks following my son's birth 😅 I also missed the kicking and I know I'll miss that again when this one comes as this is my last pregnancy 😭

OMG!! You have perfectly captured my mood this morning!! The bit of acid reflux is annoying. People’s opinions are way too much sometimes!

A couple of friends who have had one kid keep telling us how hard a new baby is going to be. I hear you but there’s NOTHING we can do about it. Just let us have our own experience. And suggesting a different birth paths… I keep getting told to think about just demanding a c-section instead of being willing to follow doctor advice and try induction first.

Keep getting asked if we bought everything we need. No we haven’t!!! I’m only just 6 months and we are still unpacking from moving. Give me a break.

Even family who say to just take the advice you want, like my SIL, then have very strong opinions about little things… like a cot being near a bay window… (it will be too cold and she thinks we need to rearrange our whole small bedroom but not happening).

And my partner’s Eastern European family keep asking what the name will be. We keep saying it will be a surprise & you’ll find out after birth. They keep telling us to let them know when we decide. We won’t. You can find out after the baby is born. We will choose without input, thank you.

And I have a friend who has no idea about any of this but feels the need to try be a ray of sunshine instead of offering empathy. I’ve had weekends were I’ve been down about unpacking still not done, kitchen a mess and I’m vomiting, feeling nauseous, and napping. She tells me “you can do it” and “just power through” and gives silly advice like “have you thought of hiring a cleaner”. We have been trying to hire a cleaner since moving with no luck.

When I was stressed about not being ready for a baby she suggest I go with my partner to “the baby stuff shop” and just buy everything🤦‍♀️. She didn’t understand that when I say my partner works every day, I mean every day. His last day off was 1st Jan. His next day off is Easter Sunday. And there isn’t just one shop that sells everything where we live. And some things require research

(Rant over.)

@TheBirdintheCave ugh, I will DEFINITELY not miss the kicking!!! 😂

@CollsR oh man, one of my best friends, before I got pregnant kept saying things like "are you sure you want to have a baby? Its miserable, its so hard, blah blah blah". They are now trying for a 3rd 🙄Then I got pregnant. "Oh lets hope its a boy, girls are such hard work!!!" Not even 3 months later, shes ready to throw her boy in the bin, cause hes being an absolutelt nightmare (and he girl continues being the same shes always been!).

I honestly dont care how hard it will be. Not having a child was not an option (or at least not trying to have one!)

@PollywithaP Ive been lucky that I havent had any comments on my bump. neither about being big or small!

@ASGIRC People say such stupid things sometimes. Not trying for a child was never my path in life either. It’s not written in stone if boys or girls are easier. I think we all know it’s going to be hard at times but it’s something we want and have worked hard towards. Really unnecessary.

@PollywithaP I’ve also been lucky to have few bump comments. Sounds very annoying.

When we have pregnancy hormones people should think a bit more & try give less useless input.

Overall Im not going to miss being pregnant.

@CollsR exactly! At one point I did say to this friend that her input was not going to change my mind. This was something I had been planning and working towards for a long time. She shut up about it then! But it didnt stop her making other comments 😂

Shes been better since I got pregnant, apart from that one boy comment. And I told her she better hope it was a girl, as it was my very strong preference😂

I was bracing myself for the news it was a boy at my gender scan. I know I would have been ok with it, eventually, but I would have been a blow. Fortunately, my 3AA was definitely a girl, like predicted by studies! LOL (60% chance of 3s being girls, as they develop slower in the early stages!)

But in general the only unsolicited advice Ive gotten has been about reusable nappies... How Im gonna regret it, how it is so much work... I ask them if theyre the ones washing the nappies. When they say no, I tell them to stuff it then! LOL

@ASGIRC Lol. Good your friend quietened down! Very glad you have the girl you were hoping to have! That’s lovely & your friend can really shush now!

My SIL is Romanian & a bit superstitious. Thankfully she lives in another country.

Oh my days hi everyone. I’m not sure what happened. I stopped getting email updates and then lost the thread lol
here I am anyway 31 weeks today!
how’s everyone doing?
some of you seem to have your births planned, I haven’t done my plan yet.
I had gestational diabetes test, all good. My only thing is low iron, and having aspirin and clexhane for my gloopy blood.
I bled from my clexhane site last weekend which freaked me out. All ok though!

I have managed to not find out what I’m having. Although am tempted!

Advice and comments from other people, Jesus why do people think they are like the gods of knowing all things baby cos they popped out one child. Super annoying. Thanks Karen but every birth is different and amazingly I had actually considered things before I spent thousand of pounds to get this baby so I’m good thanks! I’m fully prepared and happy to take the rough with the smooth!
also many people telling me my bump looks big was upsetting me because I thought it meant there was something wrong but then I realised it’s fine and it’s probably fluid.

anyway baby kicking me nicely on the inside and I’m looking forward to meeting them!

I’ve got lots of scans and things coming up and I’m getting extra preparation help due to my adhd and I’m a bit thick with practical things lol

I am feeling quite sure I don’t want to be induced now but I obviously don’t want to risk anything harming baby. I have a list of questions for my next consultant appointment.

Hope everyone is doing well anyway! Not long to go ladies!

@CazzyM1983 Welcome back! But can we please not use that slur? It's so horrible to see your own name being used to mean a dreadful person :(

@CazzyM1983 Welcome back. 31 weeks! Wow, you’re a few weeks ahead of me. It’s getting closer to the end.

It is crazy that just because someone had a kid first they think they are an expert on all. Some people have nice hints or tips. Some are just silly!

One good bit of advice I have gotten.. from someone who waited until I asked… said always change/check the baby’s nappy before a feeding. That way if the feeding puts the baby to sleep you don’t have to wake it to change the nappy.

@ASGIRC oh god, I’d be annoyed by all those opinions too. I’ve already been told I don’t need to go back to work and put the baby in nursery (I definitely do or we’ll be broke!) and I don’t need to worry about pensions (???) and I’ve been told how I have eczema and asthma because my mother didn’t breastfeed. Pfffft. My grandad had it too and he was definitely breastfed but ok thanks for letting me know. I don’t even know if I can breastfeed or will want to, I realised I had surgery on both breasts over the years, one biopsy and one large lump removed and some minor reconstructive surgery. Will be taking ready to feed formula to the hospital with me just so I can get out of there.

I have also had no bump comments. It’s mostly hidden under my coat though.

I finally saw a decent midwife last week. She called me at 6.30pm Friday to say she’ll refer me to the birth choices team, finally! Also said they can’t offer me more scans, not a surprise. I bet so many mums are older and ivf in London that a lot of trusts have decided to not bother because it saves money. Oh well.

@KG1244 we’re off to John Lewis tomorrow for our appointment, I’m a little excited now.

Oh, and maybe I’m jumping the gun a little, but we bought this big giraffe (and a mini one also from H&M) for the nursery. We started picking up a few clothes and sleep suits here and there, I’m so relieved H&M do a good range of colours compared to a lot of shops.

@thislittlebird Why would you be jumping the gun??
You are over half way done with pregnancy! There is no jumping the gun, anymore.

I had an OB appointment and while the date isnt set in stone yet, as the doctor had to check her calendar better, my schedules c section is likely to be on the 20th of March. IN A MONTH!!!!!! Which is exactly what I wanted (well, I wanted thr 21st, so that it is Spring, she said shed try it, but shes working elsewhere that day, so it might not be possible. Thats ok, though!)

BUT, she is on board with me having my baby at 38 weeks (I didnt know if she would be some docs prefer 39), so IN A MONTH I WILL HAVE A BABY. A BABY! IN A MONTH!!!! LOL

I feel slightly... hysterical! LOL Youre never ready, but I am as ready as can be, and even more so to not be pregnant and in pain anymore! ONE MONTH TO GO!!!!

@thislittlebird The giraffe is cuuute!
@ASGIRC A MONTH!!!! So exciting 👶

@ASGIRC A month! My lord that is incredibly soon! So exciting though :D

@thislittlebird Cute giraffe!