Due May 2024? Part 2

[Nina7]

Hi all, just continuing the previous thread.

@Holdmysunhat I got the seasickness bands you suggested, I think they're great!!

Thanks all!

I think I will give them a ring later today / tomorrow and see if they can help in anyway.

I have some health issues anyway and now I'm really getting worked up over being judged (I really need to get my big girl pants on!)

12 weeks for me today and got my 12 week scan this Thursday at 12 +3.

also found at that due to a metabolic condition I have (PKU) that I get a secondary scan at 20 weeks at a different hospital for fetal cardiology. 20 weeks is spot on Christmas Day so I wonder if it will come forward or go back a bit

Hi all!

im 11w + 2 days - extremely emotional, no morning sickness just tiredness mainly!
However I am sick and tired of people asking if im ok, or trying to give me advice - i just don’t want to hear it! Anyone else feel the same?

we didn’t tell anyone until the weekend just gone and even then it was just parents so been spared this luckily!

How are people doing on the keeping active front?
I'm 10 +5. Last couple of weeks I've really become sedentary some days it was because of nausea but sometimes I feel like it's just laziness and because I work from home I know I need to get out more but just need the motivation and not hide behind pregnancy. Grateful for any motivation tips!

@GratefulMum10 im the same as you! Feeling v guilty that I’m not doing anything other than walking (I walk about 3 miles a day pushing my two children to nursery and back in the pram). I swore to myself at the start of this pregnancy that I’d spend 15-20 mins every day doing strengthening and stretching just on a mat at home - I found my last pregnancy so hard on my back and wanted to prepare myself better this time, but I’ve felt so exhausted and nauseous that I haven’t!!
I listened to a Birth Ed podcast about pre-natal exercise at the weekend which was worth a listen. There are good free videos on YouTube with tuition… I just need to psyche myself up (maybe in another couple of weeks once the nausea has hopefully passed)! Maybe we can encourage each other….

@Rose5555 sounds great. Just reading your message has pushed me to do 15mins yoga this morning.
Also well done on the walking that definitely helps. good you have something that forces you to get out.

@GratefulMum10 well done!!! That’s great. I feel like 15 mins yoga a day throughout pregnancy would definitely make a difference!! Glad you managed to do it. I will try to force myself today too!!

Morning lovely ladies! Hoping youre all okay and you're symptoms are easing at this point. 10+2 today, had a good scan on Saturday and now allowing myself to fantasise about telling people! Only my parents and brothers know at the moment, i was wondering how and when you were planning to announce/ tell friends and wider family? Or maybe you have done it already? I know you have to do what's right for you but it's such an exciting moment I'd love to know what you're all doing x x

Also thank you! Your post made me do a short pilates session. I feel much better after it too. Exercise has gone out of the window here since week 6, other than short walks as I was either feeling so exhausted or had the terribly cold/virus that was doing the rounds. Now 11+2

I'm waiting for NIPT results (privately, before my 12 week scan next week as I'm 40 and first time pregnancy) and need every single distraction I can find as I'm worried sick.

When I found out I was pregnant I was all "I'm going to be really active so I don't gain too much weight and recovery will be easier and I'll be a strong healthy mum blah blah" - it went out the window so quickly.

Doing my best but I've been so tired and had two horrible colds so there have been weeks where I've done nothing and (fewer) weeks where I've done 10,000 steps a day and 3-4 workouts... as frustrating as it is I'm just trying to listen to my body and not overdo anything.

'bumpsandburpees' is a good instagram account to follow, and I listened to a podcast with an ultra marathon runner and peloton instructor who said on the days you can't face doing anything, do a 10 minute walk or stretching - you might then feel up to doing more and you might not, and both are fine, so I'm trying to live by that!

Thanks for the tips ladies and so comforting that others are in the same boat. hoping it all eases up in the next couple of weeks. Reading the messages makes me think we shouldn't be too hard on ourselves. Even 10mins a day is better than nothing and we should overdo it anyway given vulnerabilities in this trimester.
I'm telling myself In the grand scheme of things it's a few weeks at worst hopefully and then can do something however small rest of the time

@Nelliepledge congrats on the scan! It definitely is comforting.
In terms of telling ppl in first pregnancy we told the parents at 9 weeks but then we had a missed miscarriage in June (discovered at 12 week scan). In hindsight we didn't have any scans before and wish I had.

So we are super cautious this time round. I feel like it's taken the excitement innocence away I had the first time. I've only told my mum and this time we got a reassurance scan at 7+5 all was well and fingers crossed now for dating scan in couple of weeks. we haven't decided for sure when we will tell ppl. Maybe parents at 14 weeks and most other ppl at 20. There's no right answer as it is so personal. I think once we have the dating scan will allow ourselves to think beyond the point we got to last time.

@Nelliepledge we told parents and siblings at 11+5 after having a scan at 10+2 and seeing heartbeat and CRL being on timeline for that scan.

telling people doesn’t change the result of the pregnancy and we figured we would tell people who we would need their support if anything went wrong.

We are 20w on Xmas day so will likely tell distant family and friends then

Hi Ladies,

Just checking in - as far as exercise goes, Im currently aiming for 8000 steps a day (I wasnt a typical work out person anyway), hopefully once the tiredness / sickness subsidies I can get back to going out for walks etc abit more.

As for telling people, we are currently 10+1 and haven't told anybody yet - We have our dating scan at 12+0 so hopefully we will tell our children after that ... we have decided that we wont "officially" tell them and have tshirts which we are just going to put on their beds when they are at school and see if they "twig".

We will tell family on a need to know basis (We aren't close to either family - and dont want them using baby as a way of coming back into our lives when we have all recently found a happy medium) and friends will be when we see them etc although our youngest will probably tell most of them anyway.

@Nelliepledge We have our 12 week scan tomorrow and will tell close friends after that if it's all still good. Close family already know. Everyone else can know after 20 weeks.

We’re being quite useless about keeping it quiet! You’ve all been so good about it, but I have found it impossible this time for some reason. I think maybe because I already have two little ones I just feel like I really need the support and understanding of those closest to me -when I’m tired, grumpy, hormonal, nauseous etc! I have taken the approach that if we lost the pregnancy, we would tell those people too. I haven’t had a scan yet - in my first two pregnancies I had bleeding (5 weeks and then 9 weeks), so had EPU scans. This time - nothing. I am 11 weeks today and my 12 week scan is Tuesday so praying everything is ok and just counting the days!!

Ps. I’m curious - have any of you who have had the NIPT found out gender, or does anyone have any strong ‘gut feelings’ either way? With my last two I think I had a pretty strong feeling about both of them… particularly my daughter who I just knew in my bones was a girl. But this time I feel completely clueless. We’ve decided we probably won’t find out, but I am spending a LOT of time wondering!

@Rose5555 I keep thinking of mine as a girl, I have no idea why. I'd like a surprise but my partner said he'd like to know, we'll need to talk about it more but I think I could be persuaded to find out!

@Rose5555 We had the NIPT but didn't find out the sex. In an ideal world I'd like a girl so we have one of each but I don't want to feel disappointed if we find out it's a boy. I'd rather know when baby is born and then I'm sure I'll be thrilled either way.

I think of mine as a boy, maybe just because I have a son already and the pregnancy symptoms feel similar. I’d love a girl though.

Over the last week or so I’ve been struggling to convince myself that this pregnancy is real. I think maybe it’s nerves about the 12 week scan and my fears about a missed miscarriage or some other issue being picked up.

If it goes well I think it will be like finding out I’m pregnant all over again. We will start thinking about telling people if that ends up being the case.

Does anyone else have the same fears about the 12 week scan?

@PeppedUp Yep. I've seen the baby three times and our 12 week scan is tomorrow but I'm STILL terrified that something might have happened.

We are convinced it’s a boy for some reason! My NHS area don’t tell you the sex so we’ve got a private scan booked at 16 weeks to find out.

My partner wants to find out but not tell anyone. I think I’ll find it really hard to not say anything and both our mums are also convinced it’s a boy so I think we’ll end up telling family so they know if their guesses are right or not.

Don’t mind what we get as long as they’re healthy, they’ll have one girl cousin and five boys so would be a lot of boys if our thoughts are right 🙈

I've felt similar, with my oldest 2 I felt pregnant as soon as I found out and thought a lot about it but this time I feel like my life hasn't even changed and it's not on my mind as much. It feels like it's not happening. I have been extremely anxious in this pregnancy though, due to spotting for 2 weeks between weeks 5-7.

I went to the EPU and they found a sac but no baby or yolk sac and said it could be early miscarriage, and that i have to wait 2 weeks for a rescan. I went back and luckily everything had grown and there was a heartbeat, but I found it all very upsetting and traumatic to the point I still can't fully enjoy it.

I have my 12 week scan tomorrow, I'll be 13+2 and I can't stop worrying about something being wrong.

Seems there are a few of us with 12wk scans tomorrow! Wishing everyone the very best of luck, I’m nervous too. I’ve actually felt quite low this past week or so and can’t put my finger on why, maybe hormones, maybe seasonal. Hopefully the scan tomorrow will be the boost I need:)

In terms of sharing the news- we have told our parents/siblings, for the same reasons really, I thought I’d want to keep everything very private but realised quite quickly I just needed a bit of moral support however things turned out.

Hoping to tell our close friends and some close family at the weekend if all goes well tomorrow. Probably wait a bit longer to share with anyone else. We haven’t done anything outrageous but it was fun displaying a babygro in our spare room for my mum to find.

hope everyone is doing well. Weirdly I would say my toughest time so far has been this past week or two when I expected to feel a little more normal again. But hey ho! Looking fwd to tomorrow :)

Good luck to everyone with their scans tomorrow, such an exciting day! I had mine last Friday but they were a mm too short for the measurements/tests to be done so I get to see them again on Friday. I only saw them 5 days ago but I’m still terrified something could have happened. Please tell me it gets easier 🙏🏼