Due January 2024, Part 7!

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Thought better make a new one!

@Ttcdcno1 good for you, you can’t please everyone and that’s definitely okay!

We won’t be co-sleeping, I don’t think that’s right for us.

I hoping this one will feed then sleep in the crib, praying 🙏🏻 but I’m not against cosleeping if it means not battling all night. Been there first time and I feel like I was on the verge of some kind of psychosis. It’s also important to be aware around the safety aspects of cosleepiNg. When I worked in community, 90% of the women that came in on day 5-8 were doing some form of cosleeping, mainly unsafe because it was drilled in to them that they shouldn’t do it so hadn’t looked it up. But what to do when baby wants direct contact with you to sleep at a few days old and doesn’t fancy being in a cold cot on their own. Once I went through it with them, the relief was immense.

going to see my best friend today and her month old baby. Super excited 🥰🥰 her baby feeds 3hourly and sleeps, then feeds from 10pm until 2am, then intermittently sleeps for an hour at a time until 7am. I’m dreading the lack of sleep again followed by school runs.

The positive birth company are doing a free hypnobirthing masterclass tonight at 7pm. I saw it advertised on insta. Just go on their IG page, click the link in the bio and there is a link there to sign up to it

@Mummyme87 i saw that, hopefully i'll manage to go to the next one as we have a scan tonight at 6.30 so won't manage at 7! love that page though!

here's me over here just assuming my baby will sleep in the crib and sleep for a few hour stretches! we shall see 😂We have only one bedroom so I think co sleeping would be difficult for us without husband having to go on the sofa which i don't think he'll be up for since he'll still have to go to work, but maybe after a few sleepless nights that might work better for him! 😆

Re the breastfeeding, i'm planning to, but right now no one gets near the nipples so i'm hoping that that goes away when there's a baby on them! otherwise it's going to be a tough one!!

Anyone else feeling utterly exhausted?!

I'll be 24 weeks tomorrow and I could sleep all day. I have a 15 month old so it's tiring taking care of her especially if she's up through the night.

All I can think about most days is how I can fit a nap in or how early I can go to bed

@flowerpot258 I am tired, not sleeping well doesn’t help, but I’m not as exhausted as I was 1st trimester into early 2nd trimester. That was another level. But I don’t have a 15month old to contend with!! I take my hat off to anyone who can do this whilst having toddlers at home. My two are hard enough!!

@suz2285 you never know, you might be blessed with a sleeper, but then wanting to be a koala baby is totally normal. My second born was a wake twice in the night, slept in his cosleeper crib, I thought I struck gold, then 12weeks hit and boom. All gone 😑 look into the 4th trimester, it’s an absolute thing!!!

DS2 vomited again last night about 9.30 after being fine since Monday morning. Then I remembered he ate two satsumas on Sunday evening then a couple of hours later was unwell. He ate two satsumas from the same bag last night also, then couple of hours later wouldn’t eat his dinner and said his tummy felt strange. I wonder if they were dodgy satsumas?

My last child wouldn't sleep anywhere except next to me. My husband slept on a sofa bed for a year. He has always been a very cuddly child. He still likes to sit on my knee, hold hands etc and he's six now. I'm hoping this one sleeps in his cot lol we have no room for a sofa bed anymore 😅

I'm another one who isn't planning on breastfeeding.

@Mummyme87 yeah, we shall see what happens, i won't hold my breath for much sleep but least i don't have to get up and go to work!

All of our blooming antenatal classes are still online here so not even sure i'll have many mum friends! Which sucks, but i imagine during covid people still made local friends right??

Re your Son - i read a thread on here the other day about a weird bug going around, kids were randomly sick, then seemingly better then 48 hours later sick again, then better, and some of them had gone on for a week or 2 weeks with the same pattern! Not sure if it could be something like that? Though dodgy satsuma's could be the culprit you never know! 😂

Also on the cosleeping. My DH always slept in our bed still, I mainly kept baby on the outside of the bed in between me and the crib. He rarely slept in the spare bed.

@suz2285 urgh hope it’s not that bug. I feel the satsumas are a bit of a coincidence, he’s not unwell at all, and neither is anyone else in the house

25 week midwife appointment this morning - got to hear heartbeat which was lovely. Didn't expect how uncomfy the prodding would be though to work out which way up baby was! The wrong way around was the answer, but plenty of time for them to wriggle around to point the correct way. Finally got MATB1 as well so can follow up with HR.

Oh god I know it's dreadfully unpopular on here but we did a loose Gina Ford Contented Baby routine, although naps were out and about in buggy etc and we weren't rigid at all. Then we did a gentle sleep training at about 10-11 months. Our 19 month old has slept through for the best part of a year, and did five hour stretches from a few weeks old. Hoping it was the method and not a fluke 🙈 don't think I could cope with no sleep

Midwife last time didn’t seem remotely bothered about which way round the baby was and no prodding! She was quite cross that the hospital had scheduled extra scans though as apparently they’re “completely unnecessary” (not sure why they’d bother to schedule them in that case then! Not like I was asking for more of them.) Thankfully my usual one is much nicer!

@Gremlin84 ah that's annoying! My midwife was super gentle at my appointment and didn't seem bothered by exactly where baby was either as long as she got the heartbeat which she did! Much gentler than any scan people have been 😂😂

@WitcheryDivine it's so weird how everyone has an opinion of who should be doing what, like you say it's not like you're asking for extra, which of course they wouldn't give you even if you did ask!

@A1b2c3d4e5f6g7 im going to look up that method, sounds like it worked anyway!!

Haha yes that’s a really good point! “Oh hi can I have some extra scans? I can? Great thanks” 🤣

@Gremlin84 my midwife (she's semi retired so I kinda trust her as she's been doing it so long) wasn't bothered about which way round baby was. Got a nice strong heartbeat, and said although I'm measuring 2cm more than I technically should, my uterus is in the correct place so she isn't concerned about it at all.

Baby’s presentation doesn’t matter until 36weeks, but for the best attempt at finding baby’s HB quickly often need a bit of a prod.
you’ll find a range of practices among midwives, a lot of old school outdated stuff going on however 🥴

had newborn snuggles today 🥰 super cute

Feel really heavy today but it's probably because all im doing today is eating.
Unfortunately or luckily i don't have to worry about what way the baby is or will be because im having csection 😔

@suz2285 good luck for your scan.
@Mummyme87 hope your son feels better now.

Gosh, had our 25 week app yesterday and didn't even get to hear the heartbeat 😢 She said they don't like to do it as mothers get lazy not feeling for movements. Does everyone normally see the same midwife? I've never had the same one, get told every time my usual midwife isn't there but I don't think I've ever met her 🙈

Honestly this is really some anti-women shite isn't it. As if we aren't all lumbering around doing our best to gestate these kids and (for most) worrying if we don't feel them. Would love to hear who these supposed women are who are "too lazy" to feel for movements because they've heard a heartbeat, and how many of them they reckon there are proportionally.

Sometimes it seems to me that once you're pregnant it's just one long series of things you must or mustn't do and a general attitude that we can't have anything that might make this process easier/nicer, like for example the chance to actually hear your baby's heartbeat.

Sorry @Mummyme87 not having a dig at midwives at all, I've seen a few and they've all been lovely, helpful and caring except one. You can't have perfection in any profession can you. (And mine did let me hear the heartbeat as she realised it would make me less anxious and happier, which honestly is also important)

Also not having a dig at midwives here as my sister is one also, I'm finding the stricter ones seem to be the old timers I guess if it's not necessary they don't see the reason to but would of been nice.
Always next time, baby is deffo happy in there as I'm constantly getting kicks now 🥰

Thanks @LittleAlien24 baby didn't want his photo taken again, last time his hands were in his face, this time his legs! But we did see his chubby cheeks again, and all on track and he's quite heavy already 😂 but think that'll be our last private scan anyway

@Flossiepot that sucks, she doesn't sound very nice! I see the same one every time but I think it very much depends on your area and how busy/how many midwives there are! I also think some of them say things in a way they don't really mean cos
It's just day to day job for them but for us it's our baby in there!

Jealous of those of you getting to hear heart beats! At our trust they drop the 25 week appointment unless you're a FTM. Haven't seen mine since 16 weeks, due again at 29, which feels like an age away. (24weeks today)

How are those of you by SPD managing? I find mine is a lot worse as the day goes on. By this time of the evening literally ever movement/step is a struggle.

@Luhou i drove for 1hr 40 on two occasions today and I was bloody crippled when I got out the car. My pubic bone is taking a right battering. Feels like I’m constantly being kicked 🥴🥴