Bonking our way to BFPs: rainbow babies due Spring/Summer 24'

[Kewchoc]

@Amberellalina
@Liz2681
@Agathapoirot
@tlw14
@HashB

Hello ladies!! I feel like I've forgotten someone but not sure who?!

Oh phew, I’m so pleased for you - and baby too ☺️ hopefully you will sleep well tonight!!

Thanks both 😊 I do feel better but also still feel anxious but I suppose that's normal. I do also feel incredibly sexy after the sonographer wrote on my report that she was unable to check my ovaries due to excessive bowel gas and then the nurse who I saw afterwards sat telling me how to ease gas and constipation in pregnancy 🤣🤣 so glamorous!!!

@Kewchoc So so pleased it all went well for you !

Hi everyone! Would you mind if I join? I've read through the thread and resonate so much with what everyone is going through! I'm 5+3 with a surprise bubba. Had planned a break from TTC until the new year after 3 losses this year. The last one was at Halloween. I wasn't tracking or anything and must have ovulated a bit late and here I am. The fact it's happened when I wasn't trying at all (had had couple of very hot baths, some wine...) makes me feel slightly hopeful like this one is meant to be here... But as you can all imagine I also daren't quite hope. EPU have booked me in for a scan 2 weeks today and I think it being right before Christmas is going to be extra emotional!

Hope everyone is doing well! X

@SnookyPook Welcome! I think i might have seen your name on a few other threads!

Congratulations, how exciting you will get a scan just before christmas too.

You been feeling ok?

I am 9 weeks now, still did a pregnancy test this morning haha! Got a really strong positive line which i was hoping for as i've read that hcg level peak around now.

Hi everyone. I am tentatively writing this, 7 weeks and 3/4 days. Two mmc in two years and many months of trying in between. I am so anxious and scared all the time. My scan on Tuesday well, baby measured perfectly and heartbeat was great. Last night had a tiny bit of brown blood when i wiped after a wee. Just so worried its all going to go wrong. Miscarriage is so cruel. It robs you of future pregnancy happiness xx

@SnookyPook and @Milamight welcome! Sorry for your losses and congratulations on your new pregnancies. I’m 8+6 today, suffering horribly with sickness and finding regular scans extremely helpful for managing my post-mc anxiety.

Booked the NIPT (which comes with a scan) for a week on Monday so that’ll be my next time under the machine!

@tlw14 god I hope the hcg is peaking - so will hopefully start going down soon! Really could have done without being so ill over Christmas but baby will be worth it…

Welcome to the new joiners 😊 I’ve found the thread invaluable, it’s comforting knowing I’m not alone it these mix of emotions!

I’m 12 weeks tomorrow, with my dating scan on Tuesday and I’m counting down the days so we can tell some people! We’ve bought pregnancy announcement Christmas cards for my family that we can put a scan picture in and we’re travelling to them next weekend so I’m just hoping that all goes well and we can use them 🤞🏼

Are any of you planning on share the news at Christmas time or waiting until further along?

@Agathapoirot how exciting! I'm really not sure - will only be 8wks at Christmas. Have a scan on 21st so if it goes well we might want to share some good news after our tough year. However if possible it would be lovely to be all the way through the 1st trimester...

Can totally understand that, we didn’t intend to wait until 12 weeks, but it’s just kind of happened! I’ve found it strangely easier to not have the pressure of telling people how scans have got etc, and to just quietly get through it the two of us.

The only person who knows is my manager so I could have time off for appointments 🤣 and I knew he’d be supportive and happy for me after the mmc earlier this year.

Welcome to both new ladies and sorry to hear about your losses, it's so heartbreaking but you've joined the best thread as we're all in very similar boats. It also appears to be a very lucky thread so I have hope that both of your current pregnancies will be sticky ones!

Regarding telling people at Christmas, I'm also undecided. I'll be 11 weeks on Christmas Eve, so not tooooo far away from being out of the first trimester but given that my loss was at 12 weeks I think I'll find the run up to the 12 week scan quite stressful without having people ask questions etc. however I am getting another private scan the week before Christmas, so I might change my mind if that scan all goes okay. Symptom wise, apart from sore boobs they have all pretty much dwindled over the last week which I'm trying not to worry about as obviously had my scan this week and all was perfect. Maybe I'm just going to be lucky and not struggle with difficult symptoms again!

@Kewchoc would that put you at 12wks for New Year? Maybe you could do a New Year reveal to people instead and start 2024 on a real high?

@Agathapoirot yeah I get that wanting to quietly get through it all and not have to update others etc. Tiny superstitious part of me feels comfortable with that too as my DS was a lockdown baby and we were in our own bubble until after 12wk scan and that is the one that went fine... Which I know is ridiculous in one way but 🤷🏼‍♀️

Hiii everyone. Can I join your chat? This is my 3rd pregnancy in 2023. Had 2 missed miscarriages where heart stopped at 9 weeks… I am currently 9+5 days and am absolutely paranoid that heart has stopped again.. :( I have a scan booked at 10+1 but I don’t know how to get through the next few days!

@Ingridika oh bless you 😞 so sorry for your losses this year and absolutely get the nerves. Just remember this is a completely new pregnancy and hopefully this one is your little rainbow baby 🙏🏼🌈 (why are we able to be so wise on behalf of others and it all goes to pot with ourselves?! Will absolutely be needing you to repeat this advice back to me before my scan in a couple of weeks!)

Had a scan today. Baby measuring 9+4 so fine, saw the heartbeat and even saw some little arms and legs moving!

came home and I’ve got a slight tinge of blood. Feeling really really negative and paranoid now!!!

@tlw14 aw that's wonderful news about the scan! I'm sure the tiny bit of blood is nothing sinister after seeing strong heartbeat and limbs moving etc. Was it an internal scan? Might it have irritated your cervix a bit? X

@SnookyPook no it wasn’t.
I know it could be a number of things but can’t help but think the worst is going to happen now. It’s deffo taken the joy out of seeing everything so well earlier

Aw bless you. I completely get it. My first scan is booked in for when I'm 7+3, and even if it all looked perfect, I know that my MMC stopped developing at 7+5 so I feel like it won't really stop those fears. I think we have to try our best to be mindful and trust that it's all going well until we find out otherwise. But it's so hard to do when you also want to guard your heart 😌

@SnookyPook that’s what I kept telling during the second pregnancy, third time around too hard to believe in good outcome!
hope your scan goes well in few weeks!

Welcome @Ingridika, sorry for your losses and congrats on your new pregnancy. Hello everyone else!

Totally feeling the anxiety - I have told some people, because it was hard to hide the throwing up 😂 and whenever they ask how it’s going I always say ‘Everything was fine as of <last scan date> and I’ve got another scan booked to check how it’s going on <next scan date>’ it will be nice to get past 12 weeks so I can hopefully just say ‘fine’ when asked 😂

@Kewchoc looks like you’ve got lucky with the symptoms then, you should be able to properly enjoy Christmas ☺️.

@Agathapoirot love the idea of the pregnancy announcement Christmas cards. My money is on your SIL to cry the most 😂.

Oh 100% she’s going to be so happy, and we’ll have a decent chunk of overlapping maternity leave which I’m super excited for!

That said, I’m getting very anxious about Tuesdays appointment, just trying to remind myself that we saw a heartbeat and healthy baby a week ago. I didn’t sleep last night for thinking about it 🫣 Works busy tomorrow so hopefully that’ll flyby and it’ll be here before we know it 🤞🏼

Going to tell my partners family on Thursday evening and mine on Saturday. If all goes welll, this time next week I can relax and stop watching everything I say!! 🤣

Everyone had good weekends? Any scans/appointments coming up this week?

Morning all... 6wks today. The anxiety has ramped up a bit the last couple of days. I think now the shock of the BFP has worn off, the reality that I'm pregnant again and navigating all those emotions has set in.

I'm past CP territory so already past my second loss timeframe. The most recent one was 7wks but I had dodgy HCG throughout and never really felt pregnant. HCG not monitored this time but I do feel more symptoms so hopefully there is a developing pregnancy. That said, my symptoms aren't as intense as they were with my DS pregnancy. And I know every pregnancy can be different but I feel like this one most resembles the one from my MMC and that is unnerving me. I know it's not helpful to compare but ok really struggling not to overthink it.

How did you guys navigate the early weeks? Most of you seem to be almost through 1st trimester now... Do you have any words of wisdom?! Or is it just keep taking it day by day and hope for the best? I know a certain level of being fatalistic is required. This is either my rainbow baby or it's not... But gosh it's hard.

Hope everyone is doing ok 🙏🏼💕🌈

@Agathapoirot think your appointment is today? Really hope it goes well for you 💕

@SnookyPook sorry to hear that your anxiety is high today. Sending a hug x

I basically did an easy@home pregnancy test every two days to check my hcg was rising (I.e. lines getting darker, then appearing more quickly) until the sickness kicked in and it was blindingly obvious my hcg was sky high.

Are you going for a scan this week? I’ve been finding them really helpful…

I know what you mean about comparing to previous pregnancies, but I really found that I couldn’t reliably remember the timeline from when I was pregnant with DD. Maybe it’s the same for you - and when you’re head down the toilet this time next week you’ll be like: ‘Ah, there it is!’ 😂

@Amberellaella I have a scan next week (21st) so a little while longer to wait! That's another thing, I was actually really lucky with DS, I had nausea but no sickness! Probably fatigue was my main trimester 1 symptom! I'm hoping I'm feeling it less now because I'm used to running on fumes now I have a toddler!! So yeah, I definitely had bad nausea which I think hadn't quite kicked in yet by this point, but I never had the head down a toilet thing.. which I know is a blessing but weirdly part of me feels like that would be reassuring at this point! Can't win eh?!

Thanks for the hug! X