Due October 2023 Thread 9

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Hi ladies, I couldn’t find another thread made, so made this as the other one was full. I will try tag a few people … if you can also tag.

@peonygirl you are definitely not alone with the enmotions.

Baby girl is 5 days old today and I have cried so much in the last 2 days. I’m emotional over silly things but also positive things like how good my husband is being, how cute the baby looks, etc.

Completely hormonal I think 😅
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@AlongcameLainey oh that's a relief to hear! I just don't recognize myself like that and on top of it all my little boy gives me these judgmental looks like saying "oh geez, get a grip" :) Honestly, he's having this adult look in his eyes like he knows we are alone and he can play me each way he wants lol.

@peonygirl bless you. Right there with you on all of this!

my three y/o girl tells me to count to 5 and take a deep breath 😅🤣

@xLMCx so it seems you were in the same boat as I was last Friday, although I did not get offered a second sweep, might be because I was already over my due date? I’m being induced on Thursday if nothing happens naturally 🫣

@Sagittarius25 congratulations ✨🤍🤍🤍

@NSx yeah, that may have been the reason but I honestly did not expect to get squeezed in for another go. In all fairness, just because I'm booked in again it doesn't mean that she'll play ball 🤣

I have everything crossed for you for a spontaneous delivery🤞🏻

@xLMCx thats it, u just don’t know! Thank you, I’m hoping for the same, preparing for the worst though 😂😂😂😂😂😂 …. Good luck, keep me posted on how you get on

Happy wee hours of the morning if anyone else is on-night two at home (of three total) and my little one is not up for letting me sleep this eve. He’ll be breastfeeding for 3-7 mins then fall asleep then wake up as soon as I put him down (we got an hour earlier and half an hour just now but that’s been it all night). I’m knackered - anyone else had this?

@FirstTimeMamaAtHalloween Very similar. 3 days old and feeding for a lot longer but falls asleep, I put him down, he wakes again hungry. Exhausting. My first was like yours. He would fall asleep very quickly but still be hungry. If he dozed off during the feed, I was advised to do things like gently blow on his face, stroke his cheek, tickle his feet, to rouse him again so that he could get more food in one sitting and then hopefully sleep longer. Another option is to change his nappy before his feed to wake him up a bit more or to take some of his clothes off to make him a bit less cozy. Hope something there helps!

If anyone has any tips for a poor latch, please send them my way. I'm in agony every time my boy feeds and I really struggle with the physical practice of breastfeeding. I don't seem to be able to repeat something that works. My nipples are bruised.

@Greetingsfellows the latch was agonising for me too until maybe day 7. It would make my toes curl and I was thinking how the hell am I meant to put up with this 😂 but after a week I woke up and the pain had just gone as if my body had got used to it. So I’d just say persevere for now and use a good nipple cream!

Ladies - have you checked for tongue tie? My little one had it and was missed. His latch was poor and he got so tired so quickly as feeding was so hard for him! Turns out he had a really bad tongue tie, then was underweight and jaundice so turned into a vicious cycle ...
Just a thought ☺️☺️ but have a look and/or get the midwives to check!
Agree with nappy change, I do mine half way through (but he is now 4 weeks) just as he gets sleepy!!

Also - try nipple shields if pain is bad ..
Make sure bubba has a huuuuge open mouth and use your hand to basically force their mouth into a full face of boob!!
Breast feeding not nipple feeding is the best advice I received and he latched a lot better once I shoved his face into my boob 😂😂😂😂😂

@katherine123x i was so surprised at the force the midwife used to shove baby onto the boob with my first! Does the trick though. Tickling their nose with the nipple is a good trick for getting them to open wide and reach up too.

sorry to hear about the tongue tie, is it something you can have treated easily in your area? Here they only do it privately but I have heard of a Dr who will come to the house. I know friends who have had to travel quite far. I really don’t know why they can’t just check all babies in hospital as it’s something that causes so much stress for Mums and babies.

@katherine123x thank you! He’s defo latching enough, and nappies are on track which is great-I wonder if it’s maybe just my milk starting to change?

hope all our Halloween baby members are doing well! I’ve sent my other half up for a nap, he takes such great care of me but has to be reminded that this is exhausting for him too-he was comforting me in the night when I just felt like baby would never sleep and took him down for two hours so I could catch up earlier - my hero.

Bit of a TMI win today, first postpartum, post episiotomy and second degree tear poo today! Terrifying but genuinely feel like I’ve done something mega impressive 😂

@Koalawhala we had it done on the nhs as they could get him in but would have happily paid if required. It made such a difference!!

Just we had an awful first week because of it and really made me emotional and I shout it from the rooftops to anyone now as it was so easily missed. The midwife said another day or so and potential hospital for being underweight due to not getting enough food from the boob. Which 5 days postpartum made me feel absolutely awful ....

@katherine123x this is my story - little Theo had a tongue tie, it was fixed today after not being properly agreed on between medical professionals since birth. We've been to the pediatrics for weight loss, we've been cluster feeding, I fed him formula as just not enough milk, I was so stressed and worried that my body just gave in. Today I was told I did amazingly well with a tongue-tie baby and need to now get my milk back, so I express every 2h, still feeding him every 2h. I am beyond exhausted but hopeful it will now regulate his milk intake. He's been latching on from the start but not swallowing much, he seems to now need less milk because he gets better intake. I hope it also helps him with digestive issues - lots of wet/dirty nappies but quite a volatile explosive poo. It is a hard journey for the little ones as much as it is for us.

@peonygirl bless you!!
Well done for getting it sorted and persevering with the feeding!
It is an emotional journey for sure!!

@peonygirl you have been through the mill, so it’s no wonder you are feeling extra emotional. Tongue ties and subsequent weight loss are so frustrating (I know as I had to wait 3 weeks for my first son’s to be cut), but now it is you will see so much improvement over the next few days and week.

I am also very weepy, but partly because I have had a big fall out with my parents. Tbh it occurred in my first trimester but things have rumbled on and we’re now at the point where I’m not seeing or speaking to them except to facilitate them picking up my older son so that he can still see them. I’m trying not to let it get me down too much but it’s been really tough to deal with at such an emotional time.

I’m incredibly lucky that my partner has been able to take a full month off work though and been around to help with our son but also to cheer me up a bit.

@xLMCx we’re officially having November babies now 😂… how did that happen?
I am now exactly 1 week overdue 🫠🫠🫠🫠

@NSx oh lordy I know! I have absolutely knackered myself out taking my son trick or treating last night in a last ditch attempt for October with no joy 😂

I'm only on the first day of being overdue and I'm already done, how are you feeling?

I'm booked in for an induction on 07/11 so I think I'm going to come last in race for this thread! Also I feel cheated as 3/4 ladies had Halloween babies on the November thread - not salty at all 🤣

@PrimarilyParented this sounds really tough especially at such a vulnerable time. Glad to hear your partner has the extra time to support you. I am so grateful for my husband right now too. I think he's also the one with more parental instinct... he wakes up at every fuss and has so much patience with our son.
@peonygirl nothing has been easy with your little one has it? I hope you don't feel any guilt about supplementing breast milk, and that he keeps thriving under all that hard work.
@NSx and @xLMCx - I feel for you both!! You'll still be accepted here, don't worry 😉

@xLMCx I am not going over to the November thread 😂 I don’t have it in me. I’m being induced tomorrow so will see what happens. Clearly buba is too comfy in there. I was supposed to be 25/10 so wasn’t exactly dangling off at the end 😂😂 I didn’t particularly want a 31/10 baby so I’m not too sad 😂😂😂 … how are you feeling?
@cruciverbalista thank you, I feel like the logistics of October/November won’t matter when baby is here eventually 😂😂😃😃

@cruciverbalista aww thank you 🥰

@NSx oh gosh, I would have loved to have a Halloween baby! My absolute favourite event and you get the best party every year with dress up 🤣 alas, it was not meant to be!

How are you feeling about being induced tomorrow? My date is a week away and I can only imagine a mixed bag of feelings!

I'm feeling achey today from the walking last night so currently having a rest day catching up on TV shows with lots of goodies to make me feel better haha!

I thought I had avoided the emotional days as they came earlier last time but it’s hit me this week. Tried to do too much for our older two at Halloween yesterday, pumpkin carving and c section wounds don’t mix well! They had a great time and went trick or treating with my husband, just frustrating feeling like I’m ready to do more but still having to take it easy.

Coincided with my Dad visiting for the first time and me being an emotional wreck when he arrived. I know it will pass but it’s horrible not being in control of your emotions isn’t it, also feeling anxious which doesn’t help!

@peonygirl so pleased that you’ve found the cause of the feeding struggles - hopefully onwards and upwards for you both now. You’re doing such a great job of advocating for you and baby

I'm also feeling a bit emotional today. Still tired as baby doesn't like going down at night, also ended up anaemic after losing so much blood in surgery, still sore from a rough c section having to be stitched up quickly due to blood loss, I'm blood constipated due to the meds (codeine, iron, dihydrocodeine, blood thinners), I've ended up with thrush in my mouth, I can't sit/stand/roll without a drama, my feet are like elephants feet and I'm still wearing the compression socks which make me very warm in the night and on top of all this baby hasn't pood for two days so I'm beside myself with worry although he is very happy and content... sleeps all day and screams all night so don't think it's hunger but still a worry. Baby also has double hip dysplacia so waiting for a referral (more worry 😞) and then to top it off they've invited me for hearing test and now I'm panicking he can't hear... which is just stupid and based on nothing but I'm just emotional and burst into tears before and my partner thought he had done something.

You are not alone ladies ❤️