Anyone due in April 2024? #2

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I had an early scan this morning and had the same @CluelessInLondon. I'm 7+2 going by my LMP but measured 6+4. She said it's nothing to worry about as she saw a good strong heartbeat and she was struggling to get a really clear image due my gas (😳) and because my uterus is retroverted. I think my face fell when she said how it was measuring as she was really reassuring after it. She also said the early scans aren't reliable for dating as they are so small and essentially curled up. I'm going to focus on the fact it's in the right place, with a good heartbeat and hope for the best between now and the 12 week scan.

Thanks for sharing your experience @Bugdem123 - good to hear it's not that unusual and also great that you got to see a nice heartbeat! I've relaxed a bit more about it over the last few hours, there are so many things that could impact on the measurements at the moment and there's nothing I can really do about it so just thinking positive and keeping in mind that there was nothing specifically wrong and I haven't had any worrying symptoms either.

Hi all I’m due 14th April with #1.

Ive been trying for 4 years and have had failed ivf rounds and a miscarriage at 9 weeks. I can’t even put into words how desperately this baby is longed for.

Saw a heartbeat at 7 weeks.
Im now 8 weeks so it’s really tense times especially as I’m having some brown discharge. Googling obsessively😖

Morning everyone!
Im at the airport to go on holiday with my partner and his parents will be there and we keep joking that his parents will be asking what I want to drink and obviously I will not be drinking but I also don't want to tell anyone I'm pregnant because I'm worried something might happen ... I don't know how to get around this without just telling them anyway so they know lol .. I know they'll be very excited but has this happened to anyone else? 😅

Morning @Bexxy28 it’s a tricky one!! Could you maybe get your partner to have a quiet word with them that you have been trying and are just trying to stay off alcohol/caffeine etc just so they don’t ask?

Have a great holiday!

@Misty84 What a long journey for you to get to this point. From what I understand brown discharge can be really common and normal in early pregnancy but I can completely understand why after all this time you would be nervous about everything. Do you have any more additional scans now or are you waiting for 12 weeks?

@Bexxy28 The alcohol thing is probably one of the most frequent lies of early pregnancy. You could go for the classic 'can't drink I'm on antibiotics' excuse or you could make sure only you or DP get your drinks and get you something that looks like alcohol (a mocktail instead of a cocktail or lemonade instead of a g&t etc). Hope you have a great holiday!

@Misty84 congratulations and I’m so sorry to hear of your previous losses.
I really relate that these initial weeks are tough going but seeing a heartbeat is really positive.
How has it been looking overnight? It can be completely harmless but it’s difficult not to worry. You could even call epu just to get their advice and if another scan would be an option?

Thanks so much @sugarplum33 and @xxcxdonxx. Think my worry is that I saw a heartbeat last time at 7 weeks, and then brown blood started and I lost the baby at 9/10 weeks. So the 7 week scan this time didn’t have quite the same reassurance as last time, just due to that experience! But I know every pregnancy is different and this one could be ok🙏🙏 There is a bit first thing but I’ll keep a close eye on it for the rest of the day. My next scan is at 9 weeks (next Monday).

@Bexxy28 I would get mocktails or lime and soda (and pretend there’s vodka/gin in it). Having said that a whole holiday of keeping up that pretence and orchestrating who gets the drinks might be quite challenging!!! Or act as if you’re switching up getting alcoholic and nonalcoholic beverages for health reasons!

@Misty84 keeping everything crossed for you that everything is progressing exactly as it should this time 🙏

I’m 6+4 and have had some light brown spotting the last 24 hours and feel my symptoms are a bit milder. It’s really hard not to worry. I have a scan booked on Thursday.

Thanks @dory0 and I’m sorry to hear about your concerns- these early weeks are such an anxious time and the days DRAG waiting to get to the scans. Hoping for the best for you🙏

@Bexxy28 why not tell them? If things do go wrong, wouldnt they be a good source of support? Telling your in laws is not the same as announcing it to the world.

But if you dont want to, you can have your DH drinks your drinks, and get non alcoholic dupes, or say you are on metronidazole, for a gum infection, for instance (saying you are on antibiotics doesnt really cut it, it is too generic. You need a specific antibiotic for a specific situation, particularly because it isnt true that you cant drink on antibiotics. you can, on most of them)

@Misty84 Good luck for your next scan, hope it goes well and helps to put your mind at ease (a bit at least, I think it's really hard to relax in these early weeks!).

@Bexxy28 You could also try saying you've been under the weather and you're going really easy on the booze - wiped out by a stomach bug, bad cold, something like that and still not 100% better. Get a few alcoholic drinks but take tiny sips and then get your OH to take them off your hands.

@ASGIRC Unless they are medically trained or specifically knowledgable about antibiotics, I doubt they would have any clue which medications are used for which purposes and which can be taken alongside alcohol, I certainly wouldn't despite having taken different antibiotics myself. I don't think being vague is necessarily a bad thing. If somebody was deliberately vague about being on antibiotics I'd assume it was something private they didn't really want to discuss. If they were quite specific about a gum infection I'd be more likely to ask questions "Oh you poor thing, were you struggling to eat? When did you get unwell? You seemed okay the last time we saw you, you should have mentioned etc etc" then you need to spin a whole web of lies. So not saying that antibiotics is the best excuse in the world but sometimes a vague lie you don't elaborate on is better than having to make up a whole detailed story 🤣

@ASGIRC honestly, in my family, where there are some doctors, but most of the family isnt, we know that you can drink on most antibiotics and that there are only 3 types you cant.
If anyone tells me "oh I cant drink, Im on antibiotics", I will always say "oh, what kind? because theres only a couple you really cant drink on, most others are fine". Obviously, you get different responses to that, either "oh, I really dont want to drink, i dont feel great" or the "REALLY?!? Im on THIS type. Can I drink?!?!?!"
Also, particularly with family, if you say youre on antibiotics, you tend to have to follow it up with what is wrong. At least questions will be asked.
It is not a great excuse, in general, regardless.

@Bexxy28 i went on holiday with my partner’s in laws when I was 6 weeks. It was self catering which was lucky so we brought our own drink. I just got my own drinks/ partner did. Although it didn’t take long for them to cotton on I wasn’t drinking! In the end his dad was saying ‘I’ve put you another Heineken zero in the fridge’ But luckily they had more sense than to ask me why and just accepted it which I think is the decent thing to do. And I never offered an explanation either - you shouldn’t have to really!

I’m out. Went for a follow up early scan at what I should be 8+2 and baby hadn’t grown in the last 9 days, still measuring 5+5. Seems it’s a missed miscarriage. My heart is broken.
good luck to you all!

@ASGIRC We are all different I suppose but I'd find it rude if someone was questioning my medication and me not wanting to drink and would never be prying into what antibiotics someone was taking and whether or not they truly can drink. Knowing especially that antibiotics can be an excuse used in pregnancy, I would be very sensitive to anybody telling me they didn't want to drink and not question further. If you're around people with common sense and decent manners you really shouldn't have to be forging any lies and excuses anyway, there are so many reasons somebody might not want to drink and it really isn't anyone's place to question that further.

@Rosieposie0301 I'm so sorry 😢 I hope you have lots of support and please look after yourself x

@sugarplum33 but then you can just say you arent drinking.
People ask questions. it is human nature. And were not talking about complete strangers. Yes, that would be rude and weird. This is family. Family asks whats going on, if you tell them youre ill and taking antibiotics!
Its not "prying". It is caring. it is sympathy. It is looking after you.

We clearly have very different experiences, because I cant imagine someone telling me theyre taking antibiotics or that theyre not well, and me not inquiring further about it, to check on them!

@Rosieposie0301 Im so sorry... Please take care and be kind to yourself.

@Rosieposie0301 So sorry to hear this, take care of yourself.

@Rosieposie0301 I’m so sorry that’s really sad. Sending a hug xxx

@Rosieposie0301 so sorry to hear this and for what you are going through 💔 sending you so much love xxx

Thank you all so much for taking the time to reply. It’s really appreciated. I am going to just take time to try accept what is happening and I am hoping it passes itself. If not I have to go back next week and decide what to do.

So very very sorry @Rosieposie0301. Take the best care of yourself 💔